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Furry and Dating

Nihles

Pet foxxo
I'd imagine it doesn't really matter if you're a furry or no and that a (good) partner probably wouldn't care. In a best case scenario they'd probably try to support you in your hobby. People don't need to necessarily have the exact same interests to date after all. Its cool to try and aim to meet and date people with similar common interests though, because as you yourself said OP, having someone to participate in a hobby with can be fun! I can't really help you on how to find people as I've never really had a partner, but it helps to try and go out and meet people. Make accounts on dating sites if you need to. The easiest way to meet that special someone is to put yourself out there I'd imagine. If you're aiming to date another furry, I think there are furry dating sites? I have no idea how good they are. You could also try going to cons and meeting people that way.

Tbh I kinda need help meeting people myself. But a lot of that is due to my own social issues. I simply can't talk to people. Its hard.
This, a hundred times. My spouse knows about and enables the hobbies she doesn't herself enjoy (furry,video games) and ame we havr a few a few hobbies we love together (dancing, board games, movies) If you insist someone have a certain hobby or interest before you even meet them you will exclude a lot of potentially wonderful mates
 

Nihles

Pet foxxo
This, a hundred times. My spouse knows about and enables the hobbies she doesn't herself enjoy (furry,video games) and ame we havr a few a few hobbies we love together (dancing, board games, movies) If you insist someone have a certain hobby or interest before you even meet them you will exclude a lot of potentially wonderful mates
Please ignore my terrible typing. Cell phone on a bumpy bus ride.
 

adiostama

Active Member
My ex vehemently hated furries and was really displeased that I considered myself one. Current boyfriend is not a furry and doesn't seem to really care.
Personally I don't think I could ever date another furry. All the male furries I have met irl that are attracted to women have just made me feel uncomfortable.
Sometimes I feel jealous of my friends that get to draw cute pictures of their fursonas together, but besides that I think I am more compatible with people outside the furry fandom.

As for OP's question of how to find furries to date.. There's probably a furry dating site out there idk.
 

David Drake

Representative of Naboo
Something I learned? Just try to make friends. Be a good friend. Don't go into it seeking anything. If a connection happens naturally, then it'll be the best. If not, at least you've got an ally.
 

Filter

ɹǝʇlᴉℲ
Sometimes I feel jealous of my friends that get to draw cute pictures of their fursonas together...
It may seem kind of silly, but that's actually one of the biggest reasons why I'd consider dating a furry. Drawing our fursonas together. I don't draw mine hanging out with my other characters, but I totally would with a significant other who is into similar things.
 

Micshork

New Member
My apologies if this made anyone uncomfortable or made anyone upset. I just wanted people to share their experiences and stories either in Dating, Lovers or even Marriage while also being a Furry since the Furry Fandom is looked down upon a lot.

I hope there is no trouble.
 

Micshork

New Member
Well I'd say that I don't think being a furry should really impact your relationship. If they aren't into furries then that's just how it is. As long as they don't get pissy at you for it then your relationship should be just fine. Straight or gay, male or female. I'd say finding a straight relationship within the furry fandom is not as common as gay relationships but it can totally be done. I'm gay and I'm dating a furry irl and we get along well. Just be like any other relationship. Enjoy each other's company. Understand each other. Communicate. Spend time with each other. Be there for them. Stuff like that. I wouldn't be too worried about worrying about small details specific to a furry relationship. Just be a good partner regardless and things will fall into place in the end. ( Also offtopic, love the profile picture ;3 )

Thanks.
 

Nihles

Pet foxxo
My apologies if this made anyone uncomfortable or made anyone upset. I just wanted people to share their experiences and stories either in Dating, Lovers or even Marriage while also being a Furry since the Furry Fandom is looked down upon a lot.

I hope there is no trouble.
No trouble from me, it's a valid question to ask!
 

malibu

Well-Known Member
I've dated a few women in the past, none were furries. They didn't see my cartoon animal interest as anything more strange than video games or comic books, it's just another hobby to them.

I was lucky that my last girlfriend indulged in my furry obsession and came up with a 'sons so I could draw us together, even though she never got into the fandom. It was fun, and if I ever decide to date again I'd like at least that.
 

quoting_mungo

Well-Known Member
I was lucky that my last girlfriend indulged in my furry obsession and came up with a 'sons so I could draw us together, even though she never got into the fandom. It was fun, and if I ever decide to date again I'd like at least that.
I mean... I've drawn anthropomorphic depictions of people in my life who aren't part of furry fandom a pile of times. :) It's the hazard of dating an artist (and most of them tend to find it amusing).
 

Nihles

Pet foxxo
Tja
I mean... I've drawn anthropomorphic depictions of people in my life who aren't part of furry fandom a pile of times. :) It's the hazard of dating an artist (and most of them tend to find it amusing).
That's good to hear - I'm thinking of asking my spouse if they want a fursona made just for funsies.
 

