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Furries and Dating.

RedFeather

New Member
I've been dating a fur for over a year now. Before that, I was dating a non-fur for two years. When I was dating the non-fur, I found myself having to explain a lot of things about myself and about the fandom, whereas the guy I am dating now knows a lot about it already so it's a heck of a lot easier to talk about. Furry fandom is a major part of my life, so it only makes sense that I should find someone with at least a little overlap there.

Also, having someone who can properly look at your furry art is very nice. I got very tired of the "So, what do you think!" ... "Well... it's a dog-person..."

Also, it is SOOO great to go to a furry convention with someone who enjoys it as much as I do, as opposed to going because he feels obligated.
 
I have dated non-furs, and would again, although I prefer furs. I like to be able to do stuff with whoever I'm dating. Having the same interests of course helps that. It's just to me like most people who like a certain type of music would rather date someone who also liked that type of music. That's just my 2 cents.
 
I had a lot of unsuccessful relationships with people not of the furry persuasion. The main problem came from my first boyfriend being very uncomfortable with the idea, so I kept it from other until I felt safe telling them. I was left me on edge, thinking that they would leave me over it, which, by itself, destroyed a few potential relationships.

My current boyfriend is a fur and I wouldn't have it any other way. We've been together for a year and a half. I feel comfortable showing him my art and he doesn't mind when I break out the dog harness for a little bit of play. He's not even really into the harness stuff, but at least he doesn't freak about it being a "dog's" harness.

I think it more comes down to the open mindedness of the person you are dating. I have had non fur boys that don't really understand, but chose not to judge, and I those relationships were pretty good (though not nearly as fulfilling and long term as my current one).

I don't know if that answered you question or not.
 

Ruiner

Member
The main problem came from my first boyfriend being very uncomfortable with the idea.

Jeeze, you people need to learn how to keep things from loved ones.
 

Selunca

Member
RE:  Furries and Dating.

Kyrre said:
I don't think catholic furs that don't want children are that rare anymore.  I'm one too.

*gasp* YEEEY!! >^^<
I feel the whole Catholic idea of "BREED BREED BREED BREED" is a little.. erm.. yea. Nuff said I guess. If I do have children, I want only one, because I'm lazy and will probably be a poor mother (not to mention I have a shitload of porn all over my house. :p)
 
Selunca said:
I feel the whole Catholic idea of "BREED BREED BREED BREED" is a little.. erm.. yea.
It's the priests I tell ya, they don't get any on their own so they impose their wants on us. o_o

Joking, heh. Anyway, so far the last relationship I was in was with a non-furry. It was nice, didn't really have to explain much, it was as if she coulda blended into the fandom without anyone knowing she wasn't a fur (aside from the fact she lacked a personal fur unlike many out there). She actually found my being a fur cute, which I take as a blessing and a curse (if only because too many have called me cute in the past). Funny thing is, she became a fur herself after the breakup when she had to move across the country.
 

Bane

Member
Hmmm......what do I know? I have never dated a furry.......I don't know any furries in my area.....:cry:
 

Selunca

Member
RE:  Furries and Dating.

Bane said:
Hmmm......what do I know? I have never dated a furry.......I don't know any furries in my area.....:cry:

Have you tried pounced.org? I thought there were no other furries in Iowa aside from myself and Merrypaws, but I found out there are about 20! Try it, its rather awesome.
 

Bane

Member
Ah, ok. I could not use Bane, so i am Teacis. I have joined there as well.
 

Bane

Member
No, no other furries in New Zealand........
:cry::cry::cry:
I have something in my eye.........*blubber*
 

Todd Fox

New Member
Aw hell, I tried dating nonfurs because that was all that was,.. and still is around. Sadly most of the fandom is gay. the females in it are already snatched up or unintrested.

so dating in the fandom, unless you're gay, is damn near impossible. But that's the male perspective.
 

Ziba the lioness

Overgrown housecat
Bane said:
No, no other furries in New Zealand........

