Coming Out: The Thread (Continued)
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Grey Wolverine
The saint of Furr Affinity
And if it dosn't go well, Ill send you pictures of buttered toast.
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Larry
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Mr. Brightside
Mr. Perma-absent
Yeah, because your dad doesn't know yet! GO MAKE IT HAPPEN.
Spatel
Well-Known Member
Guys, don't bully people to out themselves. It can end terribly. There is a time and a place, and they'll know when that time and place is. Even parents that seem progressive can do a 180 when their own flesh and blood gets involved.
~case in point~
my dear mother thinks transsexuality is a choice. she's a lifelong democrat
there's no way to anticipate personal hangups
~case in point~
my dear mother thinks transsexuality is a choice. she's a lifelong democrat
there's no way to anticipate personal hangups
Browder
Wishes He could Fly
Yeah I know. I'm just having fun teasing him.
Mr. Brightside
Mr. Perma-absent
Whell, I came out to a friend today. He didn't care all that much. It didn't feel like much changed, but then again, that is a good thing.
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shaaaark
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Scotty1700
is bored :V
Just told my friend I was bi (yeah it's cheating as that's only half true) but at least it's a start. Feels good.
Lemoncholic
Member
I'm glad you've told somebody, any plans to tell anybody else any time soon?
Scotty1700
is bored :V
Meh, it's on my facebook wall. I'm sure at least a few others know by now.
Grey Wolverine
The saint of Furr Affinity
Well I told my friend Rob last night, and he basically said "hey man, I'm here for you if you need it." So things went well, Sorry Larry, no toast.
Mr. Brightside
Mr. Perma-absent
Nice. Can I have the toast? :3
kaithewolf
New Member
Ok so im pretty sure that im bi but but don't want to come out unless I know for sure but how do I find out if I don't come out can any help
Cain
Guess what mood I'm in today.
How do you find out if you're bi?
Have a relationship with a man & woman (But not at the same time >.>) Then have sex with a man & woman (Again, not at the same time). If you feel extremely uncomfortable doing either one of these things, or even thinking about it, you're either Straight, or gay.
You don't need to 'come out' to know if you're straight or gay.
Darkwing
Member
Oh god, well, last night I had a talk with a very close friend from Jersey, and, well, me and him are now boyfriends =3
But how do I explain all of this to my parents now? I was thinking of just surprising them on our first date but my friends are telling me that's a bad idea. (Is it a bad idea?) I find it way too awkward now to be sitting them down and explaining all this shit.
But how do I explain all of this to my parents now? I was thinking of just surprising them on our first date but my friends are telling me that's a bad idea. (Is it a bad idea?) I find it way too awkward now to be sitting them down and explaining all this shit.
Cain
Guess what mood I'm in today.
Find out their opinion on gays, subtly of course.
Darkwing
Member
Well I already know how they feel about gays, I dunno how things will turn out once they find out.
My mom is absolutely homophobic, but she loves me a lot and she told me that she would accept me no matter what, dunno how much she means it when she says that.
My dad just doesn't care about gays, he's kinda on the fence about the whole thing. I think it's better to talk to him first about it because my mom is a nervous wreak all the time and I think it would get very ugly telling her myself.
Cain
Guess what mood I'm in today.
That would be a good route of approach. Good luck!
Conker
Destroyer of Nazi Teddy Bears
I don't know your current living situation, but it might be wise to just hold off on telling them for awhile yet. I've read enough horror stories about people coming out to their parents to know erring on the side of caution is never a bad thing.
Darkwing
Member
Thanks dude!
But yeah, I think I might keep it a secret, I really don't know, either way I'm fucked and not in the good way. Even though my dad's on the fence about it, I bet he would be very shocked knowing his own flesh and blood is gay with a boyfriend.
It's very confusing, but at least I have a lot of time to think because my boyfriend's going on vacation for two weeks and we are going to have our first date the weekend after =3
No other way to change things than an individual being brave and taking the first step.
If you want the world to know, you got to let it show.
Conker
Destroyer of Nazi Teddy Bears
True, but since people have been kicked out of their homes for coming out, it's usually best to wait if you aren't sure how your parents will take it. He even said he's unsure about how much his mom will freak out, and that his dad is on the fence. If he's pretty well dependent upon both of his parents right now, then he shouldn't try and fuck that up.No other way to change things than an individual being brave and taking the first step.
If you want the world to know, you got to let it show.
Being brave and being smart don't need to be opposites.