How did you "come out"?

[_Hushy]

So there are people who can never know about me but, if a friend or someone that doesn't really matter were to ask me if I'm a furry I'd probably rather not lie or have to keep things secret - for a few reasons. So, I was wondering if anyone had any genius smart-ass replies to "are you a furry?". I don't really wanna say a simple 'yes' cos of potential awkwardness but something funny would make it worthwhile Ideas?

 

[shapeless0ne]

that's the thing, I never did.

 

[MEDS]

First, read this: forums.furaffinity.net: PSA: About "coming out" as a furry

Second, I literally just became one. It's not supposed to be complicated.

 

[_Hushy]

Yes I know, I know. I'm not trying to make another thread about wanting help, just asking how you all did it. Just thought this would be interesting...
I'd rather not have to be so secretive or lie, if I met another furry I wouldn't want to miss the chance.

 

[SoulaCola]

For friends of mine who know, which are really only a few of my close ones, I'd just tell them in a situation where we were sharing personal things with each other. I've never had a bad response and it's felt really good to get it off my chest. It actually turned out that one of my friends was also a furry, haha. I dunno about you, but I can usually figure out how people will react before I tell them, so I guess my advice is that you should just try to use your best judgement on who to tell and when.

 

[_Hushy]

For friends of mine who know, which are really only a few of my close ones, I'd just tell them in a situation where we were sharing personal things with each other. I've never had a bad response and it's felt really good to get it off my chest. It actually turned out that one of my friends was also a furry, haha. I dunno about you, but I can usually figure out how people will react before I tell them, so I guess my advice is that you should just try to use your best judgement on who to tell and when.

Pretty much yeah, thanks. I have told one and it went well. About the particular situation - that's why I'm asking about a smart comment, just would make things go a little easier at the time I think. It's not like I want to announce it to everyone.

 

[um_pineapplez]

No one's asked me, although I let a few terms slip outta my mouth. But the other half of the time I'm spouting nonsensical gibberish, so no one really notices.

 

[RandomNinja11]

Simple m8. If someone asks, just say so. Its a hobby. It's almost like asking you "Do you like videogames?" and then you freak out about it (assuming you freak out about people asking if you're a furry.) Nothing to worry about m8 if they don't like it then good for them

 

[_Hushy]

Yeah I'm just sort of expecting something to come up one day. If I get to know any furries I'd rather not have to separate into two different people depending on which group I'm talking to and ignore the other one.

Edit: not that I expect to meet any in this hole of a town. Get me out of here?

 

[SoulaCola]

I understand you're not planning on telling everyone, I'm just suggesting you keep it to a pretty small group of people you trust. I don't really have a go-to response for you, but if you don't immediately deny it, they'll probably catch on soon enough. I'm sorry I don't have a really good direct answer for you

 

[PlusThirtyOne]

Having a hobby nobody knows about isn't "living a lie". Do you tell everybody what shows you like to watch? Can your family members name your favorite musician? Are coworkers aware what your favorite flavor of icecream is? Did you even feel the need to TELL them?

NO! Because "furry" isn't a gender or sexual orientation.

As for how i got "outted", my mom watched me for several minutes drawing a sexy tiger girl while i unknowingly continued while wearing headphones. Scared the shit out of me but we had a chat the following day where we talked about (semi sexual) furry stuff. She was pretty chill with it. in fact i think she was VERY chill.

 

[_Hushy]

I understand you're not planning on telling everyone, I'm just suggesting you keep it to a pretty small group of people you trust. I don't really have a go-to response for you, but if you don't immediately deny it, they'll probably catch on soon enough. I'm sorry I don't have a really good direct answer for you

Yeah thank you, I understand, I agree with you completely, just thought I might get some interesting responses here is all

 

[nerdbat]

Simple. I was caught masturbating on Sonichu

 

[_Hushy]

Having a hobby nobody knows about isn't "living a lie". Do you tell everybody what shows you like to watch? Can your family members name your favorite musician? Are coworkers aware what your favorite flavor of icecream is? Did you even feel the need to TELL them?

NO! Because "furry" isn't a gender or sexual orientation.

As for how i got "outted", my mom watched me for several minutes drawing a sexy tiger girl while i unknowingly continued while wearing headphones. Scared the shit out of me but we had a chat the following day where we talked about (semi sexual) furry stuff. She was pretty chill with it. in fact i think she was VERY chill.

It really is different though.. It's already affected me here by worrying about how much detail I put into what I say in case someone picks me out. It goes further too like I said about hanging out with different groups of people. I'd rather not have to keep things separate, I don't want to come online on the games I play as different people to keep my friends from knowing. I'd rather not have to keep something I enjoy being a part of closed up.

Now I'm not asking for a cure-all answer to all my problems! Just thought it would be fun seeing how others did it.

