Coming Out: The Thread (Continued)

[Shay Feral]

My "coming out" was less than stellar, and not fraught with drama. However, copious amounts of alcohol were involved in all but one instance of confession, so I'm not exactly sure who all actually believes, or remembers anything. I have a couple gay friends I told when sober...

But people like my father, brother, and straight/nonfurry friends that I have told, I was skunked on whiskey. Alot of people say they forget things when they're drunk, but I remember alot... So... yeah... Either way, I don't catch shit, so I'm okay! lol

 

[sage-tanuki]

I have no idea how I'll come out to my family. I'm waiting until I leave home for sure. I mean, I act and look like a classic lesbian and I'm pretty sure they basically know but I still hear homophobic (really horrible) comments from both parents on almost a daily basis.
I originally thought I was pansexual but I wouldnt say that now, because 90+% of the time I like girls. Just gonna wait until I'm basically going to marry a girl to tell them, because if by some miracle I end up with a guy they never have to know. Hahaha.

I just would never know how to breach the subject to them.
Congratulations to everyone who came out here, it's really scary.

 

[litchi]

Coming out wasn't terrible for me. I live in a liberal part of the USA and my parents are fairly liberal. There occasionally a homophobic comment they make (not realizing it's homophobic) I get a bit upset over, but it's alright most of the time. I came out as bisexual at first, but realized I like 99% girls, ahah.

Coming out as trans was a different story. They refuse to use my preferred name and pronouns, ugh.

 

[RabidLynx]

Haven't told anybody I'm bi yet, don't think I will anytime soon. Wonder if I should tell anyone I'm gender-fluid. Most people assume I'm cisgender, which I don't mind, so I think it's best if I keep it to myself.

I think there may be another gender-fluid kid at my school. I don't know their name, and I've never talked to them before, but I noticed them a few weeks ago and I've just been kinda watching them (I know it's creepy but I'm just curious bro). They have a male body and a male voice, but I've seen them dressed in feminine clothing and colors. Which could mean they're trans. But I've also seen them in male/unisex clothing, and their hair is boyish. I'm not quite sure, but so far I've just assumed they're gender-fluid. If they are, that would be so cool. That would mean I wouldn't be the only one of my school and I could have a friend that would understand how I feel. and plus they're kinda cute

[e] I'm not sure if this is the right thread for this, but since it's about sexuality I'll give it a shot.

I have a theory. I think there may be more bi people than we think, and a lot of people who are actually bi think they're straight or gay. This is because a person knows they are attracted to one gender, so they just kinda assume they only like that gender. So when they look for love or sex or whatever, they turn to the gender they know for sure they like, and they don't even look at the other gender. They just see the other gender as friends, because they don't consider being in a relationship or having sex with the other gender. I thought I was straight, until I started considering sex and relationships with the other gender. That is how I found out I was bi. I think if more people started to think about the other gender, they might find they are bi. If they aren't, that's fine, but I think there may be more bisexuals than we think because they don't even consider the other gender. Just a theory.

 

[Nekokami]

I'm unsure about my sexuality. I mostly like girls, but sometimes I'm attracted to my own sex...
I might be bi.

 

[WolfNightV4X1]

So I guess the thread topic has moved from 'furryism isn't a thing you come out about' to talking about actually coming out...

Sure I'll join.

So...I think I may be a trans boy...nothing too much like getting a sex change.

I mostly see myself as male, and I'd like to be referred as such, at least online. Real life may be too much, and my family will be major 'wtf, no homos in dis house'.

I'd LIKE to have typical male anatomy, but I'd rather have been born and raised as such rather than making the huge switch, especially, like I said, with my family being the way they are. Plus...I don't know if I'd want to go that far anyways. If I could magically change male at will then back and forth hell yeah I would.

So for the most part I'll stick to thinking of myself as male, dressing like a typical male (hate dresses and colorful lacy clothes and stuff, I wear t-shirts and jeans all the time). At most, I might use male pronouns and maybe act a little more masculine.

I'm kinda wondering if I ever decide to be a trans boy if that makes me gay? :3 That sounds fun...minus the double the fun parts, but oh well. Meh, anyways, for the time being I'm sticking to 'boyish girl'...because it's like the socially acceptable version of trans boy.

.....meeeh, anyways, I wanted to get this thing off my chest so glad this thing kinda exists for me to write stuff on.

WNV4X1 out!

I'm normally fairly good at planning things out, but I'm drawing a blank here. Any suggestions or tips?

