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How not to feel lonely?

Aaron U Pictus

Aaron U Pictus

Aaron
I'm not too sure who to reach out to anymore for the things I am going through. So I decided to post it here.

For being so eager to love and easy to give emotion there really hasn't been many in my life willing to take it from me. And I guess it's starting to take its toll.

I have no family who understands the context of why I am feeling the way I do. I feel like sometimes I wish it would all end. So that from the moment I tried to dedicate myself to the people I thought I could love will vanish and all the pain and loneliness could dissappear with it.

I have few freinds, and they mean the absolute world to me now. The ones who understand what I am going through seem to say arbitrary things that don't really pry out the thorn that is aching so badly.

I feel defeated and useless now. Having gone through many deaths and loss in my life, somehow this lingering failure to love the ones who I truly wish to care for, is somehow so very much worse.

I do need support and love. As much as I whish to give it. But in that respect I am truly alone and I no longer know what to do to fix it.
 
Mikazuki Marazhu

Mikazuki Marazhu

I hate you all
First I would say: Dont kill yourself K?

I actually dont know how to properly help you and your situtation because I have never dealt with crippling depression.

I would say.. throw yourself out there (I'm not referring to the bridge) your're too focused on your current situation that you're ignoring the opportunities for happiness

My life is a little better chating with people in this forum. maybe you should try to go around and stuff if socializing in RL is too much for you
 
Aaron U Pictus

Aaron U Pictus

Aaron
Mikazuki Marazhu said:
First I would say: Dont kill yourself K?

I actually dont know how to properly help you and your situtation because I have never dealt with crippling depression.

I would say.. throw yourself out there (I'm not referring to the bridge) your're too focused on your current situation that you're ignoring the opportunities for happiness

My life is a little better chating with people in this forum. maybe you should try to go around and stuff if socializing in RL is too much for you
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I think it's essentially why I came to this forum.

I don't have the capacity to kill myself even though sometimes I'm emotionally in complete distress haha.
I appreciate your response, even if it doesn't help it's very kind of you.

I never was one for depression and thought it'd never be a problem till I lost the opportunity of love with someone who means so much.

You're probably right, I need to find more friends even if it's only online. I'm one for irl connections but I guess it can't be helped ^-^
 
Telnac

Telnac

Fundamentalist Heretic
I feel your pain. Loneliness sux. How I handle it is keeping myself so busy with work & hobbies that I don’t have time to think about it. It’s probably not a healthy way of dealing with the problem, but it’s worked for me so far. :confused:
 
Mikazuki Marazhu

Mikazuki Marazhu

I hate you all
Online friendship can be as good as RL friend if you put your heart into it. Be picky with friends online, we don't want you to waste so much time and energy on people who doesn't share common ground.

dont be scared to let go of people you dont understand or vice versa

online friends are very efficient and resource efficient, maximize it XD
 
dogryme6

dogryme6

Duality Fluff Dragon
Mikazuki Marazhu said:
FAF > FA anytime

FA (from where I stand) is full of horny braindead zombies
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Nevermind. It's a wasteland... Full of horny brain-dead zombies! And all they want to do is draw porn of Nick and Judy from Zootopia! Except that's not even half the stuff they do with them cuz they got bored long ago and started drawing them doing their favorite kinks, no matter how bizarre or unfitting... *shudder*
 
Aaron U Pictus

Aaron U Pictus

Aaron
Telnac said:
I feel your pain. Loneliness sux. How I handle it is keeping myself so busy with work & hobbies that I don’t have time to think about it. It’s probably not a healthy way of dealing with the problem, but it’s worked for me so far. :confused:
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That is something I have been trying to do. But there is only so much a guy like me can put in to my life in order to bolster out bad emotions.
Thanks though Telnac. Its something I try every day. ^-^
 
Aaron U Pictus

Aaron U Pictus

Aaron
Mikazuki Marazhu said:
Online friendship can be as good as RL friend if you put your heart into it. Be picky with friends online, we don't want you to waste so much time and energy on people who doesn't share common ground.

dont be scared to let go of people you dont understand or vice versa

online friends are very efficient and resource efficient, maximize it XD
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I do like that idea.
Maybe it's something I will pursue. Thanks ^-^
 
Aaron U Pictus

Aaron U Pictus

Aaron
BahgDaddy said:
I find just talking about stuff is good. Just being there for people and talking about stuff can go a long way.
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I try and do that every day hey.
Where I am from unfortunately there aren't many who can help gay guys who feel lonely haha. Its sad but true.
 
