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Feste

Feste

I haven't found an answer yet
I confess I'm still not sure what my fetish really is. Anyone want to help me find out? XP
 
Mr. Sparta

Mr. Sparta

Scale Face
You know what, reading this thread angers me, but not like the rest of you. I can reflect myself onto here right now.

There is a reason I try not to talk to people.

To me, all conversations are basically defusing bombs. I feel like I have no free will in social settings. Because in most incidences where I try to speak with my own words, I end up "triggering" them and I get outed by the entire group for being "offensive". Then I usually wish I could just kill myself then and there. And it not just irl either. Hell, there are times even on this forum that I wanted to blow my skull in half.

If you knew. God, if you knew the feeling. The abyss in your stomach, the lump in your throat, the tightness in your jaw. Reading negative responses to my freedom of speech only gives me three little words to have liberty to think:

I.
Hate.
Myself.

I hate myself. It's true. It's something I think daily now. But do you know the punch line to this joke, though? I have it all going for me. Eagle scout, honor student, plenty of money, popular kid in high school, confirmed lutheran. Hell, Buzz Aldrin sent me a letter to come to Boston for some elite science programs.

And you know what?

I'm starting to not care.

Because this world has become toxic. This world has become a place where I can get offended by everyone around me, but if I do the same to someone else, I become demonized and banished. All I can do is watch as my confidence in whats "right" diminish.

Little
By
Little

Eventually, no wait, less than that, I might lose it. I want to lock myself away in a room somewhere. Where I don't have to be with anyone, where there won't be anyone to offend by accident. A place where I can think freely, without you people turning my mouth against me.

I'm sad.

Crying now.

Fuck, why am I writing this?

Why am I breaking my personal silence?

And posting it to a confessions thread?

This isn't a statement, not even a rant.

It's just me, arguing with myself.

Hating myself.

Offending myself.

I'm not advocating for Mara's rights nor your rights to be angry at him. It's just that I've been in times where I feel that everyone hates me because I say something out of the norm. Because I don't fit their expectations as a human being. Because I sometimes want to have a little fun.

I can talk about rape and rape humor casually.

There, I said it. Go ahead, destroy me. Call Mara or I disrespectful. It's not like I'm going to be listening.

Or be even here to hear it.


There, THATS a confession for you furfags.
 
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Misomie

Misomie

Lazy Artist
@Sparta- Just saying, but what Mara posted wasn't appropriate for the forums and should never have been posted here (a private pm, submission to fa, ect. sure, but not on faf in a public forums). It wasn't just talk about rape or a rape joke. Usually members don't tend to mind those anyways.

I'm sorry you have to deal with such judgemental people in your life. It's a shame society tends to be so closed minded but that's just how it is.
 
Volkodav

Volkodav

Dad****er
Dude
You have the right to say shit but people have the right to be offended.
Please understand that rape and sexual abuse victims may not want to hear jokes about raping another furry in the ass. That feeling you get when someone gets mad at you for joking about rape? That's the feeling sexual abuse victims get when they're triggered. I've zoned out before while cutting vegetables and cut my hand wide open, and that's not even the worst of it. It can be so debilitating that all you can do is lay in bed and fucking cry.
If you get anxiety attacks over people getting mad that you joked about raping someone else, please think about how the victims of actual sexual assault feel when they hear that. You have the ability to refrain from doing so and to apologize, but a victim has no choice in whether or not they are triggered and to what severity

Literally all it takes on your part is to say "sorry about that, I will refrain from doing that again in the future" and then... not joke about rape publicly.
Joke about it over Skype with your friends, I don't care, but don't come onto a forum where there are many victims of rape or sexual abuse and then get mad that we get offended or triggered over it.

This isn't like someone saying "I'm triggered by space because thinking of space makes me uncomfortable" or other such bullshit, these are victims who likely have PTSD, who can't help from dissociating when you make "casual jokes"

I have nothing against you and I won't because I know that people can change their behaviour and their views, but please think about how this impacts people.
 
