Anti-gay upbringing

[San-Ryuuk]

Did anyone have parents that were very anti-gay in the way that they raised you, who are gay/bi now?
It's just a random thought that I had. I want to know if anyone has been effected by something like that.

I don't know. In my case, it's kind of always there in the back of my head, nagging at me now and again. Shit, I didn't even consider being bi until about a year ago (even though so many people assumed I was gay for no reason).

Just interested to hear from others on the subject. Thanks.

 

[DarrylWolf]

You, or your parents?

 

[Torrijos-sama]

My parents were anti-gay.

My father is ambivalent now, and i'm working for my mother to view things in the same fashion as my father.

I've taught them that you can't be a real conservative if you believe that you should constantly interfere with the business of others.

Too bad many other "conservatives" don't catch on to that bit.

 

[Mr. Brightside]

My dad absolutely hates gays. My mom laughs at the idea of gays as if it were a joke.

I am bi leaning gay, but consider myself gay. F- my life.

 

[Antonin Scalia]

Nope. And nobody taunted me because I could level them. It was cool.

 

[San-Ryuuk]

@ Darryl, read the original post.

@ J-Fish, I've though about telling my dad, but he's baptist christian, discriminatory, and known to be stubborn.

@ Mr.Brightside, I'm pretty much in the same boat.

@ Scalia, Yeah, I don't see a well-built court justice like yourself having problems there.

 

[Scotty1700]

Eh my mom and even my grandmother always laughed at the gay contestants of The Amazing Race and I think even a season of Survivor....I was sad v.v

I dunno about my dad in all honesty, we're not the close but I don't think it's because he knows I'm gay. My brother's kinda an idiot, doesn't say two words to me on the average day and we live under the same roof :v

 

[Antonin Scalia]

@ Darryl, read the original post.

@ J-Fish, I've though about telling my dad, but he's baptist christian, discriminatory, and known to be stubborn.

@ Mr.Brightside, I'm pretty much in the same boat.

@ Scalia, Yeah, I don't see a well-built court justice like yourself having problems there.

No seriously I grew up in Missouri and apparently being gay was ok? It was like the Twilight Zone

 

[Volkodav]

No because my parents were never retarded.
Also my mom had gay friends.

 

[Commiecomrade]

If only I could trade my parents' views with some underprivileged people.

My parents are both completely fine with homosexuality, and would be completely fine with me being of any alternate orientation. My mom even asked me just to make sure.

I'm straight.

 

[LizardKing]

I don't think it was ever even mentioned until my sister started dating some chick.

 

[Unsilenced]

My parents (well, my sister actually) told me what homosexuality was in I think preschool. Yeah. I was a bit too young to understand exactly what it implied so I immediately jumped on the idea because I still thought girls were icky. :v


Anyways, more on topic, my parents were more-open-then-most about sex and sexual orientation. Then I went and ended up asexual and a prude because fuck the police.

I don't think they give a crap. Never even bothered to ask.

 

[jcfynx]

My father said he never had a son.

:'(

 

['PossumSpit]

my parents weren't but i was sent to a baptist private school until eighth grade. i was a little homophobic bitch, haha.

then high school happened and identities happened and hormones happened and all that shit. surprise! i came out as "gay" at the time because i didn't know any better. i didn't think of myself as gay so much as i just wanted to be known as the girl in the relationship. my immediate family didn't care at all. like, no one gave a shit. apparently they "saw it coming". then i came out last year as trans* and oh god you would've thought i kicked puppies with steel-toed boots. my mom flipped her shit and disassociated herself from me. apparently having the daughter her "son" always was was too much, even though i never even acted like a boy.

ramble ramble.

 

[Ad Hoc]

I got really lucky. My parents were extremely right-wing Catholic during the 80s, actually voted for Reagan. I imagine they had the same perspective as my extended family, which was not violently homophobic/transphobic but definitely not approving. Then during the 90s they had this weird turn-around; pa became left-wing and atheist, ma became centrist and deist. By the time I was getting ready to come out in the 00s, they were completely accepting. If I'd been born when my brother was born, though, I'd have had some trouble.

 

[Bliss]

My mother never really talked about this. Though if she found out that someone was gay she is all "oh em gee, did you know they're GAY". Not in any clear negative/positive light... just like it's a huge news I need to know about.

It's embarrassing, nonetheless. D:

Then during the 90s they had this weird turn-around; pa became left-wing and atheist, ma became centrist and deist.

Errybody loves Bill Clinton. :3c

 

[Aetius]

My parents were more negative towards gay, but not the very "BURN THEM FAGGETS" type. My schoolmates and the many people I associated with were the far-right homophobes. An important thing to do when you deal with these people, is to never even come out to them at all. So far I haven't, and never will to them.

 

[Ozriel]

My mother's more accepting of Gays than my aunt. My uncle doesn't care.

 

[Sar]

My parents are a "Fuck a girl or gtfo of the house" kind of strictness. Crap.

 

[Term_the_Schmuck]

My parent's were always pretty respectful to gays, and even reprimanded me when I acted disrespectful.

As a kid, I remember I was at a family get-together at a relative's house that had a lot of property in the woods where there was a pond and stuff. I think I made a joke that we needed to look out for hillbillies and mouthed the chords to "Dueling Banjos" from "Deliverance".

My parents overheard and grabbed me by the arm, pulled me aside and said that two of the men there were a gay couple and I needed to watch what I said.

So yeah, lesson learned, even in a Catholic household.

 

[San-Ryuuk]

Eh my mom and even my grandmother always laughed at the gay contestants of The Amazing Race and I think even a season of Survivor....I was sad v.v

This is my father, except he often makes jokes about the African American contestants as well. >.>
We have gay relatives, who he jokes about behind their backs as well.

It's interesting to hear everyone's story, and I feel for everyone whose parents area a little closed minded.
I would like to be able to respond to everyone personally, but there are too many people. OAO

 

[Xenke]

My parents are the type of people who wouldn't hesitate to make "hurtful" joke, but as with all things they're fairly level-headed people.

Being as I'm their son, all they really want is for me to be happy.

Hooray for parents that don't suck!

 

[Browder]

Actually as a small child, I was far more homophobic than my parents were (I was basically the smart kid that bullied you in second grade). I used to make gay jokes without really knowing what they meant. My old Au-pair who was a lesbian was encouraged by my parents to come out to me, but she didn't. We're still really good friends and she said that part of the reason she wouldn't tell me wasn't just do to her confusion but because of me.

My Mom and Dad are great though. Unlike the rest of my extended family.

 

[Mr. Brightside]

I would like to be able to respond to everyone personally, but there are too many people. OAO

Get to work, boeh.

 

[Andy Nonimose]

Didn't come out to my mom until I started college. The biggest kicker for me has been deprogramming from my religious upbringing.