FlooferWoofer
Depressed. Going back into lurk mode.
Here's my take. Your friend hasn't acted on their feelings. Further, they clearly feel bad about it, and a bad person would likely give zero effs and go about their business. Lastly, your friend can't help what they are attracted to. No one can. But they can and ARE choosing not to act upon them and be better.
Literally the only real thing that separates us from other animals is the ability to resist our baser instincts. On the other hand, if you castigate and shun them now, you are punishing them for being open about their problems and they may as well do what they are being punished for. Simply put, your friend hasn't committed the act, and feels bad so treating them as a monster now will give them a "damned if i do, damned if i don't" mentality and make them feel they have to keep it hidden from everyone and let it fester.
Chances are, they confided in you because: HOW DO YOU SEEK HELP FOR YOUR ISSUES IF YOU CAN'T ACKNOWLEDGE THEY EXIST TO THOSE YOU LOVE/TRUST!? Be a positive influence.
Literally the only real thing that separates us from other animals is the ability to resist our baser instincts. On the other hand, if you castigate and shun them now, you are punishing them for being open about their problems and they may as well do what they are being punished for. Simply put, your friend hasn't committed the act, and feels bad so treating them as a monster now will give them a "damned if i do, damned if i don't" mentality and make them feel they have to keep it hidden from everyone and let it fester.
Chances are, they confided in you because: HOW DO YOU SEEK HELP FOR YOUR ISSUES IF YOU CAN'T ACKNOWLEDGE THEY EXIST TO THOSE YOU LOVE/TRUST!? Be a positive influence.
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