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Families and Furries (how did YOURS react?)

Baz

Member
My entire family has known since I was little that I was extremely strange so when I told them about the whole furry thing they jut said they thought it was strange. But they don't have a problem with me wearing my tail and ears or talking about furry stuff Its really pretty nice. I never go into much detail though.
 
I didn't really 'come out' as a furry to my family since I just view it as another fandom I'm a part of, not some part of my identity. The first time it came up was when I mentioned something about getting a fursuit to my mom over the phone. She mostly sounded very confused and asked why I would want an 'animal suit' and if it was part of my 'anime thing' (I also cosplay quite a bit). When I explained a bit about furries to her she seemed to understand but her and my dad kept warning me to "be safe" and "not trust anyone". Turns out when they thought of furry they thought it was exactly how the CSI episode portrayed it as. When I explained that it wasn't, my mom was actually really cute and spent some time googleing it online and reading about the good and bad. Then she would call me up and have me explain words she didn't understand (such as fursona and yiff) and have me verify if things were accurate. It was actually fun for me to talk to her about it all since she was very interested in it; her and my dad have always tried to understand my 'stranger interests', although my mom is more interested in the furry fandom and my dad is more interested in the anime/cosplay fandom. All in all my family didn't really care, as long as I'm safe and not ruining my life too badly.
 

Troj

Your Friendly Neighborhood Dino Therapist
Sounds like you have a pretty supportive and open-minded family, Camoflage. They want you to be safe, but they're also willing to listen to you and respect your opinions and knowledge. That's great.
 

Duality Jack

Feeling Loki with it.
Mine doesn't know, but then again I don't gives two rats asses about being "a furry" I don't identify as one, I just like to make silly posts on the internet and whatnot. I take the wise path and keep any association with the term at arms length, as the fandom isn't really important to me and labels like these are more weapons against you than assets.

I am just some guy who popped into the fandom for a bit, didn't really care to take becoming part of the fandom seriously, and saw no benefit, but found this forums disposition amusing.
 

Bonobosoph

4 hands good 2 hands bad ;)
The hell, that was a bump and a half.
Obviously, not taking this whole furry business seriously, I treat it as any other hobby so I was like "check out this cool thing I'm doing..." because coming out over a nerdy interest is taking it a bit far.
My mum is used to my weird antics and says she isn't surprised because I've never liked normal things, my dad thinks it's really quite ridiculous, brother doesn't care, sister wants to join in! My grandparents don't even get it, they just look at me like "wot" when I talk about a fursuit walk I've been to and stuff.
I can understand the whole coming out malarkey if it was otherkinism or something, because people have more of an awkward reaction to hearing that someone feels connected to gryphons or whatever.
 
Sounds like you have a pretty supportive and open-minded family, Camoflage. They want you to be safe, but they're also willing to listen to you and respect your opinions and knowledge. That's great.

Ya, they definitely have their quirks but what family doesn't :) They have always tried to understand my hobbys, although the look on my dads face when I jokingly asked him to go to a con with me was priceless. He said he loved me but that was a little too much.
 

Maelstrom Eyre

Ahmoua Wolf
Mine don't know. They'd probably be like "oh, okay. . ." and then move on to something else.

I'm in my late 30s. So, maybe they'd think it was silly for an adult female to be into stories about animal characters, but there is no reason for me to "come out" about any of it to anyone. It doesn't change anything about the person they already know me as.

It's just an interest that I have. I don't go to Cons or spend money on artwork or fursuit or anything, I just write my own stories and create my own characters and RP online, but I have other stuff I do, too. My world does not revolve around my fursona or roleplay to the point of it being a lifestyle or obsession.
 
There's no reason to tell my family, but at some point I am going to have to take the two tails I have purchased home with me. My parents will definitely think its weird, but they won't harass me or kick me out or anything. My sister will almost definitely recognize the furriness at that point, but that probably won't mean much. There's a chance that my brother might know what a "furry" is but I have no idea. Grandparents and all folks older than 60 probably already mistake my dragon hoodie for a "devil" hoodie so they will probably just think I'm satanic or something.
 

SparkyWolf

Member
I recently told my Mom, and she was totally cool with it. In fact, she was happy because I said that I wanted to go to A Fur-meet and meet some new people. She was glad because I have always been a social extrovert. So yeah, she was great about it <3
 

Nashida

She do a blep
My folks have been fine with it. My mom was already desensitized to costumes/dressing up from the 10+ years I spent making cosplays for anime cons, often times she was the one to suggest a character or prop (and she liked getting involved in the process too). When my first fursuit showed up at my door she wasn't upset or weirded out at all. My dad just sees it as another hobby and he enjoys some of the con stories I come back with. And my grandmother wants to adopt all the fursuiters as best as she can.
 

Sarcastic Coffeecup

Hand. Cannot. Erase.
It was some years ago and it was when my mum noticed I drew a bunch of animal folk.
"You draw a bunch of those animalfolk"
"Yeah I find them interesting enough to draw"
"k"

Never heard anything about the topic after that.
 

Zeitzbach

Taste purple
"Your drawings look great compared to before" - Parents. That's it.

Meanwhile, brother though. We just make fun of each other.

