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FOR THE SAKE OF OUR SANITY, YOU DON'T HAVE TO "COME OUT" AS FURRY!

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Ziggywolf

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Roflmao coming out as a furry, you guys make it sound like a desease or something.
If people ask I tell them yeah this is one of my interests.
Fetishes has nothing to do with it. Keep it to your self. That being said fetishes are a healthy part of any sexlife, and personal.
 
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Schwimmwagen

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Roflmao coming out as a furry, you guys make it sound like a desease or something.
If people ask I tell them yeah this is one of my interests.
Fetishes has nothing to do with it. Keep it to your self. That being said fetishes are a healthy part of any sexlife, and personal.

*facepalm*
 

Urban_Coyote

is lost in the woods
Being a wildlife/forestry major, even one I know accepts the fact that I am obsessed with animals. Do I have to run around screaming " I am a furry"? no
 

Yuma

New Member
Same thing everyone else says great point I have always found it frustrating that furries feel the need to "come out"
 
It's nothing different than liking anime or video games, and you can't "come out" to liking video games or anime. Although in my opinion I think people just use "coming out" not to its literal meaning but so they can convey their secretive feelings about their hobby. It's just like when people say "I haven't seen him in five billion years"; it hasn't really been that long but they are exaggerating so they can convey their feelings about how long they thought it's been.
 
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Furry Fox

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One of my friends was on the Internet a bit ago and had only just figured out what furries are. He asked me if I was one, so I said "Yeah", and our friendship hasn't changed a bit. Sure I wouldn't deny it if asked, but I wouldn't broadcast it to everyone.
 

ITNinja

New Member
Ya know, I registered just to disagree with this sticky. I cannot believe the moderates of a forum would sticky such a hateful message. I really dont think the way to bring more people into your fun loving and peaceful hobby or way of life, Or whatever the entire furry community wants to look at it. I am a learning furry, I have absolutely no artistic skills. But I love the concept of digging into our being and finding the animalistic side. The only thing that seperates us from animal's truly is our ability to reason. I feel being able to tap into and understand the most basic of action's, The one's provided by nature as opposed to what we learn threw out life. Understand what actions in human's are instinct, And which one's are learned.

As for coming out, I think you would be surprized at how disowning people can be. I am not sure where you live, But I live in an extremely over christianized closed minded town. Enjoying cartoon animal's will get you more looks than you think. Or walking around in fursuits. I have a few friends that have lost friends over being furry.

Your stating that it's a hobby. Which means that if you do not do said hobby, You are not a furry. And I feel that message is the wrong one to send, Especially coming from a community that is hated so much by your average passer by. Maybe pay attention to what the radio station's in pittsburgh are saying about us the next time you go for Anthrocon. Even native american's understood that we have "Animal Spirits" inside us waiting to come out.

Im thinking your scope on the subject is just extremely shallow, Much like the scope of your life probably shares in those revels.
 

Attaman

"I say we forget this business and run."
Ya know, I registered just to disagree with this sticky. I cannot believe the moderates of a forum would sticky such a hateful message.
Hm, not sure if invoke Poe's Law.

Enjoying cartoon animal's will get you more looks than you think.
You're in a Christian town, yes? ... Easter Bunny. Still sort-of dealing with Poe's Law, though. Could be parody, could be idiot.

Or walking around in fursuits. I have a few friends that have lost friends over being furry.
You sure it wasn't their "enjoying cartoon animals"? :V

Your stating that it's a hobby. Which means that if you do not do said hobby, You are not a furry. And I feel that message is the wrong one to send, Especially coming from a community that is hated so much by your average passer by.
Curse you Poe's Law, curse you!

Maybe pay attention to what the radio station's in pittsburgh are saying about us the next time you go for Anthrocon. Even native american's understood that we have "Animal Spirits" inside us waiting to come out.
Can someone give me a hand, here? I don't think I can take much more of the stereotypical-ness.

Im thinking your scope on the subject is just extremely shallow, Much like the scope of your life probably shares in those revels.
Can't... decide... satirical... believed...
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Randy-Darkshade

Bike riding squirrel thing.
Ya know, I registered just to disagree with this sticky. I cannot believe the moderates of a forum would sticky such a hateful message.

It's not really a hateful message, you're looking into it too deeply.

I am a learning furry, I have absolutely no artistic skills. But I love the concept of digging into our being and finding the animalistic side.

This is not what furry is entirely about, I know of furries who don't have a fursona. Basically, digging into one's being and finding our animalistic side is not a necessary thing to do to be a furry. Like everything else in the fandom, it's optional.

The only thing that seperates us from animal's truly is our ability to reason. I feel being able to tap into and understand the most basic of action's, The one's provided by nature as opposed to what we learn threw out life. Understand what actions in human's are instinct, And which one's are learned.

YOU"RE stating that it's a hobby. Which means that if you do not do said hobby, You are not a furry. And I feel that message is the wrong one to send, Especially coming from a community that is hated so much by your average passer by. Maybe pay attention to what the radio station's in pittsburgh are saying about us the next time you go for Anthrocon. Even native american's understood that we have "Animal Spirits" inside us waiting to come out.

