Coming Out: The Thread (Continued)

[Lunar]

Oh, pish posh. If she's anything like a lot of the gay people I've met, she'll be glad to have found another one, to at least talk to, if nothing else. I've noticed that a lot of the so-called bisexuals or lesbians claim to be so, but then they're like "whuuuut? Vagina? Gross!"

 

[pikayoshigirl]

Oh, she's definitely a lesbian. She's best friends with one of my guy friends. He said she won't even consider dating guys (I feel bad for him; he has a crush on her xD). Apparently, she used to date guys when she was younger, but not anymore. She says she only did it because she was afraid people would find out she was gay, so she pretended to be straight...I'm not sure what to think of this.

She's pretty open about it on Facebook now, though.

I just wish I had more confidence. Going to an all-girl high school made me afraid of other girls, I think. And I'm attracted to them. -_-;

 

[Lunar]

I usually just play the adorable bashful card, and that usually works. Kickin' at the ground and givin' em that Eeyore-ish look. And compliments. Compliments go a long way.

 

[pikayoshigirl]

I love giving out compliments. I hope she doesn't think I'm creepy or anything if I give her one. I think I'm just being paranoid, though.

 

[Lunar]

Nah. I can't think of anyone who wouldn't appreciate a compliment.

 

[Aetius]

Update: So I came out to almost every person I knew besides my family members.

I pretty much got a positive reception, although some people are greatly confused as I was the straightest person they knew according to them.

 

[Schwimmwagen]

Update: So I came out to almost every person I knew besides my family members.

I pretty much got a positive reception, although some people are greatly confused as I was the straightest person they knew according to them.

HIGH FIVE.

You should come out to me next.

 

[shteev]

Update: So I came out to almost every person I knew besides my family members.

I pretty much got a positive reception, although some people are greatly confused as I was the straightest person they knew according to them.

What's keeping you from coming out to your family? You should focus on that. The sooner the better, IMO.

 

[Schwimmwagen]

What's keeping you from coming out to your family? You should focus on that. The sooner the better, IMO.

Take it from me, that will probably be a hell of a shit move.

He should only do it if he can understand his family's opinion on homosaxophones some time beforehand.

 

[shteev]

Take it from me, that will probably be a hell of a shit move.

He should only do it if he can understand his family's opinion on homosaxophones some time beforehand.

So if they don't like homosexuals he's just supposed to stay closeted and never come out to his parents? What happens when they expect him to get a girlfriend?

 

[Schwimmwagen]

So if they don't like homosexuals he's just supposed to stay closeted and never come out to his parents? What happens when they expect him to get a girlfriend?

Way to not read my post for the suggested course of action.

I don't know about you guys, but I would rather my parents be all like "hur dur get gurl fran" rather than treat me like a piece of shit altogether. I'd like the same for Mike, too. He is my friend and I'd hate to see him get treated in such a poor way.

 

[shteev]

Way to not read my post for the suggested course of action.

I don't know about you guys, but I would rather my parents be all like "hur dur get gurl fran" rather than treat me like a piece of shit altogether. I'd like the same for Mike, too. He is my friend and I'd hate to see him get treated in such a poor way.

I responded to your suggested method of action. What if he finds that his parents don't like homosexuality?

And the truth is always better than a lie.

 

[Aetius]

I responded to your suggested method of action. What if he finds that his parents don't like homosexuality?

And the truth is always better than a lie.

Sometimes a lie may be better imo sometimes, I just want to try to become less dependent on them before I tell them I am gay to minimize any damage that could be created.

 

[Schwimmwagen]

I responded to your suggested method of action. What if he finds that his parents don't like homosexuality?

And the truth is always better than a lie.

Consider yourself lucky that you had an accepting family. It's always good to be truthful about it, but do we know that Mike's family is accepting or not? It'd be a shame for him to come out to a family that doesn't accept him. I did that once, and it shouldn't have to happen to anyone. All in all, I wish him the best with it.

 

[shteev]

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Consider yourself lucky that you had an accepting family. It's always good to be truthful about it, but do we know that Mike's family is accepting or not? It'd be a shame for him to come out to a family that doesn't accept him. I did that once, and it shouldn't have to happen to anyone. All in all, I wish him the best with it.

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Sometimes a lie may be better imo sometimes, I just want to try to become less dependent on them before I tell them I am gay to minimize any damage that could be created.

That also works.

 

[eversleep]

Probably been posted already but I don't see a point in coming out.

 

[Spatel]

Once you come out, you start acting gayer. It's gradual, but most of the incentive to hold back those mannerisms is gone, so you start to act like the fruitcake you always wanted to be able to act like.

 

[eversleep]

Once you come out, you start acting gayer. It's gradual, but most of the incentive to hold back those mannerisms is gone, so you start to act like the fruitcake you always wanted to be able to act like.

Okay but for people who aren't fruitcakey, there's no point.

 

[The_Mask]

Sometimes a lie may be better imo sometimes, I just want to try to become less dependent on them before I tell them I am gay to minimize any damage that could be created.

Ditto sir. I'm on a student loan that is dependent on my parents. Still haven't decided whether it's worth risking losing my financial aid.

Once you come out, you start acting gayer. It's gradual, but most of the incentive to hold back those mannerisms is gone, so you start to act like the fruitcake you always wanted to be able to act like.

Not a fruitcake. It did occur to me the other day that I could pretty much get away with anything if people knew though. The trolling opportunities would triple.

 

[Keeroh]

Ditto sir. I'm on a student loan that is dependent on my parents. Still haven't decided whether it's worth risking losing my financial aid.

I'm in the same boat. Honestly, I have accepting friends. I'm completely okay with putting off being out to my family until I'm completely independent from em. Getting ones education and life stable is a bigger priority than being completely honest about your sexuality to your family. It's only temporary, but you can set yourself back pretty damn far if you have an extremely negative reaction and get booted out and cut off.

 

[Goronian]

Hello, my username is Goronian and my biological sex happens to not be the same, as my psychological gender. It's a long and convoluted story, but, suffice to say, my then-future husband helped me get through the worst of it and encouraged me to come out, mostly to myself. My mother is aware of it, although she mostly pretends she never heard it, since on the outside we look "normal". Even had your traditional wedding, and stuff. So yeah, that's that.

 

[Kosdu]

Well...... hey guys.

Just want to know what to expect from a highschool, junior year if one comes out. The school is full of a bunch of "good 'ole boys". Alot more jerks then out here in Idaho.
My friend wants to come out. People already give him stuff for being a furry. It's complicated, but he has two personalities. No, he is not crazy. It's complicated.
One is extremely forgiving.... however his other has a temper even if he is also a friend. I don't want my friend to go open as he wants to if more people will taunt him.....
He is good at holding back anger.... but being very strong and trained in some extremely deadly martial arts moves....... yeehhhhh.



Might go open myself one day. My Mom and a few friends know.
Problem is, I haven't fully explored this sexuality yet. I mean... in... err.... yiff..... yes, but not with another in person. Just want to make sure it is what I want to claim.

I don't suppose anyone knows a gay-meter test? (less than half kidding)

 

[Lunar]

I'd get a little more experience before you fully come out. As for your friend, if he knows how to fight and defend himself, what's the worry?

 

[Kosdu]

He hates violence.

The one time I saw him angry he nearly ripped someone's face off. I stepped in.

His life is just hard enough already.


If everything goes right... I'll have PLENTY of experience this summer.

 

[Lunar]

Then he's gotta make a decision. Defend himself, or be a closeted gay.