Dongding

The sheep
I mean... I've drawn anthropomorphic depictions of people in my life who aren't part of furry fandom a pile of times. :) It's the hazard of dating an artist (and most of them tend to find it amusing).
Tja

That's good to hear - I'm thinking of asking my spouse if they want a fursona made just for funsies.
F-ing AWR! <3

I made one of my GF when we first started dating and we hung it on the fridge. She still doesn't know I'm a furry yet. (But she has found incredibly awful fetish porn tabs open one day so she knows I'm uhhh, interested in them for gratification at the very least.) I should take a picture once I fly back if it's still there and post it here somewhere. She's a cat in the picture lol.
 

Cloak7017

New Member
Honestly, if someone can accept my furry hobby then that's good enough for me. I kind of prefer to and have enjoyed dating other furries just because it's nice sharing in that interest. I've also dated people who weren't furries and they have usually been supportive and see it as nothing more than drawing or fishing. Like a lot of people have been saying, if you exclude non-furries then you might miss out on that one special person. At the same time however, I could see why you would want to try and date mostly other furries as drawing art and going to cons together with someone is amazing. I hope this helped and I hope you find that ond whether she be a furrry or not.
 
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Deleted member 82554

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Furry and dating sounds a lot like a bad title for a cheesy porno to me.
 

malibu

Well-Known Member
I mean... I've drawn anthropomorphic depictions of people in my life who aren't part of furry fandom a pile of times. :) It's the hazard of dating an artist (and most of them tend to find it amusing).

Yeah, I like drawing friends as anthros or even just cartoon animals. It was just different for me since she got active with it and came up with her own 'sona design. She would even commission art for us as random gifts. Someone like that would be kinda cool.
 

Pandox_Paradox

It looks like a stick figure wearing sunglasses
I've had an interesting hodge-podge mix in regards to the dating scene. But, it worked itself out in the end for the better.
A few years back I was dating a "strict normie" if you'd like to call him that. We'd been together for three years already and I felt that it was time to come out as a furry to my then-boyfriend. It did not go over well. He let me know he thought the fandom was disgusting and full of "weirdos who fuck animals", then basically interrogated me about whether or not I fucked animals. I informed him more on the fandom, but he refused to change his perspective. Stupid me...I felt if he didn't like the fandom, then I needed to compromise for the sake of the relationship. I ended up dropping the fandom completely one day. Stopped drawing art, talking to my friends in the fandom, and deleted my account.
Fast forward a couple of months when I get married to aforementioned strict normie and am hanging out two of my best friends at their apartment one day. One of them is a beginning graphic designer who's been busy with commissions. Me also being an artist made me incredibly curious and excited to see what he'd been working on, so I asked to see them. Turns out, a few of them were 110% anthropomorphic furry art. So, me being my incredibly smooth self, pointed out the furry art and shouted "FURRY!!!!". He swiveled around in his chair with this shocked look on his face asking how I knew what that was. We spent the rest of night talking about the fandom, letting our other friend in on it, as well as gushing about our fursonas. Later that same night, I let my now-husband know about my discovery who then forbid me from talking to my furry best friend, then giving me the silent treatment for a month because I went back into the fandom. Again, I cut contact because my then-S.O. said so.
A few years later and almost a year after my divorce from the man who ended up having an affair the whole five years of marriage, healing, and getting back into the fandom; I got back into contact with my furry best friend, who I learned became an established furry artist in the fandom. Turns out, we both had feelings for each other, but kept them secret because I was married and he respected that. Now, I'm living with him, making furry art, making friends with people on the fandom again, and can finally say I'm truly happy after years of having to hide the real me from someone who didn't even love me for me.
At the time I'm writing this, he's sitting here next to me at the dining room table working on the newspaper, smiling over at me every few minutes, while our three dogs sleep lazily on the couch. This is the life~
 

Nihles

Pet foxxo
I've had an interesting hodge-podge mix in regards to the dating scene. But, it worked itself out in the end for the better.
A few years back I was dating a "strict normie" if you'd like to call him that. We'd been together for three years already and I felt that it was time to come out as a furry to my then-boyfriend. It did not go over well. He let me know he thought the fandom was disgusting and full of "weirdos who fuck animals", then basically interrogated me about whether or not I fucked animals. I informed him more on the fandom, but he refused to change his perspective. Stupid me...I felt if he didn't like the fandom, then I needed to compromise for the sake of the relationship. I ended up dropping the fandom completely one day. Stopped drawing art, talking to my friends in the fandom, and deleted my account.
Fast forward a couple of months when I get married to aforementioned strict normie and am hanging out two of my best friends at their apartment one day. One of them is a beginning graphic designer who's been busy with commissions. Me also being an artist made me incredibly curious and excited to see what he'd been working on, so I asked to see them. Turns out, a few of them were 110% anthropomorphic furry art. So, me being my incredibly smooth self, pointed out the furry art and shouted "FURRY!!!!". He swiveled around in his chair with this shocked look on his face asking how I knew what that was. We spent the rest of night talking about the fandom, letting our other friend in on it, as well as gushing about our fursonas. Later that same night, I let my now-husband know about my discovery who then forbid me from talking to my furry best friend, then giving me the silent treatment for a month because I went back into the fandom. Again, I cut contact because my then-S.O. said so.
A few years later and almost a year after my divorce from the man who ended up having an affair the whole five years of marriage, healing, and getting back into the fandom; I got back into contact with my furry best friend, who I learned became an established furry artist in the fandom. Turns out, we both had feelings for each other, but kept them secret because I was married and he respected that. Now, I'm living with him, making furry art, making friends with people on the fandom again, and can finally say I'm truly happy after years of having to hide the real me from someone who didn't even love me for me.
At the time I'm writing this, he's sitting here next to me at the dining room table working on the newspaper, smiling over at me every few minutes, while our three dogs sleep lazily on the couch. This is the life~
Long read, but the ending made my whole day better. I'm sorry you had to go through so much trouble to get where you are but glad things are good for you now. Thanks for sharing!
 

