Does the perfect mate exist?

[RandomNinja11]

I think it's kinda funny how everyone here says the perfect mate could never possibly exist...
I'd say they do, it isnt perfection that makes somebody perfect (if that makes any sense at all) it's the imperfections & the quirks of the person that make them perfect.
The only part left is whether or not you actually accept them entirely.

Although being a serial killer(etc.) is not an imperfection/quirk, it's just wrong, don't kill people pls, thx c:

 

[BritWolf]

Nobodies technically perfect but I like to think there could be someone out there for everyone. An if you happen to be so lucky to stumble across your mate then I'm sure in time you can grow to love eachother. An at the end of the day what you'll have together will be a true happiness an that must feel perfect.

 

[Okami_No_Heishi]

Nobodies technically perfect but I like to think there could be someone out there for everyone. An if you happen to be so lucky to stumble across your mate then I'm sure in time you can grow to love eachother. An at the end of the day what you'll have together will be a true happiness an that must feel perfect.

I was a lucky one! We'll celebrate our 17th wedding anniversary in June. She IS my soulmate. I honestly don't think I could make it without her. I love her so freaking much!! The pefect mate IS out there!! You either have to find him or her, or LET them find you. Alot of people guard their emotions like Fort Knox. Sometimes you just have to let go and give in.

 

[BritWolf]

I was a lucky one! We'll celebrate our 17th wedding anniversary in June. She IS my soulmate. I honestly don't think I could make it without her. I love her so freaking much!! The pefect mate IS out there!! You either have to find him or her, or LET them find you. Alot of people guard their emotions like Fort Knox. Sometimes you just have to let go and give in.

Congratulations on your 17th Wedding Anniversary!! That's quite the milestone an even better when you both still love eachother passionately. I wish everyone here to find the same in their lives.

 

[lyar]

Sometimes its just a matter if the key fits the keyhole.

 

[Okami_No_Heishi]

Congratulations on your 17th Wedding Anniversary!! That's quite the milestone an even better when you both still love eachother passionately. I wish everyone here to find the same in their lives.

Me too.

 

[Okami_No_Heishi]

Congratulations on your 17th Wedding Anniversary!! That's quite the milestone an even better when you both still love eachother passionately. I wish everyone here to find the same in their lives.

Thank you fellow wolf!

 

[Kellan Meig'h]

Thirty-six years with my wife this year. Yeah, the first few years were bumpy but now we're more in tune with one another. She is not totally perfect but neither am I. I have my quirks that she puts up with and I put up with hers.

 

[Okami_No_Heishi]

Thirty-six years with my wife this year. Yeah, the first few years were bumpy but now we're more in tune with one another. She is not totally perfect but neither am I. I have my quirks that she puts up with and I put up with hers.

Wow!! Awsome!!!

 

[Stormi]

While it's certainly likely that the perfect mate for my quirky personality does indeed exist somewhere in this sick world, the chances of meeting said individual probably aren't in my favor.

 

[Okami_No_Heishi]

While it's certainly likely that the perfect mate for my quirky personality does indeed exist somewhere in this sick world, the chances of meeting said individual probably aren't in my favor.

You'd be surprised.

 

[InpuOsirisson]

There is no perfect mate.

 

[Okami_No_Heishi]

There is no perfect mate.

Nobody is. But I tell yah, I found one(or she found me?), that is close to perfect for ne as anyone can get. And I love her more than anything!

 

[Stormi]

You'd be surprised.

I'm autistic, have eating disorders and there is absolutely nothing masculine about me at all. I don't attract girls. I seem to attract a lot of guys though. While I'm confident that I can establish a relationship with someone it probably won't be ideal and we will get bored/annoyed of each other after a short period of time.

 

[bhutrflai]

I was a lucky one! We'll celebrate our 17th wedding anniversary in June. She IS my soulmate. I honestly don't think I could make it without her. I love her so freaking much!! The pefect mate IS out there!! You either have to find him or her, or LET them find you. Alot of people guard their emotions like Fort Knox. Sometimes you just have to let go and give in.