Why is that such a common grammatical error?

No, we don't have animal spirits inside us.

Anyway, regardless of how deep into furry someone is, there is still no real need, imo, to "come out" as furry.
 

Ontariofalcon

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There are some great furs who represent the fandom admirably. They are tactful, educated persons who ensure to detail the many aspects (or sub-cultures) of this fandom without prejudice or favoritism.

Sadly, many whom this topic is (presumably) directed at are all-too eager to be self-elected expert representatives, often furthering existing stereotypes and misconceptions by presenting their personal views as opposed to ones that represent the average member of the group.

Furry is a soapbox for the attention-starved, and the squeaky wheel usually gets the grease.
 
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Vixen.

Rave Kitten
I was sitting at work today actually on lunch and my friend asked me why there's a 'Gay furry pride' wallpaper in my facebook photos. I told her because I support it. She said 'So first you came out about being bi, then gay, now a furry? Your parents must be thrilled.' I had to laugh because I haven't lived with them for some time now. Then my response was 'I never came out about anything, their just finding out who I am.'
 

anero

houndini logic
I was sitting at work today actually on lunch and my friend asked me why there's a 'Gay furry pride' wallpaper in my facebook photos. I told her because I support it. She said 'So first you came out about being bi, then gay, now a furry? Your parents must be thrilled.' I had to laugh because I haven't lived with them for some time now. Then my response was 'I never came out about anything, their just finding out who I am.'

Why the fuck did you have a gay furry pride wallpaper in your facebook?

Are you trying to get people to laugh at you or something?
 

Ozriel

Inglorious Bastard

Xaerun

"toxic and negative"
Hi, nice t'meetcha.

Ya know, I registered just to disagree with this sticky. I cannot believe the moderates of a forum would sticky such a hateful message.
We're bad people.
Also, nothing gets up my nose more than people that are over-the-top furry. Furry licence plates, furry everyday clothing, furry doormat, furry shoes. This does not make me anti-furry in the same way that disliking people like that What the Buck dude doesn't make me anti-homosexual.

I really dont think the way to bring more people into your fun loving and peaceful hobby or way of life, Or whatever the entire furry community wants to look at it.
A lot of furries have no interest in bringing more people in. It's weird enough as it is, I think many would prefer a way to kick people out.

I am a learning furry, I have absolutely no artistic skills. But I love the concept of digging into our being and finding the animalistic side.
This is not necessarily a furry thing, and most don't believe in that sort of thing, but that's cool.

The only thing that seperates us from animal's truly is our ability to reason. I feel being able to tap into and understand the most basic of action's, The one's provided by nature as opposed to what we learn threw out life. Understand what actions in human's are instinct, And which one's are learned.
Study psychology, don't look at furry porn. That'll get you further down that path, I think.

As for coming out, I think you would be surprized at how disowning people can be. I am not sure where you live, But I live in an extremely over christianized closed minded town. Enjoying cartoon animal's will get you more looks than you think. Or walking around in fursuits. I have a few friends that have lost friends over being furry.
Nope, would not be surprised at all. If coming out as gay in your town gets you weird looks, walking over to people you know, hands on hips, and proclaiming "Hi! I like to jack off to pictures of anthropomorphised (sp?) animals, particularly characters from <child's film>!" should get you run out of town. And you deserve it for being such a twat.
If it's a hobby, keep it a hobby, your own business. If you're interested in looking into your 'inner animal', do that at home. Other people, even if they're not 'closed minded', don't know and don't care.

Your stating that it's a hobby. Which means that if you do not do said hobby, You are not a furry.
This doesn't make a lot of sense. If you are not a furry, you are not a furry. That's correct.

And I feel that message is the wrong one to send, Especially coming from a community that is hated so much by your average passer by. Maybe pay attention to what the radio station's in pittsburgh are saying about us the next time you go for Anthrocon. Even native american's understood that we have "Animal Spirits" inside us waiting to come out.
Last one I listened to was reading out tweets from furs, and there was something about people doing shots from a horse dildo.
FUCK. THOSE. GUYS. (the furs, not the radio announcers)
Do you think taking shots out of a horse dildo and broadcasting it over the internet might be a worse message to send than... whatever message you're getting at?

Im thinking your scope on the subject is just extremely shallow, Much like the scope of your life probably shares in those revels.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3BCCETH1usI
 

Biowolf12

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I Agree. Plus some people may just take the idea of being a furry the wrong way. ( How far some take the fandom and what not) but then again it is better to just not care what people think and be who you are.
 

Sepi

New Member
On another point, I've been thinking quite hard about my own sexuality, and I don't believe it's a big deal to "come out" as sexually different. To me it doesn't seem like something to cry about or announce as a huge triumph on my part. The thing is, you may not take furries "coming out" seriously, but I do not take homosexuals coming out as something that deserves a pat on the back. People may take their own issues seriously, or not. Who knows, maybe a Fur -would- be disowned by their family, you cannot make this call. In the end, you could just ignore "coming out" posts and let them be. There is no need to swear and be butt hurt over a topic that has nothing to do with you. Being a Fur is a very important part of a lot of peoples lives, hell, many build careers around it. You don't see me telling homosexuals to stop crying about their "hobby"

That would be blatantly offensive.
 

