Anti-gay upbringing

[Dr. Durr]

So yeah, lesson learned, even in a Catholic household.

My family stopped going to church after what we found about what the Mormon church did when a gay marriage was allowed in some state, I can't remember which.

 

[Conker]

My parents say they would be cool with it, but when they found out I figured myself to be asexual, they weren't really pleased. I didn't get a talking to or anything, but they don't think it's a real orientation and that I'll find a girlfriend and have tons of kids someday. Oh their silly delusions.

I've wondered how they'd react if I came out as gay. Apparently not wanting any kind of relationship is worse than wanting one with the same sex? I dunno. I don't let it bother me.

 

[Leafblower29]

My parents don't really care about much so they didn't care about my sexuality.
Edit: I re-read the OP and I don't think I was supposed to post here because I'm straight.

 

[Namba]

My mom has gay friends, and my dad hates terms like "fag" because he considers it the equivalent of "nigger". I've always agreed, really

My parents say they would be cool with it, but when they found out I figured myself to be asexual, they weren't really pleased. I didn't get a talking to or anything, but they don't think it's a real orientation and that I'll find a girlfriend and have tons of kids someday. Oh their silly delusions.

I've wondered how they'd react if I came out as gay. Apparently not wanting any kind of relationship is worse than wanting one with the same sex? I dunno. I don't let it bother me.

Heck, I don't know how interested in a relationship I'd be. It didn't really appeal to me in the first place, then having one further confirmed that. Dunno, I'm probably asexual myself :/

 

[Azure]

Nope. And nobody taunted me because I could level them. It was cool.

Same but with a caveat. My father was Catholic. Not that I didn't level him eventually.

 

[Fay V]

No, we never really talked about it. My father parents are both from traditional backgrounds, but they try. I can see thinking about some of the stuff makes them very uncomfortable, but at the same time they respect gays and recognize the need for basic human rights.

My parents try at least. I once had an awkward moment where my mother asked if I was gay, and insisted it was alright and they'd support me no matter what and blah blah love. It would have been more endearing if I were bi or gay.

 

[Ley]

My mom told me she was bi when I was around ten. I asked why she had me and she goes 'because i loved your father' and I went okay. :I

Even now I don't know what I like. Straight 'till proven otherwise xD

 

[Antonin Scalia]

Same but with a caveat. My father was Catholic. Not that I didn't level him eventually.

And that is why drugs were invented. Amen.

 

[RayO_ElGatubelo]

My parents don't really seem to hate gays... but I am not coming out until and if I decide to date a guy for reals.

 

[Querk]

Man when I was like eight I heard my mom talking to my aunt and grandma about how gays should be rounded up and executed

god I love my family

 

[Lobar]

My parents are only nominally religious and pretty socially progressive-minded, so I never heard any bigotry from them growing up. Despite that, my mother had a rather bad reaction when she found out about my first (now ex-) boyfriend. She seems more okay with it now but we avoid talking about it.

Lesson to you young people: Don't come out until you're absolutely sure you can handle the repercussions. Parents with tolerant attitudes can suddenly do a complete 180 when it comes to their own kid.

 

[Sar]

Man when I was like eight I heard my mom talking to my aunt and grandma about how gays should be rounded up and executedgod I love my family

since when did you live in home? I'm kinda worried now. :/

 

[Radiohead]

My parents are hippy Buddhist liberal treehuggers who are very open and accept homosexuality and are passive and tolerant to most things. I couldn't love them more if I tried.

 

[Ekho]

It's never been a problem with my family. My parents are both very tolerant, and have chastised my brothers and me for using gay slurs in the past. My mom's family (her, my uncle, and my grandparents) have known a gay couple for I think over 25 years, and we pretty much consider them family. One of them is my godfather.

I don't think I'll have any problems with my parents when I come out, thankfully. It's still hard getting to that point though. :/

 

[Enwon]

My parents acted and seemed tolerant towards gays, until I actually came out. Then they immediately assumed it was a phase and I was being a stupid teenager. At a later point, they said I couldn't possibly know my sexuality until I've had sex. When I said that I might be bisexual, they immediately assumed that meant I was straight, and returned to constantly asking me about girls. Then they say, "Oh, but we're okay with whoever you want," even though they don't actually mean it, and are just saying it to mask what they really think and want.

 

[Ekho]

At a later point, they said I couldn't possibly know my sexuality until I've had sex.

I don't get these ridiculous arguments. This reminds me of when people say that homosexuality is a choice. I remember listening to someone in 11th grade religion class say go on about that, and I wished I could've called bullshit.

