If I knew that I wouldn't have been depressed for 4 years now. But your family sounds a lot like mine.
However exercise seems to lighten my mood somewhat.
Also NEVER EVER join the military/Army You are guaranteed to go to war as the state is currently now.
Beside the fact that I consider ALL military staff as either murderers or pro murder.
Once you go military/army You are no longer a human in my eyes only an animal which needs to be put down.
People get brainwashed in that military/army crap and I guarantee that you will NEVER be the same.
No one has EVER come out of the army/Military as better people.
Tell that to my Great Grandfather and Grandfather who defended my country against the Nazi's invading. Fighting for liberty!
Tell that to my uncle, who is a UN Blue beret, helping to maintain stability in countries like when shit went down in Kosovo.
These are regular men, not machine men. They fight for their job, their loyaltity to their country and to help to maintain peace.
Maybe you can argue that the US forces are in places where they do not need to be, but can you really blaim the soldiers?
A lot of people go in the military for education, for benefits and the money in the USA. The USA is a pretty bad place to live in, you can get fired for no reason, not anywhere as good social security as some EU countries. Shit healthcare, where for in example the UK its free. Families not being able to support themselves, a lone mother who's husband died of cancer in a slow way, putting the family in deep dept. People just getting fired and basically fucked over. People working their ass off for student loans.
I also know a single father, who worked for years, has a daughter and he got fired, currently while hes looking for a job hes getting 200 dollars to live on every 2 weeks, in total for him and his daughter. Guess what? Hes getting evicted as well.
If you want someone to blaim, blaim not the citizens who have to work for their entire life and go through so much shit while you have greedy politicians filling their pockets with the hard working citizen's money!
tl;dr Blaim the system.