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Grey Ace Furs out there?

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DarkoKavinsky

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Just curious to know if there's any grey ace furs out there.

I'm a demisexual myself and it's kind of hard finding other people who are well... aces. Had another demisexual contact me today which brightened up my day. So I wonder if there's more out there in the gray ace spectrum. Or heck anybody under the ace umbrella.
 

quoting_mungo

Well-Known Member
I'm demiromantic, but pretty darn sexual, so I guess I'm pretty much the anti-you going by your signature. ;)

I believe we do have at least a few ace/gray people on the forum, though, and by some accident of association my Tumblr social circle probably has at least as many ace/gray folks as straight people. XD
 

Sunburst_Odell

Some weird teen on the web that likes cartoons
I wouldn't call it graysexuality but I am attracted to very, very few people.
 

Sunburst_Odell

Some weird teen on the web that likes cartoons
Umm. This is Fur Affinity. You may have beter luck on tumblr or deviantart... where its not 98% sex.
Not every furry is into yiff. It's just most people post a lot of yiff on FA because they get more views. Most people that don't draw yiff get no attention, so a lot of people who aren't into it either don't post or don't get noticed. So some gray ace furs probably exist.
 

Inkblooded

Him...
Banned
Not every furry is into yiff. It's just most people post a lot of yiff on FA because they get more views. Most people that don't draw yiff get no attention, so a lot of people who aren't into it either don't post or don't get noticed. So some gray ace furs probably exist.

I know. Its just that FA is majority NSFW. So if you have an aversion to NSFW maybe FA isnt the place

(yes there is a SFW mode but it doesn't work very well, because not everyone uses the mature categories correctly)
 

Magnavox

Flying the tiny skys
Are you just trying to avoid getting hit on or something like that?

Or, are you just looking for people to relate to?

I feel attractions to people I meet, but I prefer just being with them .
 

DarkoKavinsky

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Are you just trying to avoid getting hit on or something like that?

Or, are you just looking for people to relate to?

I feel attractions to people I meet, but I prefer just being with them .
I'm a twenty three year old male with a handle bar mustache and crazy uncontrollable hair. Trust me I need no effort to avoid being hit on. Just seeing by the odd chance if there's more out there. It's nice talking to those who won't don't immediately look at you sideways or try to argue with you what you are *cough*tumblr*cough*
Umm. This is Fur Affinity. You may have beter luck on tumblr or deviantart... where its not 98% sex.

Not sex repulsed, or any of that realm. Demisexuality isn't the absence of all sexuality. Believe me I'm a kinky freak, it's just for me and well with demisexuality in general I feel nothing until there is an emotional attachment. Heck most of my kinks has a basis on trust and understanding. So emotion and love does more for me than well porn period.

Heck more furry art has more emotion than other NFSW art, I've seen quite a few pieces that actually show love.

I have no illusions that I am a minority, and that what I am saying will probably be confusing to most who read it.

But just by the off chance that somebody else can raise their hand and go, "Oh over here! Hi!"

It'd be nice to chat, and besides it's nice not feeling so damn alone out there.
 

Inkblooded

Him...
Banned
I'm pretty sure most people don't develop sexual attraction until they get emotionally attached... I fail to see how this is a sexuality. Isnt sexual orientation about what sex you're attracted to?
 

Inkblooded

Him...
Banned
Ladies and gentleman,
Tinder!

That's more of a cultural thing. I can assure you that there are equally as many people who don't have any interest in having sex with strangers.

I don't feel attracted to people I don't know, but claiming i was even partially asexual would be a lie. Words like that have meanings.
 

DarkoKavinsky

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I'm pretty sure most people don't develop sexual attraction until they get emotionally attached... I fail to see how this is a sexuality. Isnt sexual orientation about what sex you're attracted to?
A gal walks by

Every guy in line does a cartoon wolf impression while staring at her parts. "What I wouldn't do to her!"

Yeah? Never happen to you? I've seen my female friends gossip about who'd they want to fuck. Look at polyarmous relationships, or even friends with benefits. Casual sex is glorified if not expected in many regions.

One night stand has been a terminology for decades.

Asexuality is the absence of sexual attraction. With demisexuality the primary attraction is non existent. That's what makes people want to bang people on first sight. Cosmetic appearances, etc.

If you can go gal watch or crane your neck when an piece of T/A or D/A walks by then congratulations you're like everybody else in the world.

If you physically can't see this or understand it. Chances are you're not fully that. Me I literally feel NOTHING until a strong bond is formed. Other people can fantasize about celebrities or look at magazines. for a demisexual it's alienating as many of us can't comprehend it , and its not an Old time mentality either as I have books from 1899 by Guy De Maupassant that talk about having fun in a parlour room and having mistresses for pleasure.