 

[Tora-Oni]

We have gays on both sides of my family. I kinda suspected I wasn't all heterosexual...but I wasn't about to talk about it as I was still Christian. I eventually gave up on trying to be something that didn't fit with me well. My family I don't think they would disown me if they found out...though I don't think they would be okay in fact I think the be even more against it because they think its like I am just one of the young generation that decided to be gay. Which really I mean I wouldn't have been open if it wasn't but I still consider myself an secret admirer. My family is fairly tolerant...though my mom will accept her brother because she said he isn't "outwardly" gay. I know he isn't flamboyant. Though she doesn't like gays in general...she is more so hateful of girl/girl love and well I'm her daughter and well I find it bit double standard. If I move out I might come out of the closet about it...but then again. I don't feel like I have to tell her anything.

 

[Azure]

And that is why drugs were invented. Amen.

That and Rocky Horror Theatre Night. Fuck you dad, I'm wearin a dress.

 

[Evan of Phrygia]

My parents were more negative towards gay, but not the very "BURN THEM FAGGETS" type. My schoolmates and the many people I associated with were the far-right homophobes. An important thing to do when you deal with these people, is to never even come out to them at all. So far I haven't, and never will to them.

My sexuality life is close to this, except i have told people who are completely trustworthy.I have imagined myself actiing on the girlier side of the relationship, although that might be just believing in marital equality. My mom knows of my effeminacy, but chose not to connect the dots.

 

[DevistatedDrone]

Homosexuality runs through my mother's side of the family. She has 3 sisters and two of them plus herself went through a lesbian phase at one point. On top of that, a close cousin of mine is full blown gay (not flamboyant, just strictly gay) and no one anywhere has a problem with it.

My father's side, however, is filled with upper-class white-trash, if that makes sense. Basically, they have money and they're all idiots. My grandparents never mentioned gays, but always had a disgusted expression when ever they were watching TV and anything close to a homosexual came on.

My parents are very accepting to my sexuality (bi, by the way) ever since I came out after a discussion of a close friend coming out. They were first skeptical, thinking I was just playing follow-the-leader until I had to explain how I felt no restriction to just one gender, then they shut up. They don't really acknowledge it at all and just treat it as a fact of life, as it should be.

 

[Plantar]

My brother came out last November. My mom was upset over it, even though we all knew, with how he acted, hanging out with the girls, always on the phone with them. But then he sees her at the store one day before work, and tells her "I have a boyfriend now." She was going on and on, about how it's not right, and his boyfriend actually yelled at her about not being able to accept it, without the realization that she was born, raised a different way, and should have realized that she couldn't handle to hear it. She's a bit more open to it now, but all the time she's like "Isn't it gross?" Lol.

My grandmother on my dad's side was perfectly fine with it.

My grandmother on my mom's side wasn't.

And I, bi with a preference towards women, am not telling her that unless I ended up with a boyfriend.

This feels like one of those circles. Where you are in a group and tell people things. Like Alcoholics Anonymous.

 

[Commiecomrade]

That and Rocky Horror Theatre Night. Fuck you dad, I'm wearin a dress.

I will never, ever understand that movie or the near-ritualistic tendencies of its followers.

 

[Azure]

I will never, ever understand that movie or the near-ritualistic tendencies of its followers.

This is like not understanding a great time. I blame the dress on my mother, I was the replacement child after she had to abort her girlbaby, so I ended up in a lot of dresses as a child. What the hell man, what the hell. I don't even know what I am anymore.

 

[ryanleblanc]

With the attitude my parents have towards gays, I get the feeling they'd be "fairly" accepting if I told them I was bi. It might take them a bit to get used to it, but everyone thinks I am totally straight already, so it's not like there's some big change where I'm suddenly the world's biggest flamer. I don't see any reason in telling them at the moment though, because I just don't really care that much about sexual preference. I figure you just be with who you want to be with. It's simple. so I don't see the need to further draw lines everywhere and designate everybody.

 

[San-Ryuuk]

Edit: I re-read the OP and I don't think I was supposed to post here because I'm straight.

Nah, you're fine.

My parents try at least. I once had an awkward moment where my mother asked if I was gay, and insisted it was alright and they'd support me no matter what and blah blah love. It would have been more endearing if I were bi or gay.

My mom did that when I was still not considering the possibility because my dad and religion and crap. And then my parents accused me of dating my friends. When they were just friends. -.-

My parents acted and seemed tolerant towards gays, until I actually came out. Then they immediately assumed it was a phase and I was being a stupid teenager. At a later point, they said I couldn't possibly know my sexuality until I've had sex.

Haha. I know how that is. I came out to my mom, who is tolerant (parents are divorced and my mom's sister is a lesbian). I still kinda regret it though, because she doesn't get it at all. She pulled that same thing. "How can you know you're bi if you haven't had sex with a guy?" I wanted to say "How do "normal" guys know they're straight if they haven't had sex with a woman?" :V

This feels like one of those circles. Where you are in a group and tell people things. Like Alcoholics Anonymous.

Me: Hi, my name is Luke, and I'm a bisexual.
All: Hi, Luke.