LazerMaster5
Lost in the Static
It's fine to be gay, but why glitter? I hate glitter. It gets fucking everywhere, and it magically sticks and makes everything look like a little girl's room. Fuck that shit.
Coming Out: The Thread (Continued)
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tacticaldogtags
Party Time!
I agree.
facelessmaker
New Member
I love this thread.
Edit: Aside from the first part. I've decided to delete the rest. I was drunk and it was weird.
Edit: Aside from the first part. I've decided to delete the rest. I was drunk and it was weird.
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Aggro
Spread your wings!
So, I'm confused about myself, quite frankly. See, I've tried to have girlfriends, and I have had a few, but I'm never happy in a relationship, and I always break it off before 2 weeks. I always want to have a happy relationship, it just never happens. And I've sort of thought about being gay, and I guess I'm in to that sort of stuff. It's like the only thing I can really get off to anymore. I don't know. I'm just super confused.
I dunno, you seemed to explain it quite clearly; not sure what the confusion is about... Do you just not feel comfortable identifying as gay? .-.
xAngelStormx
Cutie :3 apparently...
I've never even seen a snail. Note: I lived in France for 10 years-ish.
I thought this thread was closed? =á´¥= Am I crazy?
...seriously, I thought this was closed.
Astrium
King of the Noodles
Hook up for a one-night stand with a random guy on Craigslist. Then you'll know for sure.
Butters Shikkon
Patron Saint of Queers
Well, here's the easy peesy dick squeezy way to tell.
If a naked man gets your weenie a broilin', you're gay. If a nekkid gurl does, you're straight. If both you're on god-mode, mister.
If a naked man gets your weenie a broilin', you're gay. If a nekkid gurl does, you're straight. If both you're on god-mode, mister.
Kinharia
Drunken Irish Snow Leopard
So I thought I'd go into detail about myself instead of just the one line I gave before.
When I was a child growing up I always had dreams were I'd think of myself as a girl but I just thought "Meh I feel bad for my sister, this is god trying to show me what it is like for her" (I was raised catholic). Then when I hit puberty I would look around and I'd see people coming out as gay, I'd see friends getting into relationships and people would be all like "Hey look at her shes hot! Well what about her! Him?" and I'd just sit there thinking "What's the point?". My mother when the topic of LGBT was brought up would always say "There is nothing wrong with Gays or Lesbians and Bisexuals are just greedy (the bisexual part was always a joke from one of her favourite tv shows) but transexuals there has to be something wrong there.
Now I still had these ideas of me being a girl but I always knew that although a part of me wanted to be a girl another part was just as strong as remaining male so I supressed those thoughts entirely as I didn't want to say "Well sometimes I feel female but others I feel fine as I am" only to have people say to me "You're just perverted". I had no idea about Gender Fluid being a thing at this point. I never really enjoyed the idea of dating growing up and I never really enjoyed the idea of sex either so I put off trying to find someone as I had no sexual feelings for anyone, I thought I was Bisexual for a while as I would look at guys and girls and think "Well they are kind of cute, kind of like a nice art piece but no more" so I started supressing any idea of liking guys as the idea of sex was (and still is) quite revolting. I eventually had sex with two girls (no not at the same time
) and really I was left thinking "This is it? When does the good part come? This is it?" and well the idea of sex still revolts me ^_^.
After a while of being in this fandom and thanks to the teamspeak as well I started to feel more comfortable with myself, friends pointed me to sites that helped me discover who I am and know that "Hey, this is an actual thing!" and so at the end of March I came out as Gender Fluid and still kept to my asexuality at the same time. I feel comfortable to look at people of the same gender and opposite gender and see the beauty in them and not have to worry about others going "Hurr Durr, you want yiff" as I know I don't and that to me is all that matters. I regret not becoming a part of the fandom offically sooner but I am so glad I did!