Even strip clubs or other things like just. I don't get it.

it's less that you act upon it but more do you feel these things. For many people they can feel sexual attraction to anybody.
 
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Kiaara

Guest
For many people they can feel sexual attraction to anybody.
Like pansexual people?
My ex girlfriend was pan.

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DarkoKavinsky

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Like pansexual people?
My ex girlfriend was pan.

Funny as that is, I meant more like random people. The reason why demisexuality is hard to grasp for many is culturally it sounds correct, but in reality many people feel sexual attraction without the need of emotion. Some people may need the emotion to want to act upon the feelings.

But many people go "Damn I'd like to tackle that." Or "Damn did you see his/her <insert part here>." My straight friends have done it my gay friend has done it, my female friends have done it.

*shrugs dramatically and looks around*

What person!? I was talking to you. It looked like a ghost broke your neck!
 

JCobalt

Member
I usually avoid discourse on this sort of thing over the internet like a plague, but I have to ask: would it make you feel less alone and in a minority if I said I got where you were coming from, but am not sure I could use your identifier to describe myself?

I have studied art and specifically the human form for such a long time that I have divorced a nude model from physical attraction long ago. With no context, a body is just shapes that I can find aesthetically pleasing or not.
 

Inkblooded

Him...
Banned
A gal walks by

Every guy in line does a cartoon wolf impression while staring at her parts. "What I wouldn't do to her!"

Yeah? Never happen to you? I've seen my female friends gossip about who'd they want to fuck. Look at polyarmous relationships, or even friends with benefits. Casual sex is glorified if not expected in many regions.

One night stand has been a terminology for decades.

Asexuality is the absence of sexual attraction. With demisexuality the primary attraction is non existent. That's what makes people want to bang people on first sight. Cosmetic appearances, etc.

If you can go gal watch or crane your neck when an piece of T/A or D/A walks by then congratulations you're like everybody else in the world.

If you physically can't see this or understand it. Chances are you're not fully that. Me I literally feel NOTHING until a strong bond is formed. Other people can fantasize about celebrities or look at magazines. for a demisexual it's alienating as many of us can't comprehend it , and its not an Old time mentality either as I have books from 1899 by Guy De Maupassant that talk about having fun in a parlour room and having mistresses for pleasure.

Even strip clubs or other things like just. I don't get it.

it's less that you act upon it but more do you feel these things. For many people they can feel sexual attraction to anybody.

Thats still a culture thing. And also - the difference between men and women. Men are more likely to want to copulate with anything that moves, women are more likely to only be interested after knowing someone.

There are exceptions to the rule but thats genetally how it is.

Also, this varies on where you are in the world. In America, where hookups are part of pop culture and youre almost expected to be having a lot of sex, then there may be more people like that. But in other parts of the world it isnt so common.

I dont get strip clubs or hookups either.
But thats not because i have a special sexuality.
Its because I grew up in a different and less sexualized culture, and also, I dont see women (or anyone else) as sex objects to be bought and sold.

But that doesnt make me asexual. If I was asexual i would have no sexual/romantic interest in anyone.

Of course it happens. There are plenty of people like that. But there as equally as many people who aren't. Its common, its not something rare and unique about you.

And comparing not wanting to hook up with strangers to being a persecuted sexuality like homosexual is kind of insulting.

A sexual orientation denotes what sex youre interested in. Thats why the concept of "sexual orientation" exists. In an ideal world we wouldnt need to specify anyway because no one would be seen differently for being gay or lesbian.
 

DarkoKavinsky

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Thats still a culture thing. And also - the difference between men and women. Men are more likely to want to copulate with anything that moves, women are more likely to only be interested after knowing someone.

There are exceptions to the rule but thats genetally how it is.

Also, this varies on where you are in the world. In America, where hookups are part of pop culture and youre almost expected to be having a lot of sex, then there may be more people like that. But in other parts of the world it isnt so common.

I dont get strip clubs or hookups either.
But thats not because i have a special sexuality.
Its because I grew up in a different and less sexualized culture, and also, I dont see women (or anyone else) as sex objects to be bought and sold.

But that doesnt make me asexual. If I was asexual i would have no sexual/romantic interest in anyone.

Of course it happens. There are plenty of people like that. But there as equally as many people who aren't. Its common, its not something rare and unique about you.

And comparing not wanting to hook up with strangers to being a persecuted sexuality like homosexual is kind of insulting.

A sexual orientation denotes what sex youre interested in. Thats why the concept of "sexual orientation" exists. In an ideal world we wouldnt need to specify anyway because no one would be seen differently for being gay or lesbian.
Then enlighten me please on what I am because I feel NOTHING. Absolutely NOTHING. No drive, no ANYTHING and its not a choice. Believe me. I wish it were. Especially would make growing up where I did easier or even my friendships with others easier to grasp. There's no male, female or anything that I've saw at first sight and felt anything sexual, even second, third, fifth, and 87th time.