You're so sappy! I love you!!

 

[bhutrflai]

We found each other. Only thru the twists of fate. If we had gotten together when we first met, we would have imploded & burned each other out very quickly. But we had the good fortune of becoming friends first. Best friends.

I was actually married to a friend of his (from high school) for 3 yrs bf we got together. I was young (18) & stupid & thought I knew the answer to what I wanted, but I was WAY wrong. 6 months into it, I knew I had made a mistake. Stuck it out for a couple yrs bc I was not going to be there first one in my generation in my mom fam to get a divorce. But I knew I wanted out. So I made the choice to leave. I thank the gods everyday that we didn't have kids, so it was a mostly peaceful split.

And bc Okami had been around us, as a third wheel of sorts, we decided to see if there was anything on the other side of our friendship & it was magic! So, 17yrs together & going strong!! We complete each other, as corny as that is.

We both have our faults & quirks, but they make us who we are as individuals. Being soulmates brings out the best of us for the rest of the world to see. We do finish each others sentences & thoughts. He brings me coffee every morning bc he knows I'm a biatch to get out of bed. And I make his back feel better faster than any drug out there. We love each other, for all the parts of us-good, bad, and ugly. We've been thru thru ringer a few times, been thru the death of multiple close family, thru our daughters chronic illness, but we always come back better. We are the rocks that each other stand on!

 

[Okami_No_Heishi]

We found each other. Only thru the twists of fate. If we had gotten together when we first met, we would have imploded & burned each other out very quickly. But we had the good fortune of becoming friends first. Best friends.

I was actually married to a friend of his (from high school) for 3 yrs bf we got together. I was young (18) & stupid & thought I knew the answer to what I wanted, but I was WAY wrong. 6 months into it, I knew I had made a mistake. Stuck it out for a couple yrs bc I was not going to be there first one in my generation in my mom fam to get a divorce. But I knew I wanted out. So I made the choice to leave. I thank the gods everyday that we didn't have kids, so it was a mostly peaceful split.

And bc Okami had been around us, as a third wheel of sorts, we decided to see if there was anything on the other side of our friendship & it was magic! So, 17yrs together & going strong!! We complete each other, as corny as that is.

We both have our faults & quirks, but they make us who we are as individuals. Being soulmates brings out the best of us for the rest of the world to see. We do finish each others sentences & thoughts. He brings me coffee every morning bc he knows I'm a biatch to get out of bed. And I make his back feel better faster than any drug out there. We love each other, for all the parts of us-good, bad, and ugly. We've been thru thru ringer a few times, been thru the death of multiple close family, thru our daughters chronic illness, but we always come back better. We are the rocks that each other stand on!

Yeah. We're a whole bunch of Jerry Springer episodes.

 

[BritWolf]

JERRY JERRY JERRY!!! Not surprised with the amount of people you two have had in your bed last couple of days.

 

[Stormi]

It's probably best that I fix my own problems before I go out and search for the "perfect mate".

 

[Okami_No_Heishi]

JERRY JERRY JERRY!!! Not surprised with the amount of people you two have had in your bed last couple of days.

There goes our secret!

 

[LycanTheory]

It's probably best that I fix my own problems before I go out and search for the "perfect mate".

Actually, working on your own problems will not only improve your life from a personal standpoint but also make you more attractive to a potential mate. It's a win-win situation.

 

[Okami_No_Heishi]

Actually, working on your own problems will not only improve your life from a personal standpoint but also make you more attractive to a potential mate. It's a win-win situation.