When I was a child growing up I always had dreams were I'd think of myself as a girl but I just thought "Meh I feel bad for my sister, this is god trying to show me what it is like for her" (I was raised catholic). Then when I hit puberty I would look around and I'd see people coming out as gay, I'd see friends getting into relationships and people would be all like "Hey look at her shes hot! Well what about her! Him?" and I'd just sit there thinking "What's the point?". My mother when the topic of LGBT was brought up would always say "There is nothing wrong with Gays or Lesbians and Bisexuals are just greedy (the bisexual part was always a joke from one of her favourite tv shows) but transexuals there has to be something wrong there.
Now I still had these ideas of me being a girl but I always knew that although a part of me wanted to be a girl another part was just as strong as remaining male so I supressed those thoughts entirely as I didn't want to say "Well sometimes I feel female but others I feel fine as I am" only to have people say to me "You're just perverted". I had no idea about Gender Fluid being a thing at this point. I never really enjoyed the idea of dating growing up and I never really enjoyed the idea of sex either so I put off trying to find someone as I had no sexual feelings for anyone, I thought I was Bisexual for a while as I would look at guys and girls and think "Well they are kind of cute, kind of like a nice art piece but no more" so I started supressing any idea of liking guys as the idea of sex was (and still is) quite revolting. I eventually had sex with two girls (no not at the same time
) and really I was left thinking "This is it? When does the good part come? This is it?" and well the idea of sex still revolts me ^_^. After a while of being in this fandom and thanks to the teamspeak as well I started to feel more comfortable with myself, friends pointed me to sites that helped me discover who I am and know that "Hey, this is an actual thing!" and so at the end of March I came out as Gender Fluid and still kept to my asexuality at the same time. I feel comfortable to look at people of the same gender and opposite gender and see the beauty in them and not have to worry about others going "Hurr Durr, you want yiff" as I know I don't and that to me is all that matters. I regret not becoming a part of the fandom offically sooner but I am so glad I did!
TrishaCat
The Cat in the FAF
Found out that I'm bi.
I'm honestly deathly afraid for no good reason of meeting a guy I like because I fear explaining such to my parents.
My parents would be totally cool with it, so its not as if I have any good reason for being afraid of such a situation. I just...fear it. I think the worst part of it is that I don't want to disappoint my dad. I respect him so much, and I'm afraid it'd come off as a disappointment to him.
I'm honestly deathly afraid for no good reason of meeting a guy I like because I fear explaining such to my parents.
My parents would be totally cool with it, so its not as if I have any good reason for being afraid of such a situation. I just...fear it. I think the worst part of it is that I don't want to disappoint my dad. I respect him so much, and I'm afraid it'd come off as a disappointment to him.
facelessmaker
New Member
Yea, but what if it's just that cock that you're gay for? That's my dilemma. In the furry realm I'm bi without a doubt but the real male figure, aside from the mid-section when I'm in that kind of mood, just doesn't quite spark anything yet. Furry males? No problem at all.
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Sylox
boi...chill out!
It felt "weird" whenever me and another guy would wrestle when I was 8 years old. By 13 I knew I was bi and at on my 21st birthday, I accepted myself. I only decided to come out this year, because I was tired of hiding something that I knew my parents wouldn't object to. I feel terrible for wasting a good portion of my life in the closet and doing everything in my power to be "normal" and maintain a facade that seemed to fool everyone (including me) for a long time. I have done many things to suppress and ultimately rid myself of being bisexual that I'm not proud of. From about 15 until 17, I was VERY religious; I'm talking about like WBC religious. I used to gay bash all of the time and think nothing of it. I would tease LGBT people, cyber bully them and one time, I beat up a gay person and almost got arrested for it; I'm not proud of this at all.