Taliesiin

was here! Ash is a loser!
I think it does vary on in what way you identify with the fandom. For most people, it is just a hobby no reason to come out about it. But there are those out there who feel that their anthro version of themselves IS them on the inside. Just like a transexual might, that kind of identity problem might be something you'd need to "come out" about.
It's also a different story if the people around you are aware of the stigma attached to the fandom or not. My family is blissfully unaware, so they don't care. But new teens that I meet are usually taken aback. (especially since I don't fit the "ugly fat furfag in a basement" stereotype)

All that said, being a furry is not genetic, it's a choice (except fetishes maybe) and It's not something to be ashamed of. A quote from Squeedge's Forumspring:

Anon asks: "Are you furry? Also, I really need some advice.. I am wondering if I am a furry. Since I was a kid I have loved cats, and wish I could be one. I meow and purr from time to time and chew on my boyfriend's shirt. I'm not sexually attracted to animals..."

Squeedge: ""Furry" is such a subjective term, but by my personal definition, yeah I am. And my personal definition is "someone who participates in the furry fandom."
And well, wanting to be/behaving like an animal doesn't mean you're a furry, per se. I think people equate "being a furry" with coming out as gay or something way too much. It's _not the same at all_. Furry is a choice. Do you WANT to be a furry? Do you want to be involved with the fandom? Maybe you just have an affinity for cats, y'know?
And uh, being a furry has nothing, and I repeat NOTHING to do with sexual attraction to animals. There are furries who are in that boat but... very few, and none that I've met."
 

Radiohead

Apply directly to forehead.
I But there are those out there who feel that their anthro version of themselves IS them on the inside.

Those are not furries. They can become furries. But they are not immediately furries.

If they feel the need to tell everyone they think they're a dragon, then there will be ridicule. It's pointless.
 

Taliesiin

was here! Ash is a loser!
Those are not furries. They can become furries. But they are not immediately furries.

If they feel the need to tell everyone they think they're a dragon, then there will be ridicule. It's pointless.

I can agree with that, I think that's what I was trying to get at. That "being a furry" is a fandom thing first.
 

Belluavir

Fag Enabler, Breeder Disabler
As a homosexual male who has Jehovah's Witnesses for parents, I very much feel for the OP. From the age of 14 to maybe 20, I've suffered from depression that's ranged from severe to if-I-step-outside-this-room-I-will-kill-my-parents-and-myself-severe. I came out to my parents when I was fifteen, the reactions were mixed between them but long story short, it did nothing in the long run except distance me from them, which in this case, is a good thing.

There's something very false about someone coming out as a furry and I can think of two entirely unorigninal reasons why they may do that, 1) to get attention obviously and 2) so they can act like some courageous hero who is standing up against the oppressor on behalf of the people. Of course, in reality it's a cowardly way to do that as furries are, in fact, not oppressed as a minority and there are no difficult battles to be had in the name of the furry fandom. There are no laws to stop furries from marrying, there are no laws to stop furries from having sex in the privacy of their own home, there are no laws to keep international furries from immigrating to the US to be with their partners.

I don't buy the argument that spiritual furries should/could come out. If I wasn't an atheist I'd probably be a therian, fortunately that secular lump of grey matter in my head keeps telling me that's all in my head (it would know, wouldn't it?).
Anyway, if I was a therian or otherkin, why the fuck would I just tell people that I'm a furry? To confuse them? So they'll think that I just like anthro animals or that I masturbate to yiff porn? I wouldn't want to tell them that, I'd want to share my spirituality with them and that has nothing to do with the furry fandom. If I were to mention the furry fandom it'd be in some other context, especially since I'd probably have to explain that too and I don't want the to concepts to get muddled in an information overload.
 
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Sar

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The only reason some people would think it is important about who they are, are those who seek attention. Or are lifestylers. Lifestyling IS NOT what furry is about, but lifestyling IS an aspect of the fandom. Lifestyling is just one part of the fandom just like story's, porn, fursuiting, conventions etc etc, they are all just sections within the fandom.

There are only a few occasions when someone may need to tell someone about furryness:

1: If they are under 18 and wish to go to a convention.

2: If they are in a relationship. It is only fair to tell your partner about your hobbies.

But there is still no need at all to "come out" as being furry, I hate it when people use that term because it makes the fandom sound like it is a sexual preference or fetish, which it IS NOT!

I would have less of a problem with lifestylers, otherkins etc etc, all those who are deeper into furry, if they actually told people not everyone in the fandom is like them when they tell people about there interests.

My thoughts exactly. (toasts glass of OJ)
 
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Sar

Guest
I think i might be able to explain a reason why people are worked up about it. (may be over dramatic)

"(you) Says to a friend in a cafe: I am really into furry fandom."

Suggested scenario: World stops what they are doing and looks at you in a death glare. Cars break, Plate drop, trampolinists stuck in mid-air, etc....
NO!

Realistic Scenario: (Friend)meh cool.

CALM THE FUCK DOWN!
 
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