Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Yakamaru, Aug 10, 2017.
eh no more than anyone else i know to be honest
Personally I'm a bit of a mixed bag.
I'm an introvert: I like thinking, pondering, doing research, watching videos on everything from nature to physics to political issues. I like being on my own with my own shit. I generally avoid people. A headset with music on my ears is a good and easy way to avoid unnecessary contact.
I'm sometimes an extrovert: Around people I like, I will simply be myself. Finding topics to talk about is not hard, as we already know each other.
First, on my anti-social side:
I hate people in general. Being around people drain my energy, especially new people I've not met before. I don't know exactly how to explain it. After a while I just gotta GTFO there. If I can, I will avoid people. A bit of social anxiety, Asperger's and a general strong dislike for people combined with working at a support department in an electronics store is never a fun combination. But, to combat my social anxiety, there are no better ways IMO to fight it than to jump straight into it and fight it directly. I have no intention of cowering in the corner, going "I don't like/want this, and thus I will avoid it".
Second, on my social side:
I take time to warm up to people, sometimes it takes a lot of time. Once I've warmed up, I can easily talk about the most random shit for hours on end. There are few people I like and even fewer people I really like.
I always give people the benefit of the doubt. The doubt to prove if they are worth my time or not. It's usually easy to see from a short conversation. So far, this "sense" is often spot on.
Welp, you saw that Debbie Downer SNL skit about Disneyland? That's pretty much me, only without everybody cracking up at the end.
Im this close to hikikomori
It depends I guess. I'm extremely shy most of the time, but I adapt fairly easily. There are some people who I have no issues talking to them, while for others I can barely speak. On the upside, I can usually control my feelings and force myself to stop procrastinating about uncomfortable social situations.
Me, im extremely introverted and shy.
Extroverted, and sociable, empathetic, though also prone to reading various 'serious' dark literature (Thomas Mann, Kafka, Anne Sexton &c) and prone to moody, intellectual brooding.
But all in all a friendly sort, who likes to help folks, and has perhaps had a little too much fun in life, at points, concerts, crazy late night parties, going out and being wild. But on the other hand, there's the part that writes poetry, and is very reserved, though all in all, I like to reach out and communicate, and make emotional connections with people.
I'm basically the definition of a wall flower -- I prefer to stay on the sidelines and only occasionally provide my opinions. My reasons are kind of convoluted but it basically boils down to social anxiety and thinking that no one wants to hear my opinions. Because of this anxiety, I put a lot of effort into what I do say, so that my output is meaningful and neutral.
I have gotten better at presenting myself in a positive way so I don't alienate myself from my friends, but socializing is still really hard. ^^;
I'm introverted. I avoid socializing, then I'm sad because I'm always alone. Part of the reason I only log on every couple of months.
yeah but you can socialise and do your own thing there's some days where i'm invited to go do something but i just say no simply because i want to stay home and do my own thing
I'm generally a very polite person, and the more polite, considerate, respectful, and reserved I am to someone, the less I like them. If I let you see my emotions, insult you, or show little concern about concealing my true thoughts, opinion, or worries, the more likely you are to be my friend. I value my family and friends first, myself second, my associates third, and all others not in the slightest. Hence, most people I have only formal interactions with enjoy my presence, while those who know me well and have my trust generally dislike me or at best find me irritating.
I try not to let this prevent me from meeting new people and making new friends, but finding people who I can be friends with is rather difficult, as my values conflict heavily with most people I've met.
I tend to be very shy, introverted and wary of others, in some part due to past trauma (gotten over it mostly but the damage is done). As a result I tend to lurk and watch from a distance to try and gauge how people are before even considering socialising or being in the slightest bit vocal.
For example every time Iv ever worked in a new environment with new colleagues I tend to keep to myself and actively avoid conversation or social contact until months later when in my mind said people are more or less a known quantity and I can slowly start to get more comfortable around said people and talk more. I'am that way in almost every social environment, I start off by lurking and actively trying to not be noticed, then once I feel less anxious about the people around me I get more vocal and gradually start being more sociable, and in some cases I can eventually start to get kind of catty (but in a playful kind of way).
Other than that I know I score very consistently as an INFJ on the Myers Briggs personality test.
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