I don't feel any sexual attraction in general. In fact I tend to notice how overtly sexualized everything is. I get it asexuals weren't being stoned or burnt alive or rallied up into camps to die, and I know from Tumblr space there's a general vibe that we don't exist. What we're feeling is just confusion as they then go to talk about what they'd love to do to this famous <insert non CIS person here.>

What makes it difficult is when I do. It's very singular in nature, and it's seldom and rare. The emotional connection is what makes the attraction purely. I've felt things for both my female friends and my male friends, but random people of anything nothing. Both these feels are perplexing as they're not the norm.

Heck I've had my female friends skype me in their underwear asking me what clothes they should wear to cons. I am 99.9% sure that's not normal. They used to also call me their straight gay friend. People used to assume I was a homosexual because I hung out with gals and showed no bloody interest.

I'm not a good person. I'm not on a morale high horse either, and it isn't celibacy or being reserved. There's no religious or cultural backing to why I feel the way I do. if it was culturally driven I'd feel the opposite.

So its very alienating and odd feeling being around others who do. Men who want to screw any gal or other lad they see, and woman who feel the same. It's very weird seeing how people are talking about how hot somebody is and you have no idea who it is in the room. You hear friends discussing one night stands and it's confusing, or threesomes or what ever, or even what they'd love to do to <insert famous person>.

if what I am saying is offending you then please. Just block me,please ignore my existence.
 

KILL.MAIM.KILL

Angry Lizard King
Banned
What the heck does any of this even mean?

This is why I don't label my sexuality.
You stay out of the loop for five minutes, and then suddenly there are twenty-seven new sexual identities you're supposed to acknowledge and understand.
There is no reason it needs to be this complicated.

Also, it seems like you guys are playing the I'm so much better than those NORMAL people game.
Not cool.
 

Yvvki

Sassy lesser panda.
Thats still a culture thing. And also - the difference between men and women. Men are more likely to want to copulate with anything that moves, women are more likely to only be interested after knowing someone.

There are exceptions to the rule but thats genetally how it is.

Also, this varies on where you are in the world. In America, where hookups are part of pop culture and youre almost expected to be having a lot of sex, then there may be more people like that. But in other parts of the world it isnt so common.

I dont get strip clubs or hookups either.
But thats not because i have a special sexuality.
Its because I grew up in a different and less sexualized culture, and also, I dont see women (or anyone else) as sex objects to be bought and sold.

But that doesnt make me asexual. If I was asexual i would have no sexual/romantic interest in anyone.

Of course it happens. There are plenty of people like that. But there as equally as many people who aren't. Its common, its not something rare and unique about you.

And comparing not wanting to hook up with strangers to being a persecuted sexuality like homosexual is kind of insulting.

A sexual orientation denotes what sex youre interested in. Thats why the concept of "sexual orientation" exists. In an ideal world we wouldnt need to specify anyway because no one would be seen differently for being gay or lesbian.
There is a difference between culture and that does play a part into it. Although, he is not talking about being asexual.
Here is something I found that will better describe it.
www.bustle.com: What Does Demisexual Mean? Here Are 6 Signs That You May Identify As Demisexual
 

KILL.MAIM.KILL

Angry Lizard King
Banned
The fuck?
There's a special label for being normal now?
Have we seriously reached the point where average, non-pervert people need to proclaim themselves as different?
What is this world coming to?
 
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silveredgreen

Guest
I'm sex neutral asexual and i really don't think demisexual is even a thing... or gray-ace. You either feel sexual attraction or ya don't, whether you enjoy sex regardless and to what extent aside.
 

KILL.MAIM.KILL

Angry Lizard King
Banned
I'm sex neutral asexual and i really don't think demisexual is even a thing... or gray-ace. You either feel sexual attraction or ya don't, whether you enjoy sex regardless and to what extent aside.

This I agree with. Mostly.
I mean, the hint's in the name. The A- prefix means none. Null.
It's completely normal for people to have different levels of libido.

To be honest though, I have trouble believing Asexuality is a real thing.
Every Asexual identified person I've come across was either a child or attention seeker.
 

Yvvki

Sassy lesser panda.
I'm sex neutral asexual and i really don't think demisexual is even a thing... or gray-ace. You either feel sexual attraction or ya don't, whether you enjoy sex regardless and to what extent aside.
Well let me tell you how confusing it is to grow up not being interested in anyone or anything. Then being friends with someone for 2 years, then developing those feelings for the friend and only the friend.

I don't think it's normal at all. Usually people have crushes on people they barely know.

It took me over a year of knowing my bf as a person before I realised I had feelings for him. And another to be compleatly comfortable around him.

I don't think that's all that normal, at least where I live. Haha.
 
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