Coming Out: The Thread (Continued)

[Dragonfurry]

Not really that big of a coming out story for me. So basically about a week and a half ago I told my friends I was bisexual when they were asking me who i was going out with. Told them I am going out with a dude and they seemed a bit surprised and I expected my best friend to be a bit homophobic since he had that kinda attitude for a bit but I was surprised that they were cool with it. Though the real problem will be telling my parents if it ever comes to that and I dont really plan on telling them what I like in bed because honestly it is none of their business. Also my parents are homophobes and devout Christian's so I dont really want to tell them but honestly i am giving less and less shits on what my parents think anymore since I am getting closer to the magic number 18. Idk I guess I will have to see where this whole thing takes me.

[Kosdu]

Good luck, Dragonfurry =)




I'm going to come out to a couple of my homophobic friends this summer, ought to be fun. I will see if they are truly my friends.
=P



My Mom still thinks I might just be in a bi-curious phase, I'm not. Massive faggot, indeed.

[The Wretched Automatons]

I for one am bisexual. I haven't told anyone I know, because I don't particularly see the point. I don't know any other guys I'm particularly attracted to at the moment, so until I actually get a boyfriend, I don't think there's really much point in bothering with announcing anything to my parents or friends.

[Criminal Scum]

I just came out (for the first time irl) to one of my friends. It went really well. Oh god I'm still so nervous about it. Now I need to figure out my next victim, but not before I sleep. Holy crap.

[Kosdu]

Okay... so told my female friend in school and she was chill with it.
Got a little weird when I said don't mention it anyone she was like "Why would I say that to people......?"



I've told two of my friends I'm bi, and like/have drawn yiff. Straight guys, they were chill with me.
One is like a bro, the other was a good friend but we hadn't talked in years, excpet when we met by chance in driving school.

Going to come out to my homophobe friends in person this Summer.


Hell, I think I'll just tell people if they ask. It's liberating.

Plus, I need a boyfriend =P






I might start acting a bit camp, to get picked up by agydars. Not femme (may have the wrong def of camp), but just... availible.


This is going well ^.^

[Yago]

That's great news Kosdu. Yeah, it's really liberating to tell someone.

I about died when I told my best friend, but he was REALLY cool with it. We made some jokes about it, and to this day both ways style comments gets both of us snickering since I'm bisexual.

As for yiff, that's all interesting, I suppose. Some of the arts ok.

Careful with the gaydars-- just don't change who you really are or whatever to get noticed by them. I could go out and act all gay to get a boyfriend (Which would be pretty damn sweet atm) but I'm not really flamboyant or anything in the least so I don't plan on acting it.

[Spatel]

Gay men have the earrings, the v-neck shirts, and the colorful aviators if they want to look obvious. I wish there were a way to signal that you were bisexual, because I'd do that so hard. Unfortunately other than listening to Tool and being a furry I don't know any major signs that could tip people off. There is an artsy look that suggests the possibility, but it suggests artiness more than it does any sort of sexuality. Acting gay would alienate the ladies, and acting straight would alienate the fellas, and saying "I'm bisexual" all the goddamn time would get you kicked in the face. It's a difficult razor's edge to walk.

We should all just agree on something and start doing that from now on and make it ours. That will be our thing.

[Dragonfurry]

Well yesterday my parents found out I am bisexual yesterday. They said many hurtful things and I did too last night. But eventually after the emotional part was over we had a talk and they accepted me for what I am. I am glad that is out of the way but it was really tough last night. Well not as dramatic a coming out story as others but hey at least its over for the most part for me.

[Yago]

Well yesterday my parents found out I am bisexual yesterday. They said many hurtful things and I did too last night. But eventually after the emotional part was over we had a talk and they accepted me for what I am. I am glad that is out of the way but it was really tough last night. Well not as dramatic a coming out story as others but hey at least its over for the most part for me.

It's sad, I hope they really are over it and things don't get bad for you. People tend to have habits of saying they've accepted you but not really done so. Empty words and all that. But I hope for your sake it really is fixed ^^. How'd they find out?

[Rockyusa]

Originally, I never had any real attractions. I made excuses to my friends and family, saying I had a crush on X or Y just to push them off, but I never really had a care. Nothing specific about women interested me, and I generally thought of them as equals rather than sexual partners, potential mates or "That girl with the tits". Being extremely timid, socially awkward and generally submissive I'm not much of an assertive guy, never had those thoughts. Eventually, I just started looking at guys in that way. I was scared enough about sexual activities in general, but this really hit me hard. I did get through it with experiences involving grief, bargaining, depression and I've ultimately come to accept my sexuality. After that, I figured it'd be a good idea to come out to someone that I really trusted.
I honestly feel terrible. Not because I've been rejected, but because I've been very lucky so far. My best friend had quickly accepted me, never bringing it up but always supporting whatever I did. Other friends had also said it didn't mean anything to them and it didn't change who I was. Though rumors went around and still do, I've had no issues dealing with that. Family would be next and then I'm home free. I do believe that I'm quite fortunate to have this situation, but I feel terrible that this type of reaction seems like a fantasy to some people who may have it worse.

