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Coming Out: The Thread (Continued)

CannonFodder

CannonFodder

Resistance is futile! If 0 ohm
Re: Rave: Larry Finally Comes Out

Aden said:
I did an experiment a few years ago and found that it was a lot easier to come out as bi to people than just "gay". It's like they get offended if you don't find their sex sexually attractive (or don't share their attraction for the opposite sex).

Also congrats. Great feeling, isn't it?
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If I had to take a guess, I'd have to say in general bisexuals are accepted more because there isn't a negative stereotype surrounding them.
The only real difference going against them compared to the rest of glbt is being roped in as gay by people that don't understand the difference and bisexual erasure.
So bisexual-
+no stereotype
-some people don't understand the difference
-/+bisexual erasure
dinosaurdammit said:
STOP THAT >:C
NO MORE INB4 POST EVER NO MATTER THE CONTEXT >>::CC- actually refer to my avi for the true expression.
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This thread combined bisexuality and christianity, the impending shitfest is a given.
I bet you fifty dollars within 3 pages someone is going to go, "I don't understand why bisexuals/gays bother with religion".
 
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Isen

Isen

Oh dear
Re: Rave: Larry Finally Comes Out

Coming out can be really cathartic. Good job. :3 It can be weird finally feeling like it's a "real world thing".

Tangential: I really really hate it when people are obviously texting each other when they're in a room with a bunch of people. At least, I hate it when it happens to me. There was some drama between me and a few people in my circle of friends and one of them wouldn't stop sending us super emotional texts when we were all hanging out. Holy shit.
 
Tomias_Redford

Tomias_Redford

Knight Of Time
Re: Rave: Larry Finally Comes Out

Heckler & Koch said:
Gratz, I (drunkenly) came out last weekend. It felt good. :3
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I knew you were gay, even before you came out.

*hipster glasses*
 
William

William

I am the guy.
SecretlyAFK said:
Sorry to hear that. I wish it would've gone better for you.
Also, no offense, but your experience is a prime example of why I'll never come out to my parents. That would be a best-case scenario for me.
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I'm the kind of person who has to tell them everything or else I feel like I'm hiding something (from my mom, at least). It's not great, but at least they know and don't reject or loathe me for it.

On the bright side, my great aunt is the most supportive person in the world about it. When I came out to her she hugged me and said that she'd support me no matter what. She's like 56 years old and the sweetest woman ever. It always makes me happy when older adults don't think of you badly.
 
Bando

Bando

Ya boy
Re: Rave: Larry Finally Comes Out

Huge congrats! It can be a really tough decision, not to mention stressful to work up the courage to actually send the text.

I came out to my friend the same way pretty much, and it feels great. :3
 
Itakirie

Itakirie

:v
Re: Rave: Larry Finally Comes Out

I knew it. I could tell by your voice on the voice thread. :V

But seriously, congratulations. I'm proud of you. c:
Also...church people? Please tell me if any of the others happen to find out that they're open minded about these things...
 
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Larry

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Re: Rave: Larry Finally Comes Out

Aden said:
I did an experiment a few years ago and found that it was a lot easier to come out as bi to people than just "gay". It's like they get offended if you don't find their sex sexually attractive (or don't share their attraction for the opposite sex).

Also congrats. Great feeling, isn't it?
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"LOL So yeah, I'm gay, but I also like girls, too. So don't think you're barking up the wrong tree, I just think you're ugly."

And yeah, it felt good finally telling someone about how I feel. I really don't do that at all to anyone, but it's great having someone who'll listen and care for you. :3
Heckler & Koch said:
Gratz, I (drunkenly) came out last weekend. It felt good. :3
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"drunkenly"? Did you even remember the whole scene? lol
Itakirie said:
I knew it. I could tell by your voice on the voice thread. :V
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Hey, any straight man can sound like a flamboyant model. :V
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/5938965 (You be the judge)
But seriously, congratulations. I'm proud of you. c:
Also...church people? Please tell me if any of the others happen to find out that they're open minded about these things...
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Well, I'm only gonna say this through my experience:
There are Christians who don't think God hates gays, and that God is an accepting God. Now the Christian friends that I know aren't exactlly the average type of Christian (they're hipsters, so...), and they rarely talk about "JESUS LOVES ME" 24/7, but yeah, some of my friends AFAIK are open-minded.