Dont say that just yet. I thought for many years that I was very much alone in the fandom over here (I live in denmark.. I believe new zealand isnt smaller than denmark) I had no irl fur friends and had never met anyone just untill about 3 years ago where one male fur found me online and it turned up him and his gf, who is also a furry, only lived like an hour away from my town. So much for me feeling all alone in the whole wide world over here XD we are 90 furries in this country, Im friends with like 20 of them (3 living just 10 minutes by walking from here =p)

Anyway, my point is.. dont give up and dont say there is no furries in New Zealand when you dont reallly know for sure.. Who says every furry is signed up on that dating site? Who says everyone knows there are other people like them in this world and who said there isnt anyone (furry) in new zealand feeling just as alone as you. Dont give up. One might live closer to you than you think.
 

Ziba the lioness

Overgrown housecat
What did I tell you (be glad I bothered to lift my ass and help XD)

Here is a site to find furries all around the world
http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/

Here are some profiles. I hope the url's works but if not then you can look up new zealand yourself
http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/index.cgi?action=viewprofile&user=Snickers&marker.x=5030&marker.y=1826
http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/index.cgi?action=viewprofile&user=Spaztian&marker.x=5030&marker.y=1826
http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/index.cgi?action=viewprofile&user=Mayfurr&marker.x=5030&marker.y=1826
http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/index.cgi?action=viewprofile&user=Faerith&marker.x=5030&marker.y=1826
http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/index.cgi?action=viewprofile&user=Faerith&marker.x=5030&marker.y=1826
http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/index.cgi?action=viewprofile&user=zarathus&marker.x=5030&marker.y=1826
http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/index.cgi?action=viewprofile&user=EzraPanthy&marker.x=5030&marker.y=1826

These are just some furries living in new zealand. Im 99.9% sure there are more, seeing that not all furries in this whole wide world knows of thise search site here either =p
 

Whirlaxis

Member
heh, if they arnt into it its cool with me, i would never shove it in their face and demand they become one, but if they are turned off by me being one then they can go find someone else
 

Rave

New Member
I'm not even sure that having a fellow anthro enthusiast or whatever for a date would be that great. I mean opposites attract and all that. I have friends that I confide in about "furry" stuff, but that's casual friends and fellow enthusiasts.

I see so many folks in the fandom limit themselves socially and in romance to the people who can relate to their enthusiam for anthro stuff. It seems like a good idea, but it sometimes leads to making connections that are not as healthy as they at first appear just to be with someone who is into the same Intarweb stuff. Being able to laugh about Homestar Runner together and get the same joke references is a nice ice breaker sometimes, but it's not everything, and neither is the "furry" stuff.  

I have only even shown my anthro art to a couple of my past SO's. One was sort of into it, and the other was ambivalent. I did not expect or want either of them to be into the "furry" thing in the end. I just felt like sharing cause art is an important part of who I am. Neither of them freaked out upon seeing my work or anything like that either though. The way some people on the Web talk derisively about "furry" art, you would think anyone normal who see's an anthro drawing is obliged to immediately start running around screaming and insisting that you are insane for drawing it. Actually, to the average person, it's just not that big a deal one way or the other.
 

Todd Fox

New Member
Rave said:
Actually, to the average person, it's just not that big a deal one way or the other.

Yea right. where do you live, the people around here would probably lynch me. now trying to find someone out there that would tolerate my fandom much less accept it i would be set,.. however this is not the case. But i kinda usually date in the medical community too. Damn synics,.. oh wait, ^.^

I'll tell you what. let me know to whom this is no big deal and i'll be there. exept gay,
 

Rave

New Member
RE:   Furries and Dating.

Todd Fox said:
Rave said:
Actually, to the average person, it's just not that big a deal one way or the other.  

Yea right.  where do you live,

Really? Well, I guess my area IS sort of liberal...I live in the Washington DC metro area. A number of anthro-related artists and such are in the general vicinity. I think Huskie may still be next door in Silver Spring Maryland and Jennadelle of Deviant Art fame grew up right in Fairfax, to name a couple. I used to think California was the center of all things "furry", but was surprised to discover how many anthro artists and such are around here.

If anything, some folks are TOO liberal even for me sometimes around here. It's a very diverse area with plenty of conservative folks too though. I'm just saying the overall tone is fairly "liberal" for lack of a better term, perhaps more so than the locals realize, relative to other parts of the country I mean.