WithMyBearHands

Smudge and arrogant
From personal experience, I wouldn’t date another furry. The majority of people I’ve met in the fandom are far too fucking weird and dramatic. (That doesn’t include this lovely bunch, this forum exists outside of furryism lol)

My wife knows my hobbies and chooses to steer clear. I’m perfectly fine with that. I love her to death but it’s nice to have something that’s just me, yknow? It’s like “boys night out” except I’m getting blitzed on the couch and talking to strangers online
 

Nihles

Pet foxxo
From personal experience, I wouldn’t date another furry. The majority of people I’ve met in the fandom are far too fucking weird and dramatic. (That doesn’t include this lovely bunch, this forum exists outside of furryism lol)

My wife knows my hobbies and chooses to steer clear. I’m perfectly fine with that. I love her to death but it’s nice to have something that’s just me, yknow? It’s like “boys night out” except I’m getting blitzed on the couch and talking to strangers online
I go to bed later, so I just go online for an hour or so after my spouse goes to bed. Though recently I have been addicted and been checking my phone during work.
 

WithMyBearHands

Smudge and arrogant
I go to bed later, so I just go online for an hour or so after my spouse goes to bed. Though recently I have been addicted and been checking my phone during work.
Yeah same. She goes to bed around dinner time. I work second shift so I’m usually up for another good six hours or so. The alone time would be better if we had more time together to balance it out. Can’t have too much of either.
 

Uluri

Lord of Potatoes
I am in a relationship with a Non-fur, but we both very much respect each others interests, and communicate well about it. I think it is important to work for a relationship where both of you can respect each other and enjoy each other more than anything. I don't think its a very healthy relationship if one or neither of you can accept each other's interests or opinions or even talk about it.

My Partner is okay with furries, and the fandom, and also enjoys hanging around FurAffinity. I'd be okay either way if he ever chose not to, too. I shouldn't dictate what my Partner's interests should be. We both have certain interests that each other know we like or don't like, too, and it's not like we'd reprimand one another for having a distaste for what one another likes. Everyone has different interests/tastes.

^_^ Though we do both have Personas of some kind, he's got a demon persona. I love drawing our ocs together.
 

Xitheon

The cat's mother.
Hello.

I wanted to create this thread for two purposes. One, to ask for my own personal advice from people, and Two, to help others who might have this problem and might want to discuss this issue with each other.

I want to hear how YOU (The reader of this post) maintain a Healthy relationship with a Partner.

I am a Straight Man who wants to date a straight Woman (Which I have done before) but I want to date someone who is in the Furry Community and is a Fursuiter. Where would someone like me go and FIND someone like that AND MAINTAIN that relationship? I know some people might think of Yiff stuff, but how do you maintain a relationship where you not only have your Persona but also have to take care of other things such as Work and other things like School, Friends, Bills, Other Hobbies etc. If is better that your partner be a Furry/Fursuiter themselves that way when you both participate in the hobby you do it together?

Also what about being in a relationship with someone who isn't a Furry? Is it sometimes hard for them to accept you hobby? Do they think your hobby is strange? How would you recommend being involved with someone who isn't part of the fandom and managing that relationship?

I am just asking for advice. Not only for me but for other people who are seeking a Romantic Relationship and how to maintain that relationship because I a sure there are people here who have done that.

Thank you and I hope this thread helps and I hope to hear how you manage your healthy relationships.

My mother is an old-fashioned, artistic, shy, awkward, and slightly prudish writer of fantasy fiction with (sadly) low self-esteen. My father is ten years younger than her, has a filthy sense of humour, is a bisexual transvestite retired computer-programmer (my mother can barely use facebook) and also a sex-mad slob... And they're still together after 30+ years. I'm not saying "opposites attract" but lovers, husbands and wives can be totally different in their ways of expressing themselves, and still live happiliy together for their whole lives.

I'm not sure if that helps or answers your questions, but there you go.
 
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