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Furry families...why?

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Argonne

Why worry
Yeah, I was playing on an Internet stereotype there, buddy.

Still though, I do agree with you.

+1 Sylox for admin!
I'm actually kinda new to the internet world soo I never knew that stereotype existed. But I agree VOTE FOR SYLOX!
 

Argonne

Why worry
You gonna share that?
I saw the first post before you changed it. Haha you bastard. But yeah you can have as much popcorn as you want.
 

Argonne

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Deleted member 82554

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About what?

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Holy shit...
 

Argonne

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Astus

Well Known Foxxo
I have no idea what's going on here... wasn't this supposed to be a thread about furry families?

On that topic I do have someone in my "furry family" that I consider a brother mainly because we both wrote a story in which our personas were in fact brothers and that's pretty much the only reason. Besides having a family adds more drama and people seem to love that kind of stuff.

As for all the side talk about fetishes and the such, know that the majority of people don't choose their fetishes, they just happen. The reason I suspect they do is through an association between the object and sex, though since that is highly debated, I myself am not entirely sure why it happens. Without a doubt some fetishes are gross and should be kept to themselves or people of similar interests, but that's no reason to bash them and push them away. If they start openly doing things around others who are not comfortable with it (especially the gross stuff) then yes, they deserve the scorn they get; just know that not all of the people with that kink are like that.

Try to educate yourself before spreading things around, that's one of the main reasons all these biases in the world are spread around because people make assumptions and tell them as facts
 

Ratical

New Member
I don't know what I believe in tbh. Part of me sympathizes with them and the other doesn't' give two shits about their problems
Nope. I added that in for shock. I certainly didn't choose to be bisexual and if I had a do over I'd want to be normal and be straight.

You're conflicted about them because you're conflicted about yourself. You want to be "normal" because maybe you see your sexuality as a determent. Likewise, you want to support people in the fandom but your personal feelings are getting in the way because you can't move past the idea that their behavior is "abnormal" and therefore wrong.

I really feel like if you were fully accepting of yourself, you'd be able to accept others too, or at the very least not care as much about what they're doing. I realize that's not a switch you can just flip on and off but maybe you gotta make peace with yourself first is all I'm saying.
 

Sylox

boi...chill out!
You're conflicted about them because you're conflicted about yourself. You want to be "normal" because maybe you see your sexuality as a determent. Likewise, you want to support people in the fandom but your personal feelings are getting in the way because you can't move past the idea that their behavior is "abnormal" and therefore wrong.

I really feel like if you were fully accepting of yourself, you'd be able to accept others too, or at the very least not care as much about what they're doing. I realize that's not a switch you can just flip on and off but maybe you gotta make peace with yourself first is all I'm saying.

I accept myself, I mean I think I do, IDK. All I know is heterosexuality is normal and I aint normal.
 
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I accept myself, I mean I think I do, IDK. All I know is heterosexuality is normal and I aint normal.

Who wants to be normal? How boring. It's our oddities that make us unique and special in our own way. Instead of running from it try embracing it.
 
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Mikazuki Marazhu

I hate you all
I accept myself, I mean I think I do, IDK. All I know is heterosexuality is normal and I aint normal.

I'm sure there are people like you.

To name one: Muln

I'm not sure if people in Maryland are conservative if they are then I'm sad for ye... I can only wish...
 

Conker

Destroyer of Nazi Teddy Bears
I just don't get it and think its weird.

different strokes for different folks.

You literally answered your own question on the first page. I imagine the next four pages which I haven't yet read will be about model trains or something.
 
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Amiir

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I accept myself, I mean I think I do, IDK. All I know is heterosexuality is normal and I aint normal.

I imagine it's hard for anyone to accept themselves, I know it was for me. Just remember: abnormal =/= wrong (not necessarily, at the very least)
 

Sylox

boi...chill out!
Who wants to be normal? How boring. It's our oddities that make us unique and special in our own way. Instead of running from it try embracing it.

I just don't know how to embrace it. It feels wrong to me for some reason, like I'm some abnormal freak cuz I'm not straight.
 

Ratical

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I just don't know how to embrace it. It feels wrong to me for some reason, like I'm some abnormal freak cuz I'm not straight.

Think about it like this: there's nothing you can do about being bi, so you're left with two options: reject it and feel bad, or accept that it's an unchangeable part of yourself and commit to making the best of it. Maybe you're like me and worried about how other people will see you, or that you stand to lose to much if you make it too public. I'm not saying to do anything you're not comfortable with, but even if everyone else did accept you, it wouldn't mean anything at all if you still couldn't take pride in yourself. Just something to think about.

