Coming Out: The Thread (Continued)

[Spatel]

I never had a "brids and the bees" talk, dating advice, or even a question about why I'm 23 and never had a girlfriend. From neither of my parents actually. I think she knows I'm gay and too afraid to ask.

It is common for straight men to lose their virginity late, particularly if they are nerds. Mid-to-late 20s is becoming increasingly common, thanks to the internet, and the economy, and some other cultural dynamics. If nobody is suspicious you're 23 and still single it's because it isn't really that suspicious.

Iknow what you meani've always been raised to be homophobic ive always had homophobic friends, im Catholic and Texan and i dont ant to admit it to myself but i think im bisexual, i mean ive never been attracted to guys ive always gotten aroused by women but lets jus say ive done stuff with two friends of mine who are boys (nothing anal), i enjoy gay porn, ive never had agirlfriend; i dont know why ivenever been truely aroused by a boy but some how the things just happened with my two closest friends more than once to be specicfic, no offense to any homosexuals or bisexuals out there but i dont want to be bisexual.

Not wanting to be bisexual pretty much proves you are. Welcome to the club. Get your spandex and your guitar, you've got a bright career in glam rock ahead of you.

[JArt.]

Not wanting to be bisexual pretty much proves you are. Welcome to the club. Get your spandex and your guitar, you've got a bright career in glam rock ahead of you.

Heh; you're joking right im anything but Bi i just find normal porn "boring" that dosent mean anything and those things i did,didn't even enjoy still don't enjoy it its nothing just some sort of 5-year phase im sure it will be over my senoir yearof high school

[Criminal Scum]

Heh; you're joking right im anything but Bi i just find normal porn "boring" that dosent mean anything and those things i did,didn't even enjoy still don't enjoy it its nothing just some sort of 5-year phase im sure it will be over my senoir yearof high school

I'm pretty sure phases don't last five years.​

[Bipolar Bear]

I'm Bisexual. I don't know, but for some reason I just love both genders in each and every way. It also leaves more flexibility in who I can pick.

[Spatel]

Heh; you're joking right im anything but Bi i just find normal porn "boring" that dosent mean anything and those things i did,didn't even enjoy still don't enjoy it its nothing just some sort of 5-year phase im sure it will be over my senoir yearof high school

Most straight guys don't watch gay porn because they find straight porn "boring". Most bisexuals don't find straight porn boring either. Just putting things into perspective for ya. You were raised in a homophobic environment, in Texas no less. I think that's messing with your judgment.

And not enjoying the first couple sexual experiences is normal. It's awkward regardless of sexuality.

[JArt.]

Most straight guys don't watch gay porn because they find straight porn "boring". Most bisexuals don't find straight porn boring either. Just putting things into perspective for ya. You were raised in a homophobic environment, in Texas no less. I think that's messing with your judgment.

And not enjoying the first couple sexual experiences is normal. It's awkward regardless of sexuality.

I think i need just stay away from my friends for a while and talk to girls more then everything will be fine it was nothing gay i just got too conntected to them and i think it'd be better if i just not talk to them.

[Kosdu]

Well, I'm sure I'm bi.

Very picky though.....

[Yago]

Well, I'm sure I'm bi.

Very picky though.....

How that thing with your father go? (Not to get off topic, but you said he might find out, that he was cool with it, what about the forums blah blah.)

[Kosdu]

Ah, one post off topic will be fine.


It went okay, he didn't found out I was flirting with an older guy. That is what I'd worried about.
I didn't have to explain the forums or PM people on here. I may have to if he walks in when I am PM'ing. He's worried about pedophiles....... he is worried someone will track my IP..... really, dad?
He tries to be understanding etc., but he doesn't understand me talking to people I don't know in RL or how social I am.


I'm not sure how I'd hook up with someone in RL though =/

[Yago]

Ah, one post off topic will be fine.


It went okay, he didn't found out I was flirting with an older guy. That is what I'd worried about.
I didn't have to explain the forums or PM people on here. I may have to if he walks in when I am PM'ing. He's worried about pedophiles....... he is worried someone will track my IP..... really, dad?
He tries to be understanding etc., but he doesn't understand me talking to people I don't know in RL or how social I am.


