Anti-Furry Ex

[Huluvoo]

I'm not exactly new to the furry lifestyle, I took a massive interest in it a few years ago, and even went as far as to almost buy a full fursuit at 17 (three years later, I can't even remember what I wanted! lol). Of course, the next year I got my first boyfriend, and he was very anti-furry. He made me feel disgusting for liking furries and wanting to be one, and it really got me down some days, he thought they were scum, and the worst people possible, and that they were disgusting - that's going too far, which is why it depressed me when the subject came up.


We broke up in January, I ended it when he did something extremely stupid and then kept going on about it, much to my severe displeasure. Everything had to be about him, and he usually tried his best to make it about him. He also bad-mouthed his mum, who I'd spent enough time with and around to realise that he was bullshitting.


Now, after a few weeks of recovery from that draining train-wreck of a relationship, I'm in a happier and healthier relationship with my partner, who's just come to terms that they're a furry (they're an angel dragon lol) as well, and that's made me the happiest, that they accepted that I wanted to be one and embraced it themselves.


Has anyone else been involved with, or know, a very anti-furry person(s)?

 

[ROJO]

furry lifestyle

Oh please no.

 

[Ilmarinen]

Yes. Me. Two years ago.

 

[ROJO]

Yes. Me. Two years ago.

Ayattar please tell us this story.

 

[Astus]

Sounds like from your story that they weren't a good person to begin with so you probably dodged a bullet there.


I personally don't have any stories besides the common troll people in the Internet because I don't tell people in my life that I am a furry. It makes things a lot easier.

 

[Fallowfox]

When I told my first girlfriend that I was furry, and made too big a deal of it because I was 16, she didn't mind at all.

Nobody since has minded either.

 

[ROJO]

Sounds like from your story that they weren't a good person to begin with so you probably dodged a bullet there.


I personally don't have any stories besides the common troll people in the Internet because I don't tell people in my life that I am a furry. It makes things a lot easier.

Only attention whores tell other people they are a furry. If you get any shit for it you only owe it to yourself to be honest.

 

[Fallowfox]

Only attention whores tell other people they are a furry. If you get any shit for it you only owe it to yourself to be honest.

If it's a fetish, you should tell your partner.
Otherwise people end up in situations where they've been together for years and then end up confessing their awkward kinks that they've kept secret the whole time.

 

[ROJO]

If it's a fetish, you should tell your partner.
Otherwise people end up in situations where they've been together for years and then end up confessing their awkward kinks that they've kept secret the whole time.

When the hell is it a good time to tell your partner of your weird dogsuit fetish?

 

[Fallowfox]

When the hell is it a good time to tell your partner of your weird dogsuit fetish?

If it's a meaningful relationship, before you start having sex with them. There is a risk they feel misled or deceived into a relationship with a sexual deviant that they know they aren't interested in satisfying, if you only tell them afterwards.

 

[Hakar Kerarmor]

When the hell is it a good time to tell your partner of your weird dogsuit fetish?

Ideally, before weird dogsuit fetish sexy time.

 

[ROJO]

If it's a meaningful relationship, before you start having sex with them. There is a risk they feel misled or deceived into a relationship with a sexual deviant that they know they aren't interested in satisfying, if you only tell them afterwards.

This is a very good answer. I was not expecting such a good answer. Too bad there is no way to seriously ask your partner to wear a dogsuit so you can get your bones off.

 

[DragonTheWolf]

I knew this one guy who'd constantly tell me how disgusting I am just because I happened to say I like anthropomorphic characters. He would constantly call me a disgusting furry and what have you. I ignored him most of the time, and it turns out, he's into lolis, so it's whatever. I don't let myself get dragged down like that, especially not by loli loving people.

Most people I know are fine with me being a fur, though. Well, the ones that know, that is, because I make it very clear that it's not just about the porn to them. I don't just go around saying I'm a furry, though. If the conversation comes to it, sure, and if not, nope. I don't think anyone really cares anyway.

 

[Ilmarinen]

Ayattar please tell us this story.

I was struck by lighting and bitten by a lemming.

 

[Astus]

This is a very good answer. I was not expecting such a good answer. Too bad there is no way to seriously ask your partner to wear a dogsuit so you can get your bones off.

Fallow knows what he is talking about 99% if the time and has a large amount of knowledge to contribute to relevant conversations with very logical arguments.

 

[Fallowfox]

Ideally, before weird dogsuit fetish sexy time.

I surprise them when they come home. I'm in their apartment, there is a trail of rose petals to the bedroom and a bottle of champagne in a bucket of ice. The smell of roses hangs in the air, and whilst the enchanting ballad on the radio is loud, the lights are soft and low.

