A furry in need of some family advice

[-xSuishox-]

Um, eheheh, long time no see everyone.

I'm in a bit of a dilemma right now.

You see I'm moving in with my fiance sometime this month and some of my family is not supportive in the matter. I keep telling them it's my life, it's time for me to move on from where I'm living at, but they keep doing reverse psychology on me like "what happens if they throw you out?" or "what happens if you two break up?" And then I throw it back at them and still be the positive one in the matter, saying "When it happens we'll go from there."

I'm a responsible person, I keep track of my bank account, do my chores, and I'm also looking for a job/going to start college. Isn't that enough for them?
Even though I'm still learning how to be on my own in some areas, this would be a great opportunity for both me and my fiance to know how it's gonna work out with us living together under the same roof, and also how it's gonna be when we get married next year.

If it comes down to it, I might have to break off ties and communication with my family if they continue to be a cinder block and hold me down. It breaks my heart to do that, but I have no other choice.

What do you guys think?

 

[CannonFodder]

Screw your family, you're getting married.


(that's the best advice you're going to get from here)

 

[-xSuishox-]

Screw your family, you're getting married.


(that's the best advice you're going to get from here)

^ This. Epic WIN.

 

[Thatch]

Listen to your family, You're going to divorce not long after marriage anyway.

 

[kyle19]

^ This. Epic WIN.

There's a button for that now. And move in with your fiance.

 

[TriggerhappyWolf]

my family did the same thing but everything went ok, till the love of my life cheated on me. She now lives with her parents and my dog.

You have to plan this out in detail. Do you make enough money to live off after rent&bills? Do you have a backup plan if something does happen? And other basic things like that.
Your family is doing it out of love so don't take it the wrong way.
I wish you luck if you do move, hope things go better for you than they did for me.

 

[Thatch]

and my dog.

Wow, what a bitch.

 

[-xSuishox-]

my family did the same thing but everything went ok, till the love of my life cheated on me. She now lives with her parents and my dog.

You have to plan this out in detail. Do you make enough money to live off after rent&bills? Do you have a backup plan if something does happen? And other basic things like that.
Your family is doing it out of love so don't take it the wrong way.
I wish you luck if you do move, hope things go better for you than they did for me.

Me and my fiance's mom have discussed the rent, chores, rules, and backup plan.

And I know they love me....in their own unique way from what I've seen all my life.

And thank you.

 

[CannonFodder]

Wow, what a bitch.

ba-dum-tssh



Also congrats on getting married.

 

[-xSuishox-]

ba-dum-tssh



Also congrats on getting married.

Thank you so much^^

 

[cam60070]

Always have something to fall back on. Don't cut them off, Just ignore them if they really are that annoying about. You hopefully have a better life then your parents.

 

[SirRob]

Tell them you're an adult and you're responsible enough to make your own decisions. Don't cut ties with them in the unlikely event that something happens between you and your fiance.

 

[Thatch]

ba-dum-tssh

I'm serious, that's a dick move.

 

[TriggerhappyWolf]

Wow, what a bitch.

I payed $75 for the dog, I trained it, and I took care of it untill she got a restraining order against me. I might hurt her since she found someone else.

 

[-xSuishox-]

My mom's friend says I'm always welcome to come live with her on the beach, regardless. I'll probably won't cut off ties with them, but break off communication for a while once I move in and when everything's settled down and what not, I will probably start back communicating with them.

 

[Melo]

My parents didn't approve of half of my sibling's weddings.

What's likely to happen is they'll get over it.

Parents are masters of using scare tactics to get their way. Bluffers.

Good luck.

 

[Ricky]

They are just looking out for your best interests.

If you move out they will probably be pissed for a few months then get over it.

 

[Jaxinc]

Screw your family, you're getting married.


(that's the best advice you're going to get from here)

Is correct^

I'm in a similar predicament... I'm moving with my gf cross country with an age difference, my parents were less than accepting when they heard the age, mother threatened to never speak with me again.
Frankly that's not the BEST part, it's actually a poly relationship with another guy as well, which if they knew would only make it worse lmfao...

Any case, I made my decision months ago to be happy and move there with them, so nothing my family says is going to change that. You should do the same.

 

[-xSuishox-]

Tell them you're an adult and you're responsible enough to make your own decisions. Don't cut ties with them in the unlikely event that something happens between you and your fiance.

I've told them that like, several times already. They still don't believe me. They think I'm more safer rotting away in a group home with old ladies rather than living a normal life with somebody I love.

 

[SirRob]

I've told them that like, several times already. They still don't believe me. They think I'm more safer rotting away in a group home with old ladies rather than living a normal life with somebody I love.

Oh. Well then your plan sounds good to me.

 

[Ieatcrackersandjumpcliffs]

You're letting the sex talk for you. At least they care. Can you not see that?