It's the same whether you're gay or genderqueer or autistic or born with one arm. Life rolled the dice and those were the numbers that came up. There are lots of same-sex couples out there living what are essentially normal lives with the exception that they and their partner have the same plumbing. And by that I mean they share a bathroom. Also, their genitals are the same.

I imagine it's hard for anyone to accept themselves, I know it was for me. Just remember: abnormal =/= wrong (not necessarily, at the very least)

I remember you made a thread about this a while ago. I hope you're making progress, too. I have little doubts from time to time, probably because of my upbringing, but I'd like to think I've mostly embraced it. People might try and shame you for it, but it's nothing to be ashamed of. I've seen the beauty of same-sex love, and I try to hold onto that when I have doubts.
 
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Amiir

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I remember you made a thread about this a while ago. I hope you're making progress, too. I have little doubts from time to time, probably because of my upbringing, but I'd like to think I've mostly embraced it. People might try and shame you for it, but it's nothing to be ashamed of. I've seen the beauty of same-sex love, and I try to hold onto that when I have doubts.

Again, I still am not that comfortable being what I am. I remain- I was going to say ashamed but what's there to be ashamed of for a thing you had absolutely no control over? It was an accident. What I do feel constantly, however, is frustration for being unable to change my sexuality. It's better if I remain in the closet for now, maybe get out when I get an accomodation of my own, far away from my family. But even then I don't see any benefits to it

I'm curious: when you say that it's nothing to be ashamed of are you implying that you got out of the closet?
 

Sylox

boi...chill out!
Think about it like this: there's nothing you can do about being bi, so you're left with two options: reject it and feel bad, or accept that it's an unchangeable part of yourself and commit to making the best of it. Maybe you're like me and worried about how other people will see you, or that you stand to lose to much if you make it too public. I'm not saying to do anything you're not comfortable with, but even if everyone else did accept you, it wouldn't mean anything at all if you still couldn't take pride in yourself. Just something to think about.

It's the same whether you're gay or genderqueer or autistic or born with one arm. Life rolled the dice and those were the numbers that came up. There are lots of same-sex couples out there living what are essentially normal lives with the exception that they and their partner have the same plumbing. And by that I mean they share a bathroom. Also, their genitals are the same.

I mean the lack of confidence I have and the fact that I berate myself on a daily basis probably plays a big part in why I just feel weird that I'm not straight.
 

Ahkrin Descol

RELIC Specialist
Perhaps you should look on it more in regards to how it affects others. It's not like you're harming anyone or impacting their lives'; the only way it affects anyone is if you get into a gay relationship in which case you're actually benefiting someone by giving them someone to feel comfortable around. Of course it could swing the other way and you get into a heterosexual relationship in which case there's none of these complications. However it ends up, you're not harming anyone and are in fact helping others to not feel weird about themselves', what's wrong with that?
 

Troj

Your Friendly Neighborhood Dino Therapist
Well, and the fundamental reason people typically resent or hate being gay or lesbian, bisexual, trans, queer, asexual, fat, scrawny, disabled, tall, or short is because of how others treat and judge them.

Almost everyone is capable of experiencing all the ups and downs of love, lust, loneliness, heartbreak, ambivalence, caring, and intimacy, no matter their sexual orientation. So, at that basic level, no sexual orientation is "better" or "worse" than any other.

It's when you tack on society and other people that things get uncomfortable and complicated. Bisexuals have to deal with different societal baggage than gay people, who have to deal with different societal baggage than straight people, who deal with different societal baggage than asexuals.

So, people end up feeling that if they could just be different, life would be better. (Meanwhile, the people you wish you were more like are comparing themselves to people they wish they were more like, and so on.)

Anywho, at a certain point, I think you have to ask yourself if you're going to let other people determine how you feel about you, especially considering you have to live with you for the rest of your life.

It may be helpful to ask yourself why something that you feel is bad or wrong about you is wrong. The answers and images that immediately pop into your head after you ask can be extremely instructive.
 
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Maelstrom Eyre

Ahmoua Wolf
It's not my thing, but I don't care that other people do it.

I just look at it as any other form of roleplay. . .just acting out or pretending to be part of a family, instead of part of a military unit or medieval guild or house of elves or crew on a space ship or any of the other weird-ass imaginary worlds people like to pretend they live in.

People are weird. We all do stuff that others are going to consider weird. There are seven billion of us stuck on this stupid planet and we all think other people are the weird ones, so we might as well just get used to it.

The "furry families" don't affect me, they don't interfere with my own life. As long as it doesn't involve any real-life illegal behavior, I will continue to not care.
 
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