*cue humorous answer you can ignore if it's insensitive because I was virtually serious a second ago and need to make a humorous response*

Step 1) Call your family into room
Step 2) Hide in closet
Step 3) Come out of closet
Step 4) Say "Swiggity Sway, I'm gay!!!~~~
Step 5) *-*`*~***~Run away*~**~*~**

 

[fonduemaster]

I'm kinda wondering if I ever decide to be a trans boy if that makes me gay?

keep in mind that gender identity =/= sexual orientation

 

[RabidLynx]

I'd LIKE to have typical male anatomy, but I'd rather have been born and raised as such rather than making the huge switch, especially, like I said, with my family being the way they are. Plus...I don't know if I'd want to go that far anyways. If I could magically change male at will then back and forth hell yeah I would.

This... just, this. This is EXACTLY how I feel.
If I could have to power to change my sex whenever I wanted, I would be happy forever. But I wouldn't want to go out and get a sex change.

Of course, this isn't really a huge pressing issue on my life. Sometimes I am comfortable with my body, sometimes I'm not. And sometimes, I just don't give a shit. I just want to be a person.

 

[Saga]

Step 1) Call your family into room
Step 2) Hide in closet
Step 3) Come out of closet
Step 4) Say "Swiggity Sway, I'm gay!!!~~~
Step 5) *-*`*~***~Run away*~**~*~**

I actually did this corny shit, but to a friend.

I was at his house and I just went into his closet when he was in the bathroom, and when he came back I called for him. When he asked why I was in his closet I just walked out, and then back in, and out again.
He looked at me puzzled and I just said I was gay, and it was alright and all.

 

[quai]

My story is much the same as many I've read on here already. Small hick town, not a looker in the bunch, feeling like I just dropped my ass in from Mars. High school didn't bother me all that much. By Senior year almost everyone suspected or knew, and I knew I didn't care. I'd had a couple boyfriends by the time I was eighteen, one real in fact! (go me, right?)

The one person that had an issue with my being gay was someone I didn't expect. My grandma. She was like my mom growing up and I'd never met a more accepting person. I suppose it might have had to do with my grandfather's death about two years before, that and estrogen blockers. To be honest it was pretty soul crushing, she was the rock I based my life on. Hell, I was still mostly agnostic/leaning theist at the time.

Five years later and our relationship pieced itself back together, still dealing with the occasional snide joke from an uncle or two, but I laugh at them more often than they know. I have a wonderful boyfriend [not furry ] and I think everything has fallen into place quite nicely since.

 

[Buxly]

I'm a gay male and ive always wondered actually. Are there anymore men out there who are like me?

Everyone enjoys having sex regardless of their sexuality except the way I see it is sex is just something you can do for fun or occasions rather than what most people seem to think is a necessary component to a relationship. Basically I could have a perfect relationship and never have sex with them except for occasions. Love ins't about what private parts you have. Its about the feeling of love and your ability to express it for someone genuinely.

Anyone else feel that way too?

 

[FenrirDarkWolf]

I'm a gay male and ive always wondered actually. Are there anymore men out there who are like me?

Everyone enjoys having sex regardless of their sexuality except the way I see it is sex is just something you can do for fun or occasions rather than what most people seem to think is a necessary component to a relationship. Basically I could have a perfect relationship and never have sex with them except for occasions. Love ins't about what private parts you have. Its about the feeling of love and your ability to express it for someone genuinely.

Anyone else feel that way too?

I agree with all this

 

[Buxly]

So many people just get antsy about the whole "Almost no sex" thing. Jeeze sex isnt much at all ya butts :c

 

[Nekokami]

I'm a gay male and ive always wondered actually. Are there anymore men out there who are like me?

Everyone enjoys having sex regardless of their sexuality except the way I see it is sex is just something you can do for fun or occasions rather than what most people seem to think is a necessary component to a relationship. Basically I could have a perfect relationship and never have sex with them except for occasions. Love ins't about what private parts you have. Its about the feeling of love and your ability to express it for someone genuinely.

Anyone else feel that way too?

I feel exactly the same! Sex isn't everything.

 

[Balto Wolfdog]

Hi I know you probably already heard this or don't want to, I'm sorry I just need some advice coming out to my parents. I'm not on the best turns with them and they don't have a problem with gays but they don't think it's right and they think I'm straight but I'm not and I'm not really out spoken so this is hard for me. I'd like some advise or your opinions I'd really appreciate it. Thank you

 

[Hooky]

So I'm gay. I'd sooner be with a guy than a girl purely because I feel very little if any sexual attraction for females. I hope I'm right. Is anyone else worrying a little that they've got it wrong?

