Coming Out: The Thread (Continued)

[Fuzzy Alien]

I really love this idea Guess it might be easier that telling in person.
Would they take it better this way or if you told them?

Well, making it "easy" isn't really a concern, because I don't see it as something that needs to be "broken" to them easily. To be all dramatic about it by figuratively sitting them down would be hypocritical on my part since I don't believe homosexuals should be treated differently just because of who they are. Sometimes I do think gays should put the truth about themselves right out there without any rhetoric; I strongly believe that homosexual couples should not be afraid to display affection publicly because that is the only way that society can change. If a photograph incites a negative reaction then perhaps the parent will eventually recognize that as a shortcoming in themselves and amend it, and they will if they genuinely love their child.

*steps off soapbox*

[full-on-zombie]

I never hid it. I was one of those people that was "born gay"...falling into stereotypes such as playing with dinosaurs instead of Barbies, trying on daddy's clothes instead of mommy's, watching Alien instead of chick flicks (me having a female body).

What bothered me is that people don't view being gay/bi/pan as normal, so they feel they have to "come out". Straight people don't have to hide being straight, so why should gay people have to hide being gay?

The answer is obvious: Society.

However, that was always the philosophy I lived by....so my parents knew since ever without me having to tell them. When I got my first girlfriend, it was just like "Oh, hey, I'm going out with my girlfriend now."

"Alright."....well, that is coming from my mom...while my dad does hate me for me...but that's another story.

[leon]

I've decided to come out to my parents by emailing them a photo of me hugging a guy whenever I manage to find a boyfriend. Epic way to do it?

I'd say make it a kiss or something, my parents wouldn't even flinch if they saw me hugging another guy, but swappin spit? They'd get the idea.

[Bloodshot_Eyes]

I'd say make it a kiss or something, my parents wouldn't even flinch if they saw me hugging another guy, but swappin spit? They'd get the idea.

I don't get it. What would swapping spit imply? :V

[Fuzzy Alien]

I don't get it. What would swapping spit imply? :V

That "We're here and we're queer! Get used to it"? XD

[Bloodshot_Eyes]

That "We're here and we're queer! Get used to it"? XD

I'm like, half gay. Does that count?

[Fuzzy Alien]

I'm like, half gay. Does that count?

Sure. Anything that defies dominant social norms regarding gender roles and behavior can be considered "queer."

[Bloodshot_Eyes]

Sure. Anything that defies dominant social norms regarding gender roles and behavior can be considered "queer."

Yay, I'm fuckin' the system!!!
*throws Molotov*

[Fuzzy Alien]

Yay, I'm fuckin' the system!!!
*throws Molotov*

Fight the powah!

[Miumaru]

I never hid it. I was one of those people that was "born gay"...falling into stereotypes such as playing with dinosaurs instead of Barbies, trying on daddy's clothes instead of mommy's, watching Alien instead of chick flicks (me having a female body).

What bothered me is that people don't view being gay/bi/pan as normal, so they feel they have to "come out". Straight people don't have to hide being straight, so why should gay people have to hide being gay?

The answer is obvious: Society.

However, that was always the philosophy I lived by....so my parents knew since ever without me having to tell them. When I got my first girlfriend, it was just like "Oh, hey, I'm going out with my girlfriend now."

"Alright."....well, that is coming from my mom...while my dad does hate me for me...but that's another story.

Thats how I feel about it. Once coming out as gay (or anything else) is not a big deal anymore will we know society has accepted us. And the opposite type TG as me too. Funny. :P

Apparently my family suspected, but never said anything to me. Im out to most of my family, but not my brother or step-dad yet. Kinda annoys me they never confronted me though. If they had, though by force I may have been out years earlier, and that would mean transitioning would well...have happened by now. I'd atleast have a larger wardrobe of clothes I actually enjoy wearing. (Its limited atm due to lack of money, figures Im out when we become poor)

[Stargazer Bleu]

Well, making it "easy" isn't really a concern, because I don't see it as something that needs to be "broken" to them easily. To be all dramatic about it by figuratively sitting them down would be hypocritical on my part since I don't believe homosexuals should be treated differently just because of who they are. Sometimes I do think gays should put the truth about themselves right out there without any rhetoric; I strongly believe that homosexual couples should not be afraid to display affection publicly because that is the only way that society can change. If a photograph incites a negative reaction then perhaps the parent will eventually recognize that as a shortcoming in themselves and amend it, and they will if they genuinely love their child.