[Dragonfurry]

It's sad, I hope they really are over it and things don't get bad for you. People tend to have habits of saying they've accepted you but not really done so. Empty words and all that. But I hope for your sake it really is fixed ^^. How'd they find out?

They were on my computer and reading some of my convos when I fell asleep in front of my computer.

[Rockyusa]

They were on my computer and reading some of my convos when I fell asleep in front of my computer.

Sucks man. When I'm up late, I'm pretty paranoid they'll peak and see something they wish they hadn't.

[Kosdu]

Gay men have the earrings, the v-neck shirts, and the colorful aviators if they want to look obvious. I wish there were a way to signal that you were bisexual, because I'd do that so hard. Unfortunately other than listening to Tool and being a furry I don't know any major signs that could tip people off. There is an artsy look that suggests the possibility, but it suggests artiness more than it does any sort of sexuality. Acting gay would alienate the ladies, and acting straight would alienate the fellas, and saying "I'm bisexual" all the goddamn time would get you kicked in the face. It's a difficult razor's edge to walk.

We should all just agree on something and start doing that from now on and make it ours. That will be our thing.

Actually, I think I have some V-neck shirts around here somewhere......
Honestly, I just want a guy. Not even going to try with the gals. I
'm not femme or flameboyant, but I still want to set off those gay-dars.

@Rocky

Don't feel terrible, just try to help those not so fortunate.

[Yago]

Well I'd probably give you a chance Kosdu :P but you're like 8 billion states away.

Yeah, you could just hit on dudes, that tends to get people to notice (though you will offend some idiots).

As for Dragonfurry, that just plain sucks.

I have 100% complete and total unrestricted non-monitored access on the computer. I'm insanely lucky, in that regard.

[Spatel]

They were on my computer and reading some of my convos when I fell asleep in front of my computer.

That's terrifying. That's the worst possible way for them to find out really. Not the time of your choosing

I hope it works out. My mother had a really tough time when I came out about a year ago. She got better though. She tries. Coming out is one thing, but Parents tend to think bisexual kids are just being attention whores. Actually bringing a boyfriend home is another ballgame. When they see that you're sincere about it, and it isn't going to change, then they realize they have an adjustment to make. If they really love you, then it'll be fine.

[Kangaroo_Boy]

Gay men have the earrings, the v-neck shirts, and the colorful aviators if they want to look obvious. I wish there were a way to signal that you were bisexual, because I'd do that so hard. Unfortunately other than listening to Tool and being a furry I don't know any major signs that could tip people off. There is an artsy look that suggests the possibility, but it suggests artiness more than it does any sort of sexuality. Acting gay would alienate the ladies, and acting straight would alienate the fellas, and saying "I'm bisexual" all the goddamn time would get you kicked in the face. It's a difficult razor's edge to walk.

We should all just agree on something and start doing that from now on and make it ours. That will be our thing.

Personally, I've never had this problem about being bi. I don't go with some code thing (though I do like v-neck shirts, but that's personal taste), I just go about my day doing what I do, and get attention from men and women alike. Though the start of my last relationship was pretty funny in this respect. We both tiptoed about hitting on each other, because neither one of us couldn't tell whether or not either one of us were interested. After a talk over the phone, we both found that the other was bi. It was a pretty awkward, but funny month of having that going on. Shame he turned out to be some fickle prick that couldn't even take the time to dump me properly.

So anyway, a couple coming out tales.
About a year ago, I was still pretty well rooted in the closet about myself IRL. It had gotten to the point of giving me severe depression. A friend of mine noticed and asked me what was wrong. I mustered up some courage, and told him. Well, let's just say that night didn't end too well for me.
Another time, just in January I was at a party. Played a couple rounds of King's Cup and got real chummy with a friend of a friend. Many drinks later, him and I are snuggling on the couch drunk off our asses when my friend walks by and sees us. He looks at us in a bit of surprise, namely because it was me doing this and says something about being surprised of me. All I manage to slur is "Hey man, I'm an equal opportunity lover." He looks, eyes a little glazed, and laughs. "Yeah, that does sound a lot like you."

[Yago]

Personally, I've never had this problem about being bi. I don't go with some code thing (though I do like v-neck shirts, but that's personal taste), I just go about my day doing what I do, and get attention from men and women alike. Though the start of my last relationship was pretty funny in this respect. We both tiptoed about hitting on each other, because neither one of us couldn't tell whether or not either one of us were interested. After a talk over the phone, we both found that the other was bi. It was a pretty awkward, but funny month of having that going on. Shame he turned out to be some fickle prick that couldn't even take the time to dump me properly.