 

[Butters Shikkon]

Hi I know you probably already heard this or don't want to, I'm sorry I just need some advice coming out to my parents. I'm not on the best turns with them and they don't have a problem with gays but they don't think it's right and they think I'm straight but I'm not and I'm not really out spoken so this is hard for me. I'd like some advise or your opinions I'd really appreciate it. Thank you

What exactly do you mean by not on the best of terms with them? :S

Anywho, if you feel that they would not kick you out or harm you in anyway I would suggest having a heart to heart with both of them at the same time and explaining that you are homosexual. Really its like pulling off a band-aid...you just do it.

 

[Balto Wolfdog]

What exactly do you mean by not on the best of terms with them? :S

Anywho, if you feel that they would not kick you out or harm you in anyway I would suggest having a heart to heart with both of them at the same time and explaining that you are homosexual. Really its like pulling off a band-aid...you just do it.

Well bad turns being I get into fights with my father over something useless and end with something broke or I leave the house

 

[Kerocola]

There's no way around it but to use your words. Do it as long as you're pretty sure telling them won't make your life unnecessarily difficult, because like it or not you're stuck living with them for a while. It's hard to tell how people receive news though!

If it makes you feel better, I was constantly told how terrible gay people are while growing up. Always heard passive comments about how "if my kid was gay, I'd disown them". I waited until I moved out to say anything, just in case. I actually ended up not having any problems. Instead, I got an apology for all of the comments that were made while I was growing up. That was more gratifying than I could have ever imagined.

 

[Balto Wolfdog]

There's no way around it but to use your words. Do it as long as you're pretty sure telling them won't make your life unnecessarily difficult, because like it or not you're stuck living with them for a while. It's hard to tell how people receive news though!

If it makes you feel better, I was constantly told how terrible gay people are while growing up. Always heard passive comments about how "if my kid was gay, I'd disown them". I waited until I moved out to say anything, just in case. I actually ended up not having any problems. Instead, I got an apology for all of the comments that were made while I was growing up. That was more gratifying than I could have ever imagined.

Yea that's what I'm afraid of, not being excepted but thanks for the words of wisdom

 

[Kocyra]

I'd want to tell my parents, But they are the ultra freaky christian type and I wouldn't want to upset them, I think if I am ever going to do it, It will be via lengthy email, As I couldn't have the strength to tell them in person or even over telecommunications.

 

[Casual Cat]

I'd want to tell my parents, But they are the ultra freaky christian type and I wouldn't want to upset them, I think if I am ever going to do it, It will be via lengthy email, As I couldn't have the strength to tell them in person or even over telecommunications.

Email or a letter is what I'd recommend; You'll be able to say what you want without the fear and stress of the situation making you stumble over your words.

Just don't do what I did, and make your parents find out you were gay (and had just gotten married) over facebook.

...that didn't go over very well.

 

[Butters Shikkon]

Email or a letter is what I'd recommend; You'll be able to say what you want without the fear and stress of the situation making you stumble over your words.

Just don't do what I did, and make your parents find out you were gay (and had just gotten married) over facebook.

...that didn't go over very well.

:C I have a dad like that. So don't feel alone in the situation.

 

[Saga]

Email or a letter is what I'd recommend; You'll be able to say what you want without the fear and stress of the situation making you stumble over your words.

Just don't do what I did, and make your parents find out you were gay (and had just gotten married) over facebook.

...that didn't go over very well.

LOL send them an purple envelope, when they open it a bunch of glitter and streamers fly out...

Person: Are you gay?
RabidLynx: No... I'm bi

Person: Hahahahaha... wait, are you really?
RabidLynx: Uh, n-no! Just joking...
RabidLynx (in my mind): GOD DAMNIT

This so much. I wish I would have just said yes more often

 

[Rekel]

I'd just put a subtle sticker on my car window or something. That way people can figure it out, and I don't have work up words and stutter and shit.

Plus, I read on some other thread that if you act open about something, it's not seen as a huge deal and people care less. I very agree.

EDIT: I bolded and underlined "subtle" because stuff like this borderline makes me cringe. http://rlv.zcache.com/honk_if_gay_b...bc519445db19fed4007140fc7_v9wht_8byvr_512.jpg