Sprawled on the bed-sheets, a 6 foot man-dalmation wearing a collar and a squeaky toy tied under his tail.

Then I drop the bombshell...

Woof woof, yiff yiff? *rolls over*

Rubs? :3

This is a very good answer. I was not expecting such a good answer. Too bad there is no way to seriously ask your partner to wear a dogsuit so you can get your bones off.

While the comment I made above is a joke, I was really lucky once, because I was dressed up as a lion and the woman I had brought back asked me to 'keep it on,'.

A lot of people really don't think it's that weird.
I think that a lot of furries try to imply it's unpalatable because they don't like being associated with that sort of activity, but the general public is more inclined to view it as harmless fun and games.

 

[ROJO]

I surprise them when they come home. I'm in their apartment, there is a trail of rose petals to the bedroom and a bottle of champagne in a bucket of ice. The smell of roses hangs in the air, and whilst the enchanting ballad on the radio is loud, the lights are soft and low.

Sprawled on the bed-sheets, a 6 foot man-dalmation wearing a collar and a squeaky toy tied under his tail.

Then I drop the bombshell...

Woof woof, yiff yiff? *rolls over*

Rubs? :3

OP if you had done this you wouldn't have had any problems. Step up your damn game or you'll keep losing men.

 

[Hakar Kerarmor]

Too bad there is no way to seriously ask your partner to wear a dogsuit so you can get your bones off.

So do it wearing a clownsuit over the dogsuit.

 

[ROJO]

So do it wearing a clownsuit over the dogsuit.

Imagine if your SO walked into the bedroom in clown face to see you on the bed in a dogsuit, and you both just end up having a good laugh about your creepy fetishes. Hot clown on wolfman action XXX CALL NOW!!!

 

[Huluvoo]

OP if you had done this you wouldn't have had any problems. Step up your damn game or you'll keep losing men.

Trust me, I never wanted to keep him in the first place. He was an abusive, ignorant asshole.

 

[Kaizy]

The better ways of avoiding these kinds of issues is usually to date people who are already in the fandom, so they just kind of anticipate you possibly being into any odd things.
It's not the easiest method by any means because LDRs are a pain in the ass and most of the people you end up getting along with the best are usually across the globe, but still, it's always an option.

Also if he was abusive and constantly shamed you for you interests, you definitely dodged a bullet, so good job.

 

[Alexxx-Returns]

No one's ever taken any issue with my affiliation with the fandom- well, except an ex of mine who was the one who introduced me to it in the first place. It was weird. He would show me all his "secret" porn stash, and "came out" to his closest friends, but outright said he would have no part in anything to do with me building a fursuit because that was weird. He came around on that eventually though just because I encouraged him to look at the situation differently. I said that I wasn't asking him to be involved in anything at all - the only thing he'd have to do was just go along with it if we were in a store and I saw something that would be useful in the project.

My parents always enjoy seeing my drawings, but I don't show them the adult stuff because they object to porn of any kind. My mum was trying to discourage me from taking on my current project though (it's extremely gory).

 

[SodaBubbles]

My parents always enjoy seeing my drawings, but I don't show them the adult stuff because they object to porn of any kind. My mum was trying to discourage me from taking on my current project though (it's extremely gory).

Awww! But gore is fun! I used to draw some... I need to get back into it. I'm sure it'll be great with my cutesy style.

Yeah, mostly people don't care... I mean, paranoid nut that I am, I just say I do fantasy anthro art, and that I like it because drawing anthros is a bigger challenge than people. Mostly people are just like "Dang, that's cool". But when I was working for Disney (Disneyland nothing special) sometimes dudes would make fun of me and be like "Why do you draw sexy dogs" and I always got them to shut up by going "Yeah, but you're the one who thinks they're sexy..." Heh.

 

[Alexxx-Returns]

Awww! But gore is fun! I used to draw some... I need to get back into it. I'm sure it'll be great with my cutesy style.

Yeah, mostly people don't care... I mean, paranoid nut that I am, I just say I do fantasy anthro art, and that I like it because drawing anthros is a bigger challenge than people. Mostly people are just like "Dang, that's cool". But when I was working for Disney (Disneyland nothing special) sometimes dudes would make fun of me and be like "Why do you draw sexy dogs" and I always got them to shut up by going "Yeah, but you're the one who thinks they're sexy..." Heh.

One time I had a friend (now an ex) in which we were reading each others' novels, and one of the first things he said to me was "somehow you managed to make dragons sexy". That was before I knew of the fandom as well.

 

[SodaBubbles]

Haha, that's pretty awesome- if that's what you were going for (I assume so) then what a compliment!