*steps off soapbox*

A part of it is most people are not used to seeing it. If homosexual couples started being less shy in public it might be possible to be more accepted in time.

The more people are used to seeing things the less they pay attention to them. Of course it would take time, just have to step up and take action. Now only if most of us could start doing this, even if only in small steps.

[Fuzzy Alien]

A part of it is most people are not used to seeing it. If homosexual couples started being less shy in public it might be possible to be more accepted in time.

The more people are used to seeing things the less they pay attention to them. Of course it would take time, just have to step up and take action. Now only if most of us could start doing this, even if only in small steps.

This. This a million times.

[HAXX]

Why should we have to know about your sex life or your personal decisions?

I hate people when they flaunt any relationship.

[Fuzzy Alien]

Why should we have to know about your sex life or your personal decisions?

I hate people when they flaunt any relationship.

Coming out isn't flaunting.

[BroadSmak]

I'm thinking it might be easier to not "come out" at all, just start being bisexual without telling anyone.. sort of, know what I mean?
Like.. get a boyfriend and change the relationship status..
Then just tell people it should've been obvious if they ask.

Yeah.
Nice.

[Darkwing]

I'm thinking it might be easier to not "come out" at all, just start being bisexual without telling anyone.. sort of, know what I mean?
Like.. get a boyfriend and change the relationship status..
Then just tell people it should've been obvious if they ask.

Yeah.
Nice.

Wow, that's actually a pretty cool idea.

[Tao]

I'm thinking about telling my parents that I'm bi. My dad wouldn't care that much, he's really nice, but my mother... She wouldn't get angry, but she'd try to "embrace" the gay part by buying me short shorts, pink clothes, etc.

She terrifies me.

[Kanin]

I'm thinking about telling my parents that I'm bi. My dad wouldn't care that much, he's really nice, but my mother... She wouldn't get angry, but she'd try to "embrace" the gay part by buying me short shorts, pink clothes, etc.

She terrifies me.

Lol. XD

[Darkwing]

I'm thinking about telling my parents that I'm bi. My dad wouldn't care that much, he's really nice, but my mother... She wouldn't get angry, but she'd try to "embrace" the gay part by buying me short shorts, pink clothes, etc.

She terrifies me.

What.

I remember you saying earlier that you were straight

[Browder]

What.

I remember you saying earlier that you were straight

Furry forum, remember?

[Tao]

What.

I remember you saying earlier that you were straight

This forum is growing on me like a fungus. But no really, I meant that I'm not a flamboyant gay.

[BroadSmak]

I'm thinking about telling my parents that I'm bi. My dad wouldn't care that much, he's really nice, but my mother... She wouldn't get angry, but she'd try to "embrace" the gay part by buying me short shorts, pink clothes, etc.

She terrifies me.

I think my mom would do that too.. I think she always wanted a daughter, which is probably why she is turning one of my brothers into a girl, sort of.
He's out picking flowers with his doll.

[Stargazer Bleu]

I'm thinking about telling my parents that I'm bi. My dad wouldn't care that much, he's really nice, but my mother... She wouldn't get angry, but she'd try to "embrace" the gay part by buying me short shorts, pink clothes, etc.

She terrifies me.

I know my mom would of done this too if she knew i was Bi.
One of my half brothers was gay. She did stuff like this for him, but he was fully gay and not just bi tho.
Kind of scarry when have a parrent like this.


My dad dosent care either wayas long as im happy.

Most relitives on the other hand....

[Fenrir Lupus]

Isn't there a sticky in the den that completely rails on "coming out" because you can't come out as having a hobby? I like that thread more.

[yummynbeefy]

wow i must be like the luckiest kid in the world if i told my parents that i was bi or gay they wouldnt care they both already know im furry and they were like "oh well thats cool its your life you can do what you want with it" they are soooo supportive of me