I'm not sure how I'd hook up with someone in RL though =/

More of my friends I've met online than offline. Well, actually they are equal. But I spend all my time online with my friends either way. The statistical probability of pedophiles lurking is so low. Not to say I feel immune because of it. But I'll take a minor gamble. I'm almost eighteen and intelligent enough to handle myself.

[Yago]

EDIT: HOW DID THIS DOUBLE POST SO FAR APART?

Sorry. Not sure what happened.

[JArt.]

Well, I'm sure I'm bi.

Very picky though.....

Glad you could realise the true you in themean while i have some soul searchign to do, but first i need to download some songs to accompany my walk.

[Ulma]

Bisexual.

Mostly nonsexual.
Its a rare thing for me to be attracted to someone, and for me to take that anywhere is an even rarer occurrence.
Wish it weren't so...

[JArt.]

Ive decided to come to terms with the fact that i am bisexual, and now i feel much better.

[BusiSussie]

I'm like this!

[Kahoku]

I'm like this!

like what?

[Criminal Scum]

Has this happened to anyone: the closer you get to coming out, the more you hear (particularly stinging) gay jokes or conversations about gays?
Hurts, man. :c

[Lunar]

Today my mom was telling me, "Now, honey, when you start this new job, don't go telling everyone you're gay." Yes, because I have absolutely no class and really want everyone at work to know about my personal life.

[Criminal Scum]

Today my mom was telling me, "Now, honey, when you start this new job, don't go telling everyone you're gay." Yes, because I have absolutely no class and really want everyone at work to know about my personal life.

If she knows you're a furry, then that would explain it. :V

[Kryn]

It is common for straight men to lose their virginity late, particularly if they are nerds. Mid-to-late 20s is becoming increasingly common, thanks to the internet, and the economy, and some other cultural dynamics. If nobody is suspicious you're 23 and still single it's because it isn't really that suspicious.

Well I'm not a virgin, my parents wouldn't know that though. I think you're right though, even my homophobic coworkers are convinced I'm straight. And I don't even attempt to convince them I am. I never fake it and talk about all the hot girls at school or bullshit like that. I even get the odd "at least you're not gay!" or similar comment every once in awhile. Just makes me wanna scream "I LIKE DICK DAMNIT!"

[Magick]

I never really had an issue with coming out, mainly because I never made a big deal out of it or made a formal declaration of it. My friends were surprisingly okay with it, they're the kinds of guys who just don't really care about that sort of thing, I guess it helps that I don't draw much attention to myself in the first place and look kinda intimidating (Dark colors, sunglasses and/or military style hat, normal expression looks sad and angry most of the time).

[Bipolar Bear]

Today my mom was telling me, "Now, honey, when you start this new job, don't go telling everyone you're gay." Yes, because I have absolutely no class and really want everyone at work to know about my personal life.

Actually, those are the kind of people I personally hate. People who boast about their sexuality and make it a big deal, so that they'll get noticed. How I came out of the closest was that I just kissed my Boyfriend on the lips when I went home that day. Then I came back a day later, and everyone was like 'OMG, YOU KISSED A GUY! ARE YOU GAY? OMG WE'RE SO PROUD OF YOU!' I couldn't really care less. But then I just told them I was Bisexual and that got them to shut up. l=P

[Yago]

Actually, those are the kind of people I personally hate. People who boast about their sexuality and make it a big deal, so that they'll get noticed. How I came out of the closest was that I just kissed my Boyfriend on the lips when I went home that day. Then I came back a day later, and everyone was like 'OMG, YOU KISSED A GUY! ARE YOU GAY? OMG WE'RE SO PROUD OF YOU!' I couldn't really care less. But then I just told them I was Bisexual and that got them to shut up. l=P

I KNOW! I hate it when people use sexuality as some attention getter. God. My high-school and it's "bisexuals" pfft.They are such posers. Totally ruin it for us. Second they get attention about it, gets all shy and claims it wasn't real and they were wrong. ugh.

[Bipolar Bear]

I KNOW! I hate it when people use sexuality as some attention getter. God. My high-school and it's "bisexuals" pfft.They are such posers. Totally ruin it for us. Second they get attention about it, gets all shy and claims it wasn't real and they were wrong. ugh.

Permission to Face-nuke?

[Criminal Scum]

I'm about to come out to one of my friends via text (like a bitch). I'm almost positive she'll take it well (I think she has gay friends), but I can hardly bring myself to press 'send' and start the conversation.

Wish me luck. :I