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Does the perfect mate exist?

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Very Hairy Larry

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MEDS said:
If the perfect mate doesn't exist, at least Bad Dragon can probably make it.:rolleyes:
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good........gawd.......almighty..............no...please.......no
 
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aefields

Member
Yes.

The problem is connecting with your perfect mate. Out of billions of people, surely there is someone who would be 'perfect'.
 
Fopfox

Fopfox

Member
Not really, there's compromises that have to be made and ultimately, that's okay so long as you only change so much as you're willing and they accept that.

My partner is on the total opposite end of the political spectrum for example and I'm madly in love.
 
SharpUnforgiven

SharpUnforgiven

Digital Artist
im gonna say the "perfect" mate doesnt exist because 1 if they did and you met them you would want to leave them. and 2 i believe we settle for what we have because we dont like how it feels to be without it
 
LycanTheory

LycanTheory

Free to good home.
SharpUnforgiven said:
i believe we settle for what we have because we dont like how it feels to be without it
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For some. I'd just as soon do without than go through the headaches and struggle of trying to maintain a relationship with someone who's not compatible with me in the slightest.

It's not like I need a mate to complete me as I'm fine by myself. As for anyone I let into my life on that level, it's not because I need someone or anyone, it's because I specifically want that person in my life in that way.
 
quoting_mungo

quoting_mungo

Well-Known Member
LycanTheory said:
For some. I'd just as soon do without than go through the headaches and struggle of trying to maintain a relationship with someone who's not compatible with me in the slightest.
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While I'm not too keen on the wording of "settle for what we have" ("settle" has some connotations of "I'm not happy with this but I'll make do" that I'm not entirely comfortable with), there's a huge difference between accepting that your partner isn't 100% perfect and "trying to maintain a relationship with someone who's not compatible [...] in the slightest".

In order to function in social situations with other human beings we kind of do have to accept each other's quirks to some degree, or at least tolerate them. My husband and I argue remarkably little (I honestly don't think I've met any couple who are quite as close to being pod people as we sometimes seem to be XD), but it absolutely happens that we don't entirely see eye to eye. People that you absolutely adore can still have little habits that you don't like for whatever reason.

If a relationship just isn't working, by all means, cut your losses before you start hating each other. Nothing gets better by trying to hold something together if there's nothing there to build on. Just realize that it's not black and white, but rather a sliding scale of how compatible any given two (or more) people are.
 
LycanTheory

LycanTheory

Free to good home.
quoting_mungo said:
While I'm not too keen on the wording of "settle for what we have" ("settle" has some connotations of "I'm not happy with this but I'll make do" that I'm not entirely comfortable with), there's a huge difference between accepting that your partner isn't 100% perfect and "trying to maintain a relationship with someone who's not compatible [...] in the slightest".

In order to function in social situations with other human beings we kind of do have to accept each other's quirks to some degree, or at least tolerate them. My husband and I argue remarkably little (I honestly don't think I've met any couple who are quite as close to being pod people as we sometimes seem to be XD), but it absolutely happens that we don't entirely see eye to eye. People that you absolutely adore can still have little habits that you don't like for whatever reason.

If a relationship just isn't working, by all means, cut your losses before you start hating each other. Nothing gets better by trying to hold something together if there's nothing there to build on. Just realize that it's not black and white, but rather a sliding scale of how compatible any given two (or more) people are.
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I agree with this to a large extent and to clarify, my idea of a "perfect mate" is simply one who's open minded, accepting and reciprocates the same feelings of love and affection and, of course, one who would actually want to be with me for just being me. I mean, I know we've all got preferences but aside from the basics, what more could one really ask for?
 
Caraid

Caraid

Classy cat
"Perfect" doesn't exist because "perfect" can not be described. What is a perfect partner, exactly? How can you possibly know what combination of emotional and physical needs, wants and experiences a person must have for you to be able to share your life with them? I don't even know my own wants and needs most of the time.

I think this manner of thinking just demonstrates a lack of experience and romanticized standards for what a relationship should be.
 
JinxiFox

JinxiFox

Insanity can be such a beautiful thing.
No.
People are imperfect, therefore a perfect mate can never exist.
You have to accept people with all their flaws. My husband does crap that drives me fucking insane, and I do the same for him, but I would never change that. We work because we are different and flawed, as well as having common ground.
If you are holding out for that 'perfect' person, you will never find them, instead, I suggest you look for that imperfectly lovely person who loves you for you.
 
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swooz

Guest
No. It does not. That only happens when you open a dimensional rift to the "perfect realm" and then you being there will make it the "imperfect realm" which will just make it Earth which will make your whole trip useless.
 
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Deleted member 82554

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Nothing perfect can exist in an imperfect world, some things are just...better...
 
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