Sometimes you just can't work out your own problems. Sometimes it takes two to work them out. Me and bhutrflai were trainwrecks when we got together. But time, and love, enabled us to help each other work our problems out. Hell! We still have some problems! But having someone there to lean on, to cry on their shoulder, to provide a shoulder to cry on, makes a world of difference. So working out your problems by yourself may work for you. Or it may take you twenty or more years to work them out. Then you have squandered alot of your precious time, and believe me, coming from a 40 year old, time is a very precious commodity. When you realise that you have more years behind you than you have in front of you, that right there is a reality check from hell.

 

[bhutrflai]

Working on yourself is a long process. It doesn't take effect overnight. And everyone around you has an influence on that process. Whether as a helping hand or as a learning experience. And sometimes your lucky enough to meet someone who makes you want to be a better person. That's what Okami does for me. Could I make it thru life without him? If I didn't already know him, yes. But to know each other as well as we do, there is no one else on this planet that I can imagine doing life with.

But sometimes, you do need to work around a few of the roadblocks in your mind, before you invite anyone else along for the ride. And that is a good thing for everyone.

 

[LycanTheory]

Sometimes you just can't work out your own problems. Sometimes it takes two to work them out. Me and bhutrflai were trainwrecks when we got together. But time, and love, enabled us to help each other work our problems out. Hell! We still have some problems! But having someone there to lean on, to cry on their shoulder, to provide a shoulder to cry on, makes a world of difference. So working out your problems by yourself may work for you. Or it may take you twenty or more years to work them out. Then you have squandered alot of your precious time, and believe me, coming from a 40 year old, time is a very precious commodity. When you realise that you have more years behind you than you have in front of you, that right there is a reality check from hell.

I agree. Working on one's issues and fixing them are two different things and sometimes it does take someone else, helping out, to fix things or even someone else to support a continued effort.

From a personal standpoint, I'd be far more attracted to a girl who had issues but made a steadfast determination to correct them than someone who, say, just accepted their problems. That's just my personal preference though. Most of the guys I associate with irl find attraction in physical attributes and very basic personality traits whereas I look for more specific personality traits and view physical attributes as a plus but not totally necessary.

Determination really attracts me, as well as intelligence and attitude. I guess I prefer females that are on the more competitive side. I like the thought of someone being equal to me in most aspects.

I'm ranting now, sorry.

On the age thing, I totally get ya. I'm 34 so I'm not that far behind and I hate thinking about that, not because I feel old in any way, yet, but the last thing I want to do is waste time. I'd much rather spend the time I have left enjoying all of the beautiful things and moments in my life with someone else who would apriceate them just as much as I do. I guess when you're my age and still looking that sort of adds another problem, feeling hopeless, but I've never given up and never will. The way I see it, the best things in life are worth the struggle you go through trying to find them.

 

[Okami_No_Heishi]

I agree. Working on one's issues and fixing them are two different things and sometimes it does take someone else, helping out, to fix things or even someone else to support a continued effort.

From a personal standpoint, I'd be far more attracted to a girl who had issues but made a steadfast determination to correct them than someone who, say, just accepted their problems. That's just my personal preference though. Most of the guys I associate with irl find attraction in physical attributes and very basic personality traits whereas I look for more specific personality traits and view physical attributes as a plus but not totally necessary.

Determination really attracts me, as well as intelligence and attitude. I guess I prefer females that are on the more competitive side. I like the thought of someone being equal to me in most aspects.

I'm ranting now, sorry.

On the age thing, I totally get ya. I'm 34 so I'm not that far behind and I hate thinking about that, not because I feel old in any way, yet, but the last thing I want to do is waste time. I'd much rather spend the time I have left enjoying all of the beautiful things and moments in my life with someone else who would apriceate them just as much as I do. I guess when you're my age and still looking that sort of adds another problem, feeling hopeless, but I've never given up and never will. The way I see it, the best things in life are worth the struggle you go through trying to find them.

Absolutely!! Me and bhutrflai have struggled our whole lives. A lot less since we've been together. But it was all worth it to get to here. Every second of pain and suffering were worth it.