By the time I left for college, I softened my stances a bit, dropping the idea that being gay was a choice and started to support civil unions and then same-sex marriage; this was when I was a Progressive/social justice warrior. The less I became religious, the more open I became as a person. Of course, when I was depressed and had entered into a death spiral towards the absolute lowest, I hated myself and told myself I was abnormal because I wasn't straight. Again I started to think that I had a disease and was not normal at all. I feared being beaten up and ostracized by my peers; you have to realize, being LGBT in the African American community isn't fondly looked upon and the HBCU I was at for 3 years, well, lets just say they weren't friendly towards LGBT folk. So this was about the beginning of 2011, and I looked into conversion camps/programs and I once again took to gay bashing and eventually found myself cyber bullying people on Yahoo Answers. I'd bully them for HOURS, literally, that became my "social life" and the religious trolls and douchebags were my "circle". In April I reached rock bottom and almost killed myself. I was very depressed for months and continued to troll YA!, until I somebody retaliated and put me in my place. Now it was...I guess November and I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself and began to actually give a shit about my life. I started to groom myself, dress better, be more open minded and laugh a little.
So now it's February 2012 and I planned on telling my parents when they got back from Madi Gras that I was bi, because they wouldn't have cared, sadly, my father had a heart attack the day he got back and on the 21st, he died. I was crushed and I reverted to that dark place for a long time. In May, I decided to accept myself, realizing that I had grown up alot to that point; I accepted that it wasn't a choice, and I would always have a thing for both men and women; why fight it, accept it. My cousins, one who is gay and one who's a Lesbian, figured it out in 2013 when we went on vacation and couldn't stop eyeing this hot guy with blue eyes, OMG, he was so fine. Anyway, fast foward to April 1, 2015. That evening after I came back from my trip, I decided to spill the beans to my mom. Being out of my room gave me time to think and I told her that I was bisexual. She just said "Okay, w/e makes you happy." Since then, she hasn't looked at me any differently and life still goes on as it should.
Well, that's my story. All I can say is that I hope somebody who's a teen and is reading this, doesn't make the same mistake I did. Don't end up wasting your life being angry all of the time and doubting who you are as a person. It's not worth it.
By the time I left for college, I softened my stances a bit, dropping the idea that being gay was a choice and started to support civil unions and then same-sex marriage; this was when I was a Progressive/social justice warrior. The less I became religious, the more open I became as a person. Of course, when I was depressed and had entered into a death spiral towards the absolute lowest, I hated myself and told myself I was abnormal because I wasn't straight. Again I started to think that I had a disease and was not normal at all. I feared being beaten up and ostracized by my peers; you have to realize, being LGBT in the African American community isn't fondly looked upon and the HBCU I was at for 3 years, well, lets just say they weren't friendly towards LGBT folk. So this was about the beginning of 2011, and I looked into conversion camps/programs and I once again took to gay bashing and eventually found myself cyber bullying people on Yahoo Answers. I'd bully them for HOURS, literally, that became my "social life" and the religious trolls and douchebags were my "circle". In April I reached rock bottom and almost killed myself. I was very depressed for months and continued to troll YA!, until I somebody retaliated and put me in my place. Now it was...I guess November and I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself and began to actually give a shit about my life. I started to groom myself, dress better, be more open minded and laugh a little.
So now it's February 2012 and I planned on telling my parents when they got back from Madi Gras that I was bi, because they wouldn't have cared, sadly, my father had a heart attack the day he got back and on the 21st, he died. I was crushed and I reverted to that dark place for a long time. In May, I decided to accept myself, realizing that I had grown up alot to that point; I accepted that it wasn't a choice, and I would always have a thing for both men and women; why fight it, accept it. My cousins, one who is gay and one who's a Lesbian, figured it out in 2013 when we went on vacation and couldn't stop eyeing this hot guy with blue eyes, OMG, he was so fine. Anyway, fast foward to April 1, 2015. That evening after I came back from my trip, I decided to spill the beans to my mom. Being out of my room gave me time to think and I told her that I was bisexual. She just said "Okay, w/e makes you happy." Since then, she hasn't looked at me any differently and life still goes on as it should.