Anyway, I also showed some of my stuff, including the *gasp!* pinups, to an artist friend I met at work and she was simply curious and interested in seeing more such art. No freak out there either. I'm sure there are places where people really would take anthro art the wrong way though, but hey, everyone is different wherever you go. You have to pick who you share things with carefully in any case.  

And then, I never said anything about people being accepting of the fandom at large. I was only referring to the art aspect of things. Anyone  would wear fur suits and tails in public etc. at their own risk, wherever they happen to be. Drawings are one thing, "lifestyle" stuff is another.
 

Bane

Member
RE:  Furries and Dating.

Ziba the lioness said:
What did I tell you (be glad I bothered to lift my ass and help XD)

Here is a site to find furries all around the world
http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/

Here are some profiles. I hope the url's works but if not then you can look up new zealand yourself
http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/index.cgi?action=viewprofile&user=Snickers&marker.x=5030&marker.y=1826
http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/index.cgi?action=viewprofile&user=Spaztian&marker.x=5030&marker.y=1826
http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/index.cgi?action=viewprofile&user=Mayfurr&marker.x=5030&marker.y=1826
http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/index.cgi?action=viewprofile&user=Faerith&marker.x=5030&marker.y=1826
http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/index.cgi?action=viewprofile&user=Faerith&marker.x=5030&marker.y=1826
http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/index.cgi?action=viewprofile&user=zarathus&marker.x=5030&marker.y=1826
http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/index.cgi?action=viewprofile&user=EzraPanthy&marker.x=5030&marker.y=1826

These are just some furries living in new zealand. Im 99.9% sure there are more, seeing that not all furries in this whole wide world knows of thise search site here either =p

Thanks for looking for me, but they are all on the north island, I live on the south island, Mid canterbury. Maybe I will stay a lonely fox furrie......
 

Kyrre

Member
RE:   Furries and Dating.

Todd Fox said:
I'll tell you what.  let me know to whom this is no big deal and i'll be there.  exept gay,

The three C's in Ohio: Cleveland, Columbus, and Cincy. Then, of course, there's my current hometown, Dayton. I've never once had a problem outside in the suburbs of these big cities either. Frankly, most people don't care about it. Even my friends in a very-right wing religious organziation don't see a problem... as long as you recognize that the body given to you is special and you shouldn't want to change it, blah blah...

So, yes, Ohioans in general are either indifferent or think it's funny. In the 4 years I've lived here, I have not met a single hostile person in regards to anything furry-related.

Then there's Ontario, Canada and most of Upstate NY that I can vouch for too.
 
I'd date someone, furry or not. I'd hate to say, "well, are you a furry? Oh, okay, then this won't work..." without giving it a try first. Someone can not be into something, but not put down the other who is into a certain thing. I would be even harder to say "Okay, I can't date you, as you're not a furry" if I already have feeling for that guy. *shrug*

(I don't want children, either)
 
Ziba the lioness said:
Here is a site to find furries all around the world
http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/

hey thas a cool site ziba. thanx for helping him out cuz you just helped me out as well. i shall register on this site as D-WOLF, for that is my fursona, as soon as possible.

edit: i'm the 154th furry to register on that site apparently. not that it means anything except not enough furries know about that site. atleast right now....
 

Ziba the lioness

Overgrown housecat
blackdragoon said:
hey thas a cool site ziba. thanx for helping him out cuz you just helped me out as well. i shall register on this site as D-WOLF, for that is my fursona, as soon as possible.

edit: i'm the 154th furry to register on that site apparently. not that it means anything except not enough furries know about that site. atleast right now....

Hehe, glad I could help you as well :) and yeah, this site is pretty new for most furries even though its been up for some years now. My gues is just that they dont advertise enough for it XD To be kind to them maybe I should put a link to them on my board =p and someone could make a new forum threat about them here.. I'll do that in a few minutes (after a phone call) unless someone beats me to it
 
I think you mean "thread," Ann. Threatening someone into a relationship is not a good idea. lol

Phone calls and letters are a good idea, as well as passing photos over the internet and live chatting. It allows you to become more comfortable with the person. After a while, you may want to go visit that person to see if the relationship becomes stronger.

Though beware... I've seen online relationships end in the blink of an eye, even ones that have lasted for years. And I know because I was the victim of one. It still hurts me to this day.
 
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