Of course not, love. That it not exactly what I meant. Let me completely rephrase my standing and expand a little: Open relationships, one such that you're in now, is statistically even less likely to succeed than that of a normal relationships because of the additional stress and pressure it adds. You've added one person into the mix, one more potential unknown and factor into a relationship. And because of that, there has to be even more communication and not to mention honesty going on in order to keep the status of your relationships stable. People break up all the time. That is normal. What is more rare however, is being married for years and then end up breaking up with your wife or husband because of an open relationship, which is what we're talking about here. Only about some 3-6% or something of married couples are in an open relationship from what I can gather from the data I've read, though I might be wrong. And how many of those relationships end up failing because of an attempted open relationship? And just like you said, one size doesn't fit all. In this case, the shoe you're in doesn't fit the rather large majority of people. An open relationship is a status, a condition. And depending on the conditions/status of that relationship, many different factors come into play, an open one add even more factors and possible conditions.