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Being single

TyraWadman

The Silent Observer
Single. I've tried dating twice IRL. First one lasted 2 years before realizing I was just naive and being used, second one lasted a few months because I was cautious and called him out in his lie.
Online (being younger at the time) was a joke and I'd never consider doing it again.
If I had a social group to hang out with in person, I'd probably be pretty content. But I don't. I can only hope I find my equal, but it's hard to stay optimistic (how many non-religious/non-spiritual, non-drinking and non-drug using people do you know of?). I'll just keep drawing up some fictional hubbies for myself in the meantime.

I just want snuggles and head scratchies. ;n;
 

lemonadevik

Lemonade Goblin
Single and lonely so like hmu I guess lmao. I've had a couple of serious relationships but nothing recent.
 

Eli_the_Wolf23

Well-Known Member
I've been single since Christmas but now since im turning 18 in September I think its time for me to just go out on a date but I cant really find anyone to date unfortunately but I would love to though and give it another go and I cant even find a female fur in my state to date and I have a bit of social anxiety and I hate it though but I know I still want to just date once again.
 

MrSpookyBoots

Batto with a Bad Leg ;'(
This will probably sound very harsh, but I couldn't see myself enjoy being tethered to a single person for the rest of my life. I'd have to sacrifice a lot. I'm almost 30 years old and I still don't think I'm ready for that kind of commitment.
 

JustAlex1997

Autumn the Squirrel
Single, but looking. I haven't dated anyone local to me since 2018. I've done some long-distance talking since then (and one relationship), but I haven't found the right person yet.
 

Dinocanid

Well-Known Member
Single, and I don't really plan on finding anyone tbh. I like being alone too much to be that close to another person. I would mind having friends, but nothing more than that
 

Stray_the_Kitsune

The Rocker Kitsune
Single here. I really enjoy the freedom of going wherever I feel like going and hanging out with whoever I feel like hanging out with on impulse.

I really enjoy helping others, but I'd rather spread that love. The one person I chased for a while needed me to bail them and their mom out constantly for years. There was jealously and anxiety throughout that makes me so glad we never became a couple.

I'm moving to the Seattle area soon and I'm free to do that. Then I'll hang out with friends and go shopping ect. I'll also occasionally give friends rides, or take them out 'cause I <3 charity :3
 

BabiNani

Visual Novel Connoisseur
Single here as well. I have had a few relationships in the past, but they were mostly online. I didn't used to, but lately I've been feeling very lonely. I really want someone I can wake up to everyday and shower with love and affection, which they generously return back. Make dinner together, go arcading, camping, etc. Maybe some day.
 

Zenvalinge

Dragon/bird lover
Never have been able to get anyone interested for the right reasons. Last relationship I ever had was in uh high school if you even want to count that hm... So 6 yrs ago? After discovering I was asexual kinda have stopped seeking it IRL as I live in the middle of no where. Have tried Bumble once and found another ace woo! But they had no interest in me even as a friend.
 

Gemi42

Trash Connoisseur
Been single all my life~! I'd like to find someone someday but I'd rather it happen naturally.
I honestly don't actually know what it's like to be 'in love' with someone. Never experienced any super strong emotions like that one.
 

switches

Member
This will probably sound very harsh, but I couldn't see myself enjoy being tethered to a single person for the rest of my life. I'd have to sacrifice a lot. I'm almost 30 years old and I still don't think I'm ready for that kind of commitment.

It's not harsh, I don't think relationships should involve sacrifices anyway. People shouldn't be tethered to anybody.
I'm technically single and no longer believe in marriage, instead I'm just non-monogamous. Relationship Anarchy as a concept is worth looking into if you feel this way.
 

Ziggy Schlacht

Hasn't figured out this "straight" business
Just gonna offer that if your only dating experience was highschool, don't take it as how all dating is. Seriously, dating in high school sucks. No one's mature, no one knows who they are, it's a mess.

Pop culture really fucks up perceptions of relationships by glamorizing generally horribly toxic ones. The super naggy wife locking their husband at home, the husband who hates his wife and does everything to avoid her. I mean, how many TV relationships show variations on that? Of course this ignores that a full blown wedding-level relationship springs up overnight with neither party even trying, regardless of if its healthy or not. In other words, getting dating advice from movies is like getting sex advice from pornhub. So, don't take relationships as that either.

To everyone looking for a relationship, you'll never find the "one" until you yourself are happy being single. That is - you've found yourself, you're honest in who are you, and you've ideally worked out those niggling problems that are turn offs. The relationships you get when you finally do this are with people who like you for who you are, not who you are trying to be.

