Coming Out: The Thread (Continued)

[FallenGlory]

i'm kind of on the fence here about how/if I should come out to my parents. my friends already know im bi and are OK with it, kind of skeptical at first, but i'm not sure how my parents would react. i know that if i choose to come out, it'll be soon (like, maybe within this month hopefully). got any advice for me, faf? i'd really appreaciate it. thanks :3

[Discord Nova]

Im Bi and im totally scared of coming out in fear of my over-religious parents denying me. Then again im only 14 so i might want to wait...

[Darkwing]

Im Bi and im totally scared of coming out in fear of my over-religious parents denying me. Then again im only 14 so i might want to wait...

Do you know for sure that your parents are homophobic? Or are you just assuming because they're religious?

My parents and most of my family are a tad religious, but as far as I know, a lot of them accept/don't care about gays and stuff. You'd be surprised.

[Discord Nova]

Im sort of religious myself, but ever since i heard my mom said "God Hates Fags" i almost cried. It hurts more when i have to go to religious school chock-FULL of homophobes.

[Darkwing]

Im sort of religious myself, but ever since i heard my mom said "God Hates Fags" i almost cried. It hurts more when i have to go to religious school chock-FULL of homophobes.

Ooh. Then you may want to refrain from coming out D:

I know how it feels, having to keep this whole thing a secret, it's pretty hard. I've never had a girlfriend so that leads to a lot of people questioning my sexuality already. (And I don't want to force myself to have a girlfriend, that's just wrong.)

As for homophobes, ignore them. As long as they don't know that you're bi they won't harm you. If you argue with them they'll think you're gay. It's a really ignorant mindset, it's pretty aggravating but there's always ignorant people in the world that you have to deal with.

Also, another note, make sure to read the OP (Original Post) of this thread. It's very helpful.

[Ieatcrackersandjumpcliffs]

Ooh. Then you may want to refrain from coming out D:

I know how it feels, having to keep this whole thing a secret, it's pretty hard. I've never had a girlfriend so that leads to a lot of people questioning my sexuality already. (And I don't want to force myself to have a girlfriend, that's just wrong.)

As for homophobes, ignore them. As long as they don't know that you're bi they won't harm you. If you argue with them they'll think you're gay. It's a really ignorant mindset, it's pretty aggravating but there's always ignorant people in the world that you have to deal with.

Also, another note, make sure to read the OP (Original Post) of this thread. It's very helpful.

Do what you feel you should do. You don't have to prove yourself to anyone for any reason. No one deserves appeasement. That goes for gay haters and gays themselves. It will be tough. I'm not sure if you're still on the conservative side, but if you are, then you have a long, hard road ahead of you. The Right will hate you for what you are and the Left will hate you for what you believe, and if you can endure that hardship, then you will come out on top as an individual.

[Discord Nova]

I may be religious but my mom is just OVERLY religious. Oh well haters gonna hate. Itd probably be worse for me to come out because i like guys ALOT more and my mom would probably take it as being TOTALLY gay... I hate being 14.

[Darkwing]

Do what you feel you should do. You don't have to prove yourself to anyone for any reason. No one deserves appeasement. That goes for gay haters and gays themselves. It will be tough. I'm not sure if you're still on the conservative side, but if you are, then you have a long, hard road ahead of you. The Right will hate you for what you are and the Left will hate you for what you believe, and if you can endure that hardship, then you will come out on top as an individual.

Wow, thanks crackers. I'll keep that in mind

As for my political beliefs, they are very inbetween, leaning more to the right though. I'm neutral enough to make right-wingers call me a complete sinner and left-wingers to call me a war mongering pig. Though I find U.S politics to be pretty stupid anyways since most arguments are so emotionally charged and heavily bias :I

[Discord Nova]

Itll actually be worse to come out since im actually gay/bi-curious more than anything... so my mom would lose her f'n mind

[Grey Wolverine]

I don't know if I am gay or not, sometimes I think I am and other times, its just kinda there. Its still there usually, but I don't know if its hormones or if I may be gay/bi or something.

[Mokushi]

I am sorry to say I have to come out... I used to be catholic. *GASP*

I am so ashamed I used to have faith but... its okay now I became Agnostic.

[Discord Nova]

Ok then Ace... YOU SHALL BURN IN HELL!!!!! Just kidding, but um... what the fuck?!

[Mokushi]

Ok then Ace... YOU SHALL BURN IN HELL!!!!! Just kidding, but um... what the fuck?!

The joke is that I am a non-gay member.

[Grey Wolverine]

Dont be ashamed, just be yourself. More people need to just be themselves, yes I believe in individualism.

[Milo]

The joke is that I am a non-gay member.

we got it, after the THOUSANDTH GOD DAMN TIME D:<

[Discord Nova]

Im technically gay, but if i came out id be on the fucking street... damn bigots...

[Darkwing]

I don't know if I am gay or not, sometimes I think I am and other times, its just kinda there. Its still there usually, but I don't know if its hormones or if I may be gay/bi or something.

Sorry to break it to you, but really, most of the time it's not x.x

I've been in the same place as you as well. In the end I turned out to be gay. I'm not saying that it can't be hormones, but most of the time I don't think it's "just hormones".

I'd say, give yourself a week to think about weather you're straight/bi/gay whatever, in the end, if you still have feelings for guys, you're probably gay/bi.

[Kryn]

Well really, those hormones would create feelings for other people regardless of your orientation. Hormones don't make you gay/bi/straight they just make your horny. If you happen to be feeling attracted to people of the same sex period, you're probably gay.

[Mokushi]

we got it, after the THOUSANDTH GOD DAMN TIME D:<

I had to crack it again for old times sake.

[Lemoncholic]

Sorry to break it to you, but really, most of the time it's not x.x

I've been in the same place as you as well. In the end I turned out to be gay. I'm not saying that it can't be hormones, but most of the time I don't think it's "just hormones".

I'd say, give yourself a week to think about weather you're straight/bi/gay whatever, in the end, if you still have feelings for guys, you're probably gay/bi.

I oughta spank yo' ass fo' that.

[Discord Nova]

Itd be a pain in the ass to come out as gay to my parents, theyd treat me like dirt

[CynicalCirno]

Im technically gay, but if i came out id be on the fucking street... damn bigots...

What's "Technically gay"?

I am attracted to women but I WATCH PENIS ALL DAY LONG AND I LOVE THE JIZZ. I LOVE WOMEN WITH PENIS TOO.

[Discord Nova]

Im totally gay, its just my way of talking sucks sometimes

[Darkwing]

I oughta spank yo' ass fo' that.

;3

Itd be a pain in the ass to come out as gay to my parents, theyd treat me like dirt

Then don't. It's really not hard keeping it a secret at first, before people start noticing that you lack interest in girls, I've had people question me before because of that D:

But who knows, maybe your parents will love you, no matter what you are.

[Spatel]

I'd say, give yourself a week to think about weather you're straight/bi/gay whatever, in the end, if you still have feelings for guys, you're probably gay/bi.

If you're bi, I think it'll take more than a week.

That's the thing about being bi. You never really know. Your attraction to your non-preferred sex sometimes isn't straightforward.