Hmmm.... Autism (the part of the spectrum that used to be called Asperger's, to be exact) here.things that come with having having autism like not being great in social settings and sensory overload and hyperfixation and/or inattentiveness
I don't... cope too well at all.
The society around me doesn't tolerate any "strangeness". And on the work market I'm a complete pariah, treated as if I had leprosy or something. Until after 30, when I finally learned to *kind of* pretend to be a normie, I was being rejected by almost anyone and anything you can think of. Now at least there can be exceptions... No idea about making friends, I'm horrible at keeping in contact. There are literally three people I care about; they care about me in return and that's enough.
This sounds familiar. I expected to kind of "transform" with age into a normal person. I've just found I have a few important people in my life, and then I've grown in my own ways to get along. My 20s were a bad trip of mental issues. Only at 30 did I start finding my own ways to understand and manage it all.
If you're (in general, not at Pomorek) really "off" or whatever, you will have to grow some thick skin as well as self-acceptance. Give yourself time for that. Like I am a seriously sensitive dude, for example, and I had to learn to stop beating myself up just for that. There's enough people out there who will do that for you.
Coping: Hobbies help. I've also taken a lot from various psych and philosophy sources, used it in my own way. Meditation helps -- practice understanding your emotional thinking, just one aspect of your mind that shouldn't always be behind the wheel.
word of advice.I have diagnosed autism and adhd, possibly BPD too. Lately, my focus has been staying true to myself and what makes me happy, which has helped a ton.
Part of that is addressing my sensory issues. I keep fidget toys in my pocket, use a baby toothbrush when regular brushing hurts my teeth, and have a variety of playlists with different moods to help me block out the world when I need to. I struggle with healthy eating so I keep a stock of vitamin gummies to supplement my diet.
I've been working on meditation too, and I find it helps a lot. I'll set a timer for ten minutes, light some incense and put on a relaxing playlist. When my mind wanders (which is a lot), I focus on my breathing to return to the moment.
Right now, I'm struggling with my desire for independence but inability to hold a job. I haven't found the answer yet, but I'm hoping that if I keep practicing my art I might be able to make money from commissions one day.