He makes fun of me for being a furry.
I make fun of him for his love for loli and call him a weeby pedo.
 

BadRoy

Snake awakens
It's really not worth telling my parents. They wouldn't understand so it would take a big explanation that just isn't worth it.
 

Maugryph

Member
I wish people would read Mentova's sticky about 'coming out' as furry before calming such things. https://forums.furaffinity.net/threads/705632-PSA-About-quot-coming-out-quot-as-a-furry.

Seriously. Its OK to like, collect, and draw anthropomorphic critters. It's OK to watch films and TV shows starring anthropomorphic critters. It's ok to dress in costume (what does everyone do on Oct 30?) There are many people that like such things and they are not even in the fandom.

There are pervs and wierdos in the fandom. There are pervs and wierdos in every fandom. And unfortunately those are the ones that get the most attention. Stop treating like it's taboo.

Also: Please stop bringing up CSI. That was like a bazillion years ago.
 

Pinky

AKA Allie or Aouzy
Pretty much I've gotten things like:
"I read that story you made about the wolf and sheep, it's great."
"She likes animals just like you do, she's perfect for you"

Also my brother has a tattoo of a wolf. That's self explanatory.
 

pinkie

♥ Pinkie Pawsh ♥ EST 2011
My parents are fine with what I do because I'm an adult, they just won't help me pay for a suit and think it's a waste of money. They also have access to my bank account and make sure I don't withdraw money for it from my own savings.
 

jorinda

Member
My parents are fine with what I do because I'm an adult, they just won't help me pay for a suit and think it's a waste of money. They also have access to my bank account and make sure I don't withdraw money for it from my own savings.
WTF?
1. You're an adult. Why would anyone help you pay for your hobbies?
2. You're an adult. Why do your parents have access to your bank account? You earn the money, you spend it.
 

Batty Krueger

DJ Nailbunny
WTF?
1. You're an adult. Why would anyone help you pay for your hobbies?
2. You're an adult. Why do your parents have access to your bank account? You earn the money, you spend it.
Seriously, wtf.
 

Sweetheartz22

Simply amazing.
The only acknowledgement my family has about my furry charade are pictures from my childhood which showed me pretending to be a kitty cat (I played house with my childhood friends ALOT), a few anthromorphic drawings here and there, and my pawprint tattoo. Other than that, they know nothing and I'd like to keep it that way since they have a habit of turning the simplest matters into full-blown debates. The only ones who know are my closest friends and my husband after we got married. My friends were cool about it. My husband ,on the other hand, didn't take to kindly to this new information. We've since worked it out and moved on.
 

Samandriel Morningstar

The Morningstar
I've never had a problem with it.
My fiance' is a Furry as well,so that's twice as cool.
I showed my Mom the partial I got of my Wolf/Dragon mix and she was pretty happy about it and gushed about how cool it was and how well made it was.
She even tried my head on,including some of my other stuff such as my regular tail and ears I had before my partial.
Wolves and Dragons have always been favorites of mine.
I've always been able to connect with dogs very well,and just some of their personality traits have run well with my own..Same with Dragons but of course it's basically on what mythology presents us with that I have to go off of.
Fursuiting is amazing,and it really allows me to open up and express myself in such a different and fun way,plus a lot of the Furries I met including my own fur-family are amazing,accepting and kind individuals.

 

BadRoy

Snake awakens
The only acknowledgement my family has about my furry charade are pictures from my childhood which showed me pretending to be a kitty cat (I played house with my childhood friends ALOT), a few anthromorphic drawings here and there, and my pawprint tattoo. Other than that, they know nothing and I'd like to keep it that way since they have a habit of turning the simplest matters into full-blown debates. The only ones who know are my closest friends and my husband after we got married. My friends were cool about it. My husband ,on the other hand, didn't take to kindly to this new information. We've since worked it out and moved on.
That's nice. I could easily see that corrupting a relationship if the other person couldn't get over your tastes.
 

Xela-Dasi

PiratePiratePiratePirateP irate
If I tell my parents they will find me pathetic. Then my dad would call me a faggot even if im not gay.
 

Funeral

Member
This is going to sound incredibly conceited, so word of warning.
But since I can get away with practically any hobby or lifestyle choice I choose because of my looks, charisma, and way I perceive everything, I never really "came out" as a furry so much as I just started incorporating it into my daily conversation.
It's all about presentation.
If you act like it is no big deal and sound incredibly proud of whatever non-normal thing you have taken an interest in, then folk are likely to not care or be interested.
Whether not they are all putting a facade on and just pretending not to be disgusted remains to be seen, but it doesn't concern me and hasn't affected any of my friendships/relationships anyways.
Take what I say with a grain of salt made of common sense though since if you are proud and act like an illegal or what have you hobby you have taken an interest is no big deal, then you are probably going to have scornful responses.
 

Mikazuki Marazhu

I hate you all
I live with my fiance who is well aware of my "interest"
He finds it funny and unique he said. We would browse furry porn together.
 

Renarde

Little Fox
I literally tell my parents zero other things about my life, so I don't think I'll be telling them any time soon.
My sister and I haven't discussed it, but to be honest I don't think she'd really care.
 
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