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A couple of years back, my older half brother came out as being gay. From my understanding of the situation, it didn't go down very well to say the least with my dad (who isn't said brother's biological father, I might add). After A year or so, my dad finally came round a bit and started being less of a dick to him.. While he was in his presence at least anyway.
Once my brother moved out, my dad started saying things about him behind his back. One such recent example is that when I told him that my brother followed me on twitter, he replied with something along the lines of "Why? He just posts his gayboy stuff". I really wanted to burst out in rage at him at this point but just decided to shrug and quickly divert the topic away from him. It's so weird though. He tries to act as if he's ok with LGBT folk but then blurts out something like that. It's gotten to the point where I actually feel anxious whenever something to do with LGBT rights or people comes up on the TV while he's in the room.Even in games... In the Witcher 3 there's (early game spoiler) an LGBT questgiver NPC that mentions their homosexual relations. My dad's reaction was "bloody gays getting everywhere these days".
This of course puts me in a very awkward position. I'm still closeted bi and I am his eldest biological son. When I do eventually come out, I fear it will cause a shitstorm of epic proportions with him. Apart from his homophobia, he's genuinely a good guy in all other respects and I don't think he's a bad dad by any means... But I believe he expects grandchildren out of me and a "normal" heterosexual relationship - which still has a chance of happening, don't get me wrong. One of the perks of being bi. :V
I fear he'll say and think the same things behind my back like he does with my brother... I'd rather not feel incredibly awkward and on edge while talking to him at any point after my coming out, but that is what will probably happen... I hate it so much....
My mother on the other hand has always been supportive of my brother and his sexuality. She's an amazing woman, despite her annoyingannoying nagging and habits, but people tell me that's a motherly thing. :V
I go to uni in September of next year, hopefully. Hopefully then my dear SO can visit and see how that goes... If well, I'll come out. If not, I'll wait until it becomes relevant again through another same sex relationship. I can't and won't do it face to face.... That's very prone to irrational and instinctual reactions... My brother definitely learned that the hard way... I'll Probably do it by an indirect method, something like a long form letter. I just don't want this to be a huge conflict....
A couple of years back, my older half brother came out as being gay. From my understanding of the situation, it didn't go down very well to say the least with my dad (who isn't said brother's biological father, I might add). After A year or so, my dad finally came round a bit and started being less of a dick to him.. While he was in his presence at least anyway.
Once my brother moved out, my dad started saying things about him behind his back. One such recent example is that when I told him that my brother followed me on twitter, he replied with something along the lines of "Why? He just posts his gayboy stuff". I really wanted to burst out in rage at him at this point but just decided to shrug and quickly divert the topic away from him. It's so weird though. He tries to act as if he's ok with LGBT folk but then blurts out something like that. It's gotten to the point where I actually feel anxious whenever something to do with LGBT rights or people comes up on the TV while he's in the room.Even in games... In the Witcher 3 there's (early game spoiler) an LGBT questgiver NPC that mentions their homosexual relations. My dad's reaction was "bloody gays getting everywhere these days".
This of course puts me in a very awkward position. I'm still closeted bi and I am his eldest biological son. When I do eventually come out, I fear it will cause a shitstorm of epic proportions with him. Apart from his homophobia, he's genuinely a good guy in all other respects and I don't think he's a bad dad by any means... But I believe he expects grandchildren out of me and a "normal" heterosexual relationship - which still has a chance of happening, don't get me wrong. One of the perks of being bi. :V
I fear he'll say and think the same things behind my back like he does with my brother... I'd rather not feel incredibly awkward and on edge while talking to him at any point after my coming out, but that is what will probably happen... I hate it so much....
My mother on the other hand has always been supportive of my brother and his sexuality. She's an amazing woman, despite her annoyingannoying nagging and habits, but people tell me that's a motherly thing. :V
I go to uni in September of next year, hopefully. Hopefully then my dear SO can visit and see how that goes... If well, I'll come out. If not, I'll wait until it becomes relevant again through another same sex relationship. I can't and won't do it face to face.... That's very prone to irrational and instinctual reactions... My brother definitely learned that the hard way... I'll Probably do it by an indirect method, something like a long form letter. I just don't want this to be a huge conflict....