Now, since I actually found confindence in myself, I'm gonna tell a few more people that I know they'll be cool with me. I'm not gonna rush it, and do it all I once in a text, but I would like to come out in person at least one time.

The funny part is, I'm only telling some of my female friends. Doesn't it seem easier to come out to a girl, or is it that just me? Maybe it's the femininity that comforts me...
 
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Thatch

Thatch

Still not at 10k posts
Re: Rave: Larry Finally Comes Out

A guy coming out to a girl about being BI strikes me as hilariously redundant.

larry669 said:
I FINALLY CAME ON SOMEONE.
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:V
 
moonchylde

moonchylde

He's like, this guy, you know?
Re: Rave: Larry Finally Comes Out

CannonFodder said:
I bet you fifty dollars within 3 pages someone is going to go, "I don't understand why bisexuals/gays bother with religion".
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Shit, there goes my contribution. I guess I'll have to take it to my own rant thread. :V
 
Browder

Browder

Wishes He could Fly
Re: Rave: Larry Finally Comes Out

larry669 said:
So now, I am officially bisexual, leaning on gay. I really don't know if I should've posted this in the Coming Out thread, but this was a remarkable moment in my life for me, so I'm kinda raving about this. I hope you don't mind. :3
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Yes you should have.

But congratulations. Next stop, parents.
 
Browder

Browder

Wishes He could Fly
Re: Rave: Larry Finally Comes Out

larry669 said:
LOL Fuck no. They're not exactly "gay friendly", so I don't think I'll ever come out to them. >.>
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If I can come out to my fervent deep-south baptist grandma as bi, you can come out to your parents.

Parents, Larry. Make it happen. :V
 
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Larry

Guest
Re: Rave: Larry Finally Comes Out

Browder said:
If I can come out to my fervent deep-south baptist grandma as bi, you can come out to your parents.

Parents, Larry. Make it happen. :V
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Dang, deep-south? You sir, have balls of steel.

And I've been freaking out for the past 10 seconds because I pressed the refresh button and I ended up somewhere else. I didn't realize you moved the thread, so that was kinda weird. XP
 
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ArgonTheFox

Member
Just came out to my mum. she just sat there in silence for what felt like 10 years then she was just like "oh your still growing up, your horemoans are all over the place, you will change as you get older, you never know you might find a girl you really like."

I might try again when ive "stopped growing" then see if she will listen.
 
Spatel

Spatel

Well-Known Member
So I just came out as 3 different letters to my parents this morning.

trans
bi
genderqueer

They're very shellshocked. I told them I did not want to pursue SRS, that I was 6'3" and could never pass as a woman. I told them that I was dissatisfied with the options available for transsexuals in my position, and I had become exceedingly depressed and unable to motivate myself to move my life forward academically or career-wise because of it. I suspect there will be a long conversation when they have time this evening.

I plan to just identify as genderqueer publicly and leave it at that. If I manage to make a long-term heterosexual relationship work, then I'll probably stick with that. If I never do in the next few years, then we'll probably change the conversation.
 
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Bliss

Member
Spatel said:
I have a great face for it. Other than the height there would be no problems. I have no ambitions to join the WNBA though. Hate basketball.
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When I was little we passed this woman at a mall. She was most likely over two metres tall (6'7?) and - now when I think about it later - probably a transwoman. Sure, she got looks from people... but they all whispered: "Wow! That was a tall lady!"

Not to mention with what confidence she carried herself. She even gave me a big smile. :grin:
 
Grey Wolverine

Grey Wolverine

The saint of Furr Affinity
Well I have reached a decision, Im going to tell a friend of mine named Rob within a week, why? Because out of all of the friends I have, Coolguy Rob is probably one of the few who would still stay friends with me even though I like men.
 
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Larry

Guest
Grey Wolverine said:
Well I have reached a decision, Im going to tell a friend of mine named Rob within a week, why? Because out of all of the friends I have, Coolguy Rob is probably one of the few who would still stay friends with me even though I like men.
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Glad you found someone to tell.

Make sure you tell us how it went down. :3
 
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