Edit: actually yes my family can name my favourite musician because I don't want to have to close it down when I'm near them? Not that I want to leave furry pics open for them but you get the point

 

[PlusThirtyOne]

I'd rather not have to keep things separate

Oh yeah, i get that but think of it this way:
Do you watch Star Trek? Star Wars? Do you play Pokemon? Whatever fandom you may have, do you have any friends or family that don't particularly like the same thing? i'm sure you can think of one. When you're around like-minded friends, you can make jokes and talk about the fandoms you have in common. if your friends are close enough to you then you should be able to gauge how they might react to your furriness. Just like how you don't talk Minecraft with your mom, you shouldn't expect to chat furry stuff with some (or most) of your friends. You don't have to "keep things separate". Just gauge your friends' reactions to casual commentary on subjects like cartoons, fiction, etc. to see if they react positively or negatively to furry culture, assuming they even know it exists. if they engage or seem open to it, roll with it. if they aren't or have some shit opinions, then back down. -And if a hobby is enough to break off a friendship, then fuck 'em! (no, not literally, just get new friends) :V

if being a furry is so important to you (and i mean this in general) that you truly feel the need to "come out" as one to friends and family, then you (again, generalizations) have a problem beyond being a furry.

That said: i know that's not what you were asking.
it's just that we get those kinds of threads soooooo verily often... -And for what it's worth, i DO have friends who aren't into furries and some even despise them but we're still friends. Just because i have a separate hobby from theirs doesn't mean we can't get along. Even if it doesn't peke their interests, they know it does mine so on occasion they might bring it up. Sure, they might bring it up and jab at me for it but it's healthy to laugh at yourself. i do it daily...and yes, even about furry stuff.
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[Sergei Nóhomo]

When I was younger I drew furries. Friends saw it and asked. I said yes and that's that

 

[um_pineapplez]

Just like how you don't talk Minecraft with your mom, you shouldn't expect to chat furry stuff with some (or most) of your friends.

Ironically, I can actually talk Minecraft with my mom, and she completely gets it.

 

[Yakamaru]

"Come out"?

I didn't "come out" as a Furry. I didn't give a shit, and so did no one else. Furry isn't a lifestyle, sexual orientation, gender or even a religion. Furry, like any other fandom/hobby is what you yourself make of it.

People see me posting Furry shit, having Furry Avatars, pics, etc. People still don't give a shit.

Only reaction I've gotten so far is apathy and two who got reeeeeally interested in a certain artists' style so I linked them that shit. I think I've unconsciously made two closet Furries now that I think of it, as they keep pestering me about "the good shit".

 

[modfox]

they saw my phone wallpaper. 2 more years of this shit left to go

 

[PlusThirtyOne]

Ironically, I can actually talk Minecraft with my mom, and she completely gets it.

You got a cool mom like me then.

 

[Saiko]

People usually find out when they add me on Steam or Skype because I use the same profile pic as I do on here. At most I get an, "Are you a furry?" to which the answer is just, "Yup," and we go on as before.

FYI, friends finding out this way is not awkward at all. Just maintain a matter-of-fact attitude, and they'll think nothing of it.

 

[_Hushy]

Oh yeah, i get that but think of it this way:
Do you watch Star Trek? Star Wars? Do you play Pokemon? Whatever fandom you may have, do you have any friends or family that don't particularly like the same thing? i'm sure you can think of one. When you're around like-minded friends, you can make jokes and talk about the fandoms you have in common. if your friends are close enough to you then you should be able to gauge how they might react to your furriness. Just like how you don't talk Minecraft with your mom, you shouldn't expect to chat furry stuff with some (or most) of your friends. You don't have to "keep things separate". Just gauge your friends' reactions to casual commentary on subjects like cartoons, fiction, etc. to see if they react positively or negatively to furry culture, assuming they even know it exists. if they engage or seem open to it, roll with it. if they aren't or have some shit opinions, then back down. -And if a hobby is enough to break off a friendship, then fuck 'em! (no, not literally, just get new friends) :V

if being a furry is so important to you (and i mean this in general) that you truly feel the need to "come out" as one to friends and family, then you (again, generalizations) have a problem beyond being a furry.

That said: i know that's not what you were asking.
it's just that we get those kinds of threads soooooo verily often... -And for what it's worth, i DO have friends who aren't into furries and some even despise them but we're still friends. Just because i have a separate hobby from theirs doesn't mean we can't get along. Even if it doesn't peke their interests, they know it does mine so on occasion they might bring it up. Sure, they might bring it up and jab at me for it but it's healthy to laugh at yourself. i do it daily...and yes, even about furry stuff.
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Okay, fully understand. I'm just happy you see where I'm coming from. It'll probably happen one day so I'd just like to see what people did to make it easier.

Just for clarification it's my family that I don't want to know about it.

As for MineCraft how could I not tell my mum all about my 8 bit CPU in Redstone with a clock, sequential memory, addition and subtraction ALU, and internal buffers that almost made it 'if' test capable if I completed that instruction process.. oh dear

Lots of good answers thank you people. I guess I'll see how it happens when it happens.