So anyway, a couple coming out tales.
About a year ago, I was still pretty well rooted in the closet about myself IRL. It had gotten to the point of giving me severe depression. A friend of mine noticed and asked me what was wrong. I mustered up some courage, and told him. Well, let's just say that night didn't end too well for me.
Another time, just in January I was at a party. Played a couple rounds of King's Cup and got real chummy with a friend of a friend. Many drinks later, him and I are snuggling on the couch drunk off our asses when my friend walks by and sees us. He looks at us in a bit of surprise, namely because it was me doing this and says something about being surprised of me. All I manage to slur is "Hey man, I'm an equal opportunity lover." He looks, eyes a little glazed, and laughs. "Yeah, that does sound a lot like you."

How did that night you mentioned not end well, if you don't' mind elaborating. Personally, I think it'd be kinda nice to tell people I'm bisexual without actually doing so. There's this incredibly attractive guy in my highschool who acts incredibly effeminate. I think he's gay or at least bisexual, but there's no way to know and I can't directly ask. :\

As for me, I don't think I'll come out to anyone. I'd like to hit on dudes every now and again (since, apparently, I'm an incredibly flirty person with the ladies, or so I'm told). But I can't, because although I wouldn't mind if my peers had more reason to hate me, it might make things a bit more difficult, and as I live with an incredibly homophobic burn-gays-at-stake stepfather I really don't think it'd be the best situation should he somehow find out, and my peers could very well be a portal to that.

[Kangaroo_Boy]

How did that night you mentioned not end well, if you don't' mind elaborating.

I got my ass kicked. Floored with one to the face, then a couple kicks to the ribs after I was down. And that's all I'm going to say about it.

[Yago]

I got my ass kicked. Floored with one to the face, then a couple kicks to the ribs after I was down. And that's all I'm going to say about it.

Yeouch . Sorry about that. No problem, thank you for elaborating.

[Spatel]

I got my ass kicked. Floored with one to the face, then a couple kicks to the ribs after I was down. And that's all I'm going to say about it.

That sounds terrible. That drives home the need to have some sort of code, I think. Even though it's somewhat unrelated.

[Ad Hoc]

Acting gay would alienate the ladies, and acting straight would alienate the fellas

Solution: Alternate night-by-night. :V

[SIX]

Okay, wow. :3


So I had a friend visit over the weekend. Not the campest gay friend imaginable, though, pretty clingy and affectionate; this morning, I just got blunt asked about his sexuality and then mine.

Twas my New Years resolution to come out by September and I decided to say fuck it and told my mom I'm bisexual [lol, I'm gay as fuck].

She's crying. Dropped the whole "unnatural", "unlikeable", "I don't want to hear about it", ad hominems and also the stereotype about gays regarding casual sex, following on from "you're not camp you can't be gay" e.t.c e.t.c...


Anyway, my dad doesn't know yet, and I trust he'd be worse. I'm keeping my Ruger close to hand and might have to leave for a few days. Heehee, sexuality is fun.

[Spatel]

Okay, wow. :3


So I had a friend visit over the weekend. Not the campest gay friend imaginable, though, pretty clingy and affectionate; this morning, I just got blunt asked about his sexuality and then mine.

Twas my New Years resolution to come out by September and I decided to say fuck it and told my mom I'm bisexual [lol, I'm gay as fuck].

She's crying. Dropped the whole "unnatural", "unlikeable", "I don't want to hear about it", ad hominems and also the stereotype about gays regarding casual sex, following on from "you're not camp you can't be gay" e.t.c e.t.c...


Anyway, my dad doesn't know yet, and I trust he'd be worse. I'm keeping my Ruger close to hand and might have to leave for a few days. Heehee, sexuality is fun.

Mothers can be tough. Terribly sorry to hear about that. If she loves you she'll come around.

Before reading this thread I thought the Brits had a much more enlightened attitude about homosexuality, although my impression of the place comes mostly from BBC America programming. Perhaps I've made the typical Yankee mistake and conflated the UK too much with the rest of Europe.

[Gibby]

Okay, wow. :3


So I had a friend visit over the weekend. Not the campest gay friend imaginable, though, pretty clingy and affectionate; this morning, I just got blunt asked about his sexuality and then mine.

Twas my New Years resolution to come out by September and I decided to say fuck it and told my mom I'm bisexual [lol, I'm gay as fuck].

She's crying. Dropped the whole "unnatural", "unlikeable", "I don't want to hear about it", ad hominems and also the stereotype about gays regarding casual sex, following on from "you're not camp you can't be gay" e.t.c e.t.c...


Anyway, my dad doesn't know yet, and I trust he'd be worse. I'm keeping my Ruger close to hand and might have to leave for a few days. Heehee, sexuality is fun.

Show them your FA.

[Sarcastic Coffeecup]

Show them your FA.

But when you do, have a recording piece ready. I want to see their reactions