Mr. Sparta

Mr. Sparta

Scale Face
This was exactly the response I thought I'd get.

I'm done.
 
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Mr. Sparta said:
This was exactly the response I thought I'd get.

I'm done.
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"You can measure a man's worth by the selflessness of his actions" - some name that I cannot remember.

Volkodav has many good points in his post. You can't expect to say something like that without suffering the consequences, especially when it is around individuals who are sensitive to the subject.
 
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Volkodav

Volkodav

Dad****er
Why is my response a bad one, or a disappointing one?
Do you expect me and others to just say "okay thanks for knowingly triggering other people and then shrugging it off and not wanting to change the behaviour" or what? I don't get it.
 
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Pingouin7

Member
Mr. Sparta said:
This was exactly the response I thought I'd get.

I'm done.
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It sounds to me like you're just throwing a hissy fit because you can't joke about whatever tasteless subject around strangers without having people call you out on it.

Mika did something tasteless without really realizing that people would not like it, so he apologized and promised not to do something like that again. He's cool.
You, however, are just a terrible person.
 
Volkodav

Volkodav

Dad****er
Pingouin7 said:
It sounds to me like you're just throwing a hissy fit because you can't joke about whatever tasteless subject around strangers without having people call you out on it.

Mika did something tasteless without really realizing that people would not like it, so he apologized and promised not to do something like that again. He's cool.
You, however, are just a terrible person.
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I don't think he's a terrible person unless he knows what he did was wrong, why it was wrong, and just refuses to change despite this. Anybody can change even if they throw a fit like this.
Just my opinion though
 
jtrekkie

jtrekkie

Feathered
Pingouin7 said:
You, however, are just a terrible person.
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You don't know him, and none of us have the right to judge anybody. I don't know what set this off but the response Mara and now Sparta have gotten is terrible. I know all about sexual abuse and panicking over some inconsequential thing, but to tear into someone like that awful. Please, just drop it, Ok?
 
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I almost puked in a movie theater because the room adjacent was playing "Gravity" with the bass turned up way too fucking loud. Like holy fucking shit, I couldn't even hear the bass from explosions in the movie I was watching.

I hate movie theaters.
 
Gator

Gator

Uncledaddy
when i was little, i milked my cat.

the confession part is, i'm disappointed to this day that i did not taste it. i will be forever curious about cat milk.
 
Volkodav

Volkodav

Dad****er
jtrekkie said:
You don't know him, and none of us have the right to judge anybody. I don't know what set this off but the response Mara and now Sparta have gotten is terrible. I know all about sexual abuse and panicking over some inconsequential thing, but to tear into someone like that awful. Please, just drop it, Ok?
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We're not tearing into him, we're explaining why we're upset and asking him to refrain from doing it.
If I'm not even allowed to do that, how in the hell am I to stand up for myself when someone does something that knowingly triggers me?
If you are so quick to defend these two, why won't you defend those of us hurt by words like that?
 
jtrekkie

jtrekkie

Feathered
Volkodav said:
We're not tearing into him, we're explaining why we're upset and asking him to refrain from doing it.
If I'm not even allowed to do that, how in the hell am I to stand up for myself when someone does something that knowingly triggers me?
If you are so quick to defend these two, why won't you defend those of us hurt by words like that?
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You didn't but you weren't the only one here. It seems to me that the response those two have gotten is entirely inappropriate. S.ome of the things said to them can cause the same distress that whatever they said did. Just as we don't know them, they don't know us. If a person is intentionally trying to upset someone, that is one thing but neither of them were doing that.
 
GarthTheWereWolf

GarthTheWereWolf

Captious Lycanthrope of Forum Legend
Mara's post was tasteless and he was justly chastised. But Sparta is usually a pretty even tempered cool guy~ and his outburst feels out of character for him. So I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt and assume something is up to have brought it on. Calling him a terrible person over it is pretty dick move.
 
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