Well, that's my story. All I can say is that I hope somebody who's a teen and is reading this, doesn't make the same mistake I did. Don't end up wasting your life being angry all of the time and doubting who you are as a person. It's not worth it.
belmonkey
Bel
I have quite an identity dilemma that bugs me a lot. I'm a guy and I've been with my bf for 3 years, and yet my sexual interest is still mostly towards women. I'm more romantically attracted to guys, but my body seems to want a woman (doesn't stop me from doing stuff with my bf though). To complicate things even further, I've had ideas of becoming a girl since I was a teen (10 years ago), but I cannot even tell if it was just fantasies or something more that I desired to be a reality. I wish I could just simply be gay and not have such conflicting feelings.
Butters Shikkon
Patron Saint of Queers
If only life were so simple.
Wax
Always tired
I'm gay. I told my mother like two years ago now... I mentioned it to her once again in that same year and have mentioned literally nothing about it to her since. She took it totally fine, but it just never comes up in conversation.
When it comes to telling people, I start to feel very weird. It's almost as though the notion of me being gay doesn't sit right with me... I don't like talking about it, I just want people to know that: "I'm gay, I'm the same person I was before, but if we ever talk about relationships just know that I'm into dudes. Thanks." But the truth is I'm hella gay and am pretty open about it mentally.
I've got a pretty close circle of extremely kind and compassionate friends in a group chat on facebook, I'm thinking of telling them, but again it just doesn't sit right with me, them knowing. It's probably nerves, though.
I have forever felt that all of my friends just low-key know anyway, they're just waiting for me to come out (pun not intended) and tell them.
When it comes to telling people, I start to feel very weird. It's almost as though the notion of me being gay doesn't sit right with me... I don't like talking about it, I just want people to know that: "I'm gay, I'm the same person I was before, but if we ever talk about relationships just know that I'm into dudes. Thanks." But the truth is I'm hella gay and am pretty open about it mentally.
I've got a pretty close circle of extremely kind and compassionate friends in a group chat on facebook, I'm thinking of telling them, but again it just doesn't sit right with me, them knowing. It's probably nerves, though.
I have forever felt that all of my friends just low-key know anyway, they're just waiting for me to come out (pun not intended) and tell them.
Astrium
King of the Noodles
This summarizes my thoughts pretty well. Even though my parents are pretty liberal, I'm not 100% certain they'd be cool with me being bi and so I haven't really told them yet. I probably won't unless I end with a boyfriend and a lot of explaining to do. It just doesn't seem like it really matters otherwise. That's actually my reasoning for not telling my friends either. I just don't really see why they need to know at the moment. If it becomes important, I'll tell them, but otherwise I just haven't really had a reason yet.
Imperial Impact
The Imperial Juicer
Why is this still a thing?
Butters Shikkon
Patron Saint of Queers
Homophobia, noob?
Imperial Impact
The Imperial Juicer
It's 2015.
Being gay is like one of the last things people should be worrying about.
Butters Shikkon
Patron Saint of Queers
Kinda embarrassing that there is still homophobia in 2015, yes. People shouldn't have to endure bullshit for being born as God made em. Glad you agree.
Kinharia
Drunken Irish Snow Leopard
Can't speak for the US but I can speak for Ireland. Things are different here and LGBTQA are still treated very differently here. It's changing that is for sure but families hold a view of "I don't mind Gays or Lesbians so long as my child isn't one. Oh and there is no such thing as Bisexuals they are just confused and people who are Transgender are sick in the head. What is a Genderqueer? Asexuals can't exist, everyone likes sex"
Astrium
King of the Noodles
I am actually legitimately confused by homophobia (and racism and sexism for that matter). I mean, Homo sapiens have been on Earth for 200,000 years, how have we not firgured out how to not be shitheads to each other yet?
Imperial Impact
The Imperial Juicer
I mean, at this day of age, We have SJW, Bronies, redditfags, tumblrfags, Let's players .etc walk among the earth.
Being a fucking brony is more embarrassing than being gay.