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Does the perfect mate exist?

Toby_Morpheus

Toby_Morpheus

Hello, Proto
It really depends on your idea of perfect.

If that means lack of imperfections, then no. One does not exist.

If it means that you and your potential mate may be able to lessen the effects of each others' imperfections, then I'd say that is far more possible.
 
DoeDog

DoeDog

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married dude here, there is no perfect mate, all that matters is that you and that person play for the same team, support each other and have each other's back even if you don't agree on the topic at the moment, you don't even have to like the same things, sharing is ok, but as long as you love each other the rest will be fine, expecting the other person to be your dream mate is a narcissistic idea, and very naive, there is no perfect can't stress this enough.
 
Gaitsu

Gaitsu

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In a world with multiple billions of people, the 'perfect' person for you is out there, but often times, the 'perfect' person for you, you are not 'perfect' for. Just keep an open mind, and potential will kinda just show up eventually.

And if, out of the billions around, you cant find someone you click with, wait a couple of dozen years, I hear all the hot chicks shack up on Epsilon Prime. HAHA! Sci-fi!
 
Yoi Ishiya

Yoi Ishiya

No.
Welp part of a healthy relationship is trust which is built on expectiations voiced early on. You dont find the perfect guy you make the perfect couple.

Warning! This is opinion!
Take time to analyize what you really need in a healthy relationship. The perfect guy doesnt exist but you will find someone who completes you, your puzzle peice that helps create a balance between you and the partner.

TLDR Build relationships on communication, trust, and a balance and you will make the perfect couple.
 

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Okami_No_Heishi

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The perfect mate DOES exist. For everyone!! You justvhave to be patient. It took many years of crazy lovers, being very lonely, being depressed, before I found mine. Married almost 17 years now. She is into everything I am into. We love cosplay at con's and ren fest. And we're looking into getting our partials made together so we can suit together. I am so freaking blessed!!!
 
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Okami_No_Heishi

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quoting_mungo said:
While I'm not too keen on the wording of "settle for what we have" ("settle" has some connotations of "I'm not happy with this but I'll make do" that I'm not entirely comfortable with), there's a huge difference between accepting that your partner isn't 100% perfect and "trying to maintain a relationship with someone who's not compatible [...] in the slightest".

In order to function in social situations with other human beings we kind of do have to accept each other's quirks to some degree, or at least tolerate them. My husband and I argue remarkably little (I honestly don't think I've met any couple who are quite as close to being pod people as we sometimes seem to be XD), but it absolutely happens that we don't entirely see eye to eye. People that you absolutely adore can still have little habits that you don't like for whatever reason.

If a relationship just isn't working, by all means, cut your losses before you start hating each other. Nothing gets better by trying to hold something together if there's nothing there to build on. Just realize that it's not black and white, but rather a sliding scale of how compatible any given two (or more) people are.
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So very true! Don't just settle. If there are more differences than likenesses, you will spend a lot of time fighting. My wife and I rarely ever "fight" anymore. We did in our early days, but that wasn't about differences, it was about stress and money, two things that can make or break you. She's my soulmate. I couldn't imagine life without her because she DOES complete me. We finish each others sentences for christsakes!!
 
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Okami_No_Heishi

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And dont be afraid to try new and unusual things either. A love triangle is how we found each other!
 
nerdbat

nerdbat

Green butt of reason
Gaitsu said:
17 years together people. If she were going to leave him, she would have already. Instead of trying to bring him down, be happy that someone in your comunity found happiness.
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Cool for him and stuff, I just think that advice itself sounds kinda weird, at least in the way it was said. I still can't really understand what the poster implied with that.
 
Gaitsu

Gaitsu

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RandomNinja11 said:
holy shit positivity!
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I know, such an old, outdated tradition

nerdbat said:
Cool for him and stuff, I just think that advice itself sounds kinda weird, at least in the way it was said. I still can't really understand what the poster implied with that.
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Then ask what he ment before getting negative. You might learn something.
_Hushy said:
Well if you want positivity..

I recently found myself my own little dragon and I am so F'ing happy I finally want to stay in this world :')

Lel.
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Grats.
 
quoting_mungo

quoting_mungo

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nerdbat said:
If anything, it sounds like an advice to steal girlfriends from other people
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Girlfriends (and boyfriends!) are people, with their own wants, needs, and emotions. They are not possessions. Ergo, you cannot "steal" someone's partner, and honestly this idea that you can is kind of toxic and should be stamped out.

I'm not saying go out and sleep with other people's partners (unless they're cool with that), because that's pretty disrespectful. But if Person A decides to break up with Person B in order to date Person C who's been sending them roses every week for the past month, that's still a choice Person A made and it shouldn't be invalidated by trying to frame it like it was all Person C's nefarious doing.
 
Sl0shy

Sl0shy

Member
Gaitsu said:
17 years together people. If she were going to leave him, she would have already. Instead of trying to bring him down, be happy that someone in your comunity found happiness.
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yea because playing devil's advocate has to be a bad thing.

quoting_mungo said:
Girlfriends (and boyfriends!) are people, with their own wants, needs, and emotions. They are not possessions. Ergo, you cannot "steal" someone's partner, and honestly this idea that you can is kind of toxic and should be stamped out.

I'm not saying go out and sleep with other people's partners (unless they're cool with that), because that's pretty disrespectful. But if Person A decides to break up with Person B in order to date Person C who's been sending them roses every week for the past month, that's still a choice Person A made and it shouldn't be invalidated by trying to frame it like it was all Person C's nefarious doing.
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>expecting any less than objectification of women from nerbat.
 
Yakamaru

Yakamaru

Woof? Woof
This thread still going? Shit.

Short answer to thread question: No.

Long answer: Nope.
 
quoting_mungo

quoting_mungo

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Sl0shy said:
>expecting any less than objectification of women from nerbat.
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Please don't snipe at other users. It's rude. :(

The notion that significant others can be "stolen" is pretty damn widespread (look at... pretty much any high school/college movie with female main characters, tbh), so it's definitely not something you should be targeting individuals over. If that's what you're taking away from what I said, you're missing the point.
 
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