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as it is pride month and all... What is your sexuality ?

Ziv

Ziv

PokéManiac
Not exactly pride month anymore but I can still answer the question lol

It's actually kind of complicated I guess... if someone just casually asks me I usually say I'm gay. If I think they're asking because they're interested in me I might say I'm bisexual or pansexual (I go back and forth between the terms depending on context) but it's a little deeper than that.

Sexually, I prefer men. I'm only sexually attracted to women if I already have a strong romantic attachment to them, which I consider a limited form of asexuality/demisexuality. My level of sexual attraction towards anyone also fluctuates a lot, sometimes I don't experience any sexual attraction at all for extended periods of time, so I consider myself gray-asexual. In any case, I've casually hooked up with a lot of guys, but I've never hooked up with a woman. So if I'm a little manic and I start feeling hypersexual, I always gravitate towards men... because that's just where I'm at, on the purely sexual level. But that is not the only level that matters to me.

Up until now, I've actually only had strong romantic attachments to women. I think I could have that kind of relationship with a man (and that would probably be ideal for me -- or a trans girl) it just hasn't happened yet. But, I think I've been somewhat limited in fully exploring my sexuality because I'm FTM, and a lot of the guys I've done it with were straight cis men... and I just have nothing in common with them, basically. Obviously I'm not going to develop a strong romantic bond with someone who views me as an exotic sex object. Meanwhile, I can relate to other gay men but many of them do not consider me as a potential partner and might not even respect me as a gay man in a really basic way, which is equally as bad.
 
Yakamaru

Yakamaru

Woof? Woof
Guess it's a little complicated on my end?

A year ago I identified as heterosexual biromantic, but I am not so sure now. Would probably just describe myself as bi with a heavy female lean at this point to simplify it as much as I can.
 
TyraWadman

TyraWadman

The Brutally Honest Man-Child
Mambi said:
Honest dumb question...is omnisexual the same as pansexual? <blushes sheepishly>
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After doing some Googling, the easiest summary seems to be:

Pansexual = gender blind/personality based

Omnisexual = notices gender but doesn't care?

To be honest, the results I came across make it seem redundant, but I am still learning these different labels so definitely correct me if I'm wrong!
 
Punkedsolar

Punkedsolar

Never say never
Nah, this is 'the whole concept is exhausting and I'd rather watch paint dry'. I suppose Asexual will do as a holder.
 
Punji

Punji

Daedric Prince of Secrets
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O.D.D.

Guest
Filter said:
I wouldn't want to sex up a stranger. The cost-benefit analysis says nope. I probably wouldn't call myself demi, because I do feel attraction. Just not enough to revise my personal code or risk the potential consequences.
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I dunno, it's just weird seeing it from the outside I guess, difficult to really parse. There's clearly spots between "perfect stranger" and "you know this person well" but that's not a nuance you really tend to pick up on from the outside of that interaction, and some people define "knowing" more loosely than others.
 
Shyy

Shyy

slightly confused, mostly fun loving Protogen
Decidedly BI- my orientation varies with the one that I am with and what role *I* have at that time. (I *DO* have a rather strong attraction to more masculine men, as I tend to gravitate towards being fem, with them)
 
Outré

Outré

(o͞o-trā′)
This has always been extremely frustrating for me and sometimes hurts my brain to think about. I’m fairly certain I’m on the Asexual spectrum but I don’t know where I stand exactly. I’ve thought about Demi, gray, A, and sometimes I wonder if I’m just a hetero person who is really off the ball or something.

I do know that I’m hetero romantic. I can have aesthetic and psychological attraction towards women… but I’ve never felt that as a full package my attraction towards who I like is the same as with other people… so yeah I don’t know.

I’ve often wondered if other asec people also deal with the same type of frustration. I’ve bumped into a few online but never really met any.
 
The_biscuits_532

The_biscuits_532

Eternally Confused Feline
Stay Fluft said:
This has always been extremely frustrating for me and sometimes hurts my brain to think about. I’m fairly certain I’m on the Asexual spectrum but I don’t know where I stand exactly. I’ve thought about Demi, gray, A, and sometimes I wonder if I’m just a hetero person who is really off the ball or something.

I do know that I’m hetero romantic. I can have aesthetic and psychological attraction towards women… but I’ve never felt that as a full package my attraction towards who I like is the same as with other people… so yeah I don’t know.

I’ve often wondered if other asec people also deal with the same type of frustration. I’ve bumped into a few online but never really met any.
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Get that sometimes. Sometimes I wonder if I'm truly demisexual, or if I'm Demiromantic Bisexual.
 
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O.D.D.

Guest
The_biscuits_532 said:
Get that sometimes. Sometimes I wonder if I'm truly demisexual, or if I'm Demiromantic Bisexual.
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I have no idea if I'm actually demi of any sort or just INCREDIBLY inhibited/reserved outside of online spaces, because I don't feel anywhere near as much discomfort with online interactions of a more sexual nature as I used to. Not sure if it's even worth picking apart, like it's one of those things where if you think about it too hard you're doing it wrong. Idk.
 
Shyy

Shyy

slightly confused, mostly fun loving Protogen
Personally, I think that way too many folks actually are causing themselves unnecessary stress by over analyzing themselves. Way too much effort is wasted on trying to label EVERYTHING! Just be yourself and be less concerned about what others label you. Life's too damn short, as it is.
 
The_biscuits_532

The_biscuits_532

Eternally Confused Feline
O.D.D. said:
I have no idea if I'm actually demi of any sort or just INCREDIBLY inhibited/reserved outside of online spaces, because I don't feel anywhere near as much discomfort with online interactions of a more sexual nature as I used to. Not sure if it's even worth picking apart, like it's one of those things where if you think about it too hard you're doing it wrong. Idk.
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I actually dropped in on a furry friend's stream for the first time yesterday. She's done a ton of commissions for me, and that's how I know her, but I wasn't expecting it to be like, a chat with her. She was drawing NSFW stuff, and honestly it was a super fun chat, and not nearly as awkward as I'd anticipated.

I've kinda been mulling over whether or not I'd feel comfortable having NSFW art done of my characters for a while now, and I think this has made me somewhat more comfortable with the idea.
 
Outré

Outré

(o͞o-trā′)
The_biscuits_532 said:
Get that sometimes. Sometimes I wonder if I'm truly demisexual, or if I'm Demiromantic Bisexual.
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I wonder the same thing but for different reasons. Sometimes I think that maybe I become sexually attracted to somebody after there’s a strong psychological attraction…. Then I wonder if it’s really sexual attraction or if I just feel a lot more comfortable with the idea of having sex with them. Because I do like the physical sensation of it… it’s just not a driving force at all in my attraction for people.
 
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