To give an example - I'm a guy, and I didn't wind up in my wonderful, straight relationship until I'd asked a guy out (and failed... my gay-dar malfunctioned hard core). However, asking that guy out let me actually come to terms with being bi, in a way where I hadn't even realized I had a problem. But afterwards, there was an almost relaxation and confidence I didn't realize I'd lacked. And suddenly things started working.

"But of course I'm happy being single!" you might say. Thing is - are you? It turns out I wasn't, though I thought I was. There's a difference between actually being happy being single and just not looking for a relationship. It's easy to fall in the trap of saying "I'm happy being single" as a defense to being bad at relationships. How you get there... Uh. That's on you, sorry. I'm just a large cat.

To everyone who thinks they're happy being single - maybe you are, maybe you aren't. But all I can say is if you feel it's working, then I'm not gonna tell you it's wrong.
 
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Deleted member 132067

Guest
"But of course I'm happy being single!" you might say. Thing is - are you?
There's a lot to unpack in that sentence. The question about the why's, how's and if's relating to a relationship can widely vary.
There's ones who are simply fine with being single because they went through a stressful relationship before or it's simply the kind of thing they feel the most relaxed with. A relationship demands work and energy, not everybody can or is willing to spend that.
Others are scared because of past experienced or because there were never any experiences made. Then there's the ones who need to come to terms with their sexuality and self first, because if either of those is off you won't make it far in the dating life.
I would say only a small bit is disillusioned about their stance on being willfully single. Which would be the asexual crowd or the kinds of people who are so incredibly insecure, for whatever reason, that they think of themselves as asexual.
Either way, it's hard to jump to conclusions. The person that usually knows best about all of the above is the person in question. But whatever the case, everything is fine.
 

DariusTheLoony

Darius Nack
When I was a teenager it sucks being single to the point where it messed with my own sanity, but now that I'm an adult I get women on the high and low.
For my own backyard to around the globe.

So to me right now I don't mind if I'm single because I have success in my name.
 

Ziggy Schlacht

Hasn't figured out this "straight" business
There's a lot to unpack in that sentence. The question about the why's, how's and if's relating to a relationship can widely vary.
There's ones who are simply fine with being single because they went through a stressful relationship before or it's simply the kind of thing they feel the most relaxed with. A relationship demands work and energy, not everybody can or is willing to spend that.

Others are scared because of past experienced or because there were never any experiences made. Then there's the ones who need to come to terms with their sexuality and self first, because if either of those is off you won't make it far in the dating life.
I would say only a small bit is disillusioned about their stance on being willfully single. Which would be the asexual crowd or the kinds of people who are so incredibly insecure, for whatever reason, that they think of themselves as asexual.
Either way, it's hard to jump to conclusions. The person that usually knows best about all of the above is the person in question. But whatever the case, everything is fine.

And sure, there's plenty of reasons they might be, or it's the right choice at the moment. "Yes" is a valid answer, or even "no, but I believe it's the right choice right now." However, my question about are you happy was not simply limited to people lying to themselves out of just being in denial. The question of asking yourself are you happy comes with everything you just said - it's in the why. Yes, I'm happy because [reason] or now that you ask, maybe not, but [reason]. Honestly, I cited my own experience because it turns out I wasn't happy being single because I'd never, really, confirmed I played for both teams and it turns out that unknown was a problem.
 

Saokymo

Art Cookie
I may be single, but I’m not alone - I have lots of supportive family and friends to help me out. Romance is fun and all, and I wouldn’t mind having a life partner of some fashion, but I’m not gonna stress myself out worrying about my relationship status when there’s so many other things I can do instead.
 
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ZeroVoidTime

Guest
It is hard being a single one dollar bill........ SINCE OBVIOUSLY THIS IS WHAT THIS THREAD IS ABOUT NYUK NYUK NYUK......... (I'm single since I barely make contact outside of this forum and I cannot meet anyone due to the COVID-19 outbreak.)
 

Chomby

Chimichangas Chimichangas Chimichangas Chimichanga
All the Single Furries! Sing this song along me!

Okay that video was so cringy I couldn't even finish it. God. Please tell me it's supposed to be a shitpost.

Anyway, I'm a single pringle who's currently not looking. I'm an introvert who likes my privacy and don't feel like diving into the deep end of a pool when I don't know how to swim. I have zero relationship experience.
 

Kit H. Ruppell

Exterminieren! Exterminieren!
I think I may no longer be single. Met a musician fur online who might be moving to my area in the not-too-distant future.
 

inkbloom

plant mom and mom friend
Now that I think about it, I have never been in a relationship. I have been chronically single my entire life.
Mostly it has been a personal choice and something I have enjoyed, but I won't lie. Nowadays I find myself getting lonesome and wishing for some companionship. It's just difficult, being who I am and the time that we're living in.
 

Wulf the Jackal

Just a cutie
Single again.
Loneliness is back.
Depression is back.
Help me...
 
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