Pipistrele

Pipistrele

Smart batto!
Go outside, do the whole socialization thingie
 
Gee_Anson

Gee_Anson

Member
Aaron U Pictus said:
I'm not too sure who to reach out to anymore for the things I am going through. So I decided to post it here.

For being so eager to love and easy to give emotion there really hasn't been many in my life willing to take it from me. And I guess it's starting to take its toll.

I have no family who understands the context of why I am feeling the way I do. I feel like sometimes I wish it would all end. So that from the moment I tried to dedicate myself to the people I thought I could love will vanish and all the pain and loneliness could dissappear with it.

I have few freinds, and they mean the absolute world to me now. The ones who understand what I am going through seem to say arbitrary things that don't really pry out the thorn that is aching so badly.

I feel defeated and useless now. Having gone through many deaths and loss in my life, somehow this lingering failure to love the ones who I truly wish to care for, is somehow so very much worse.

I do need support and love. As much as I whish to give it. But in that respect I am truly alone and I no longer know what to do to fix it.
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When I get my rut a few weeks ago, I started going to the gym, joined this forum and I play games that kinda have some sort of social aspect. (Skyrim, Harvest Moon/Started Valley)
Do you have steam? I'd be down to play games whenever we happen to have the time ^-^
 
Aaron U Pictus

Aaron U Pictus

Aaron
Gee_Anson said:
When I get my rut a few weeks ago, I started going to the gym, joined this forum and I play games that kinda have some sort of social aspect. (Skyrim, Harvest Moon/Started Valley)
Do you have steam? I'd be down to play games whenever we happen to have the time ^-^
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Heya ^-^
I think maybe getting back into the gym is a good idea Gee_Anson.
As for games, I really like that idea. Perhaps hanging out with new furs will help. That's very kind of you!
I'm down for that.
 
Yakamaru

Yakamaru

Yee to the haw
Make a Discord account and join a couple of servers.

Friends and potentially a lover comes with time and lots of interaction.
 
Zerohi

Zerohi

Master of Atherea
Gaming is how I got over the loss of my grandmother, who was basically my mother when I was growing up, just watch what you play, I know first hand the ZA online gaming community is alot worse than any drama you will find here

I hope you find what your looking for, depression is no joke, Good luck
 
Aaron U Pictus

Aaron U Pictus

Aaron
Yakamaru said:
Make a Discord account and join a couple of servers.

Friends and potentially a lover comes with time and lots of interaction.
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That's one thing I should brave doing hey.
Discord I have but I'm not all that familiar with it. Its a good idea.
Especially the fact that one can talk. I perfect a more tangible interaction with people.
 
Ovidia Dragoness

Ovidia Dragoness

Udder Derg
Banned
Depression sucks, but friends can help A TON. I would also recommend seeing a doc for it. It probably seems like nothing will work but the right anti-depressant can help a lot as well. I can be your friend if you need one. I deal with depression big time so I might be able to empathize with you. Send me your discord if you're interested. ^_^
 
Aaron U Pictus

Aaron U Pictus

Aaron
Ovi the Dragon said:
Depression sucks, but friends can help A TON. I would also recommend seeing a doc for it. It probably seems like nothing will work but the right anti-depressant can help a lot as well. I can be your friend if you need one. I deal with depression big time so I might be able to empathize with you. Send me your discord if you're interested. ^_^
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Hey Ovi
That's very kind of you!
I did see a shrink, but I am afraid it cost a whole lot of money and in the end he just got frustrated with me.
Mainly because the context of "lonely" is never understood by people when I tell them how I feel, and I don't really manage to articulate very well about it.
 
S

Scales42

Guest
Looking for a social hobby is always a good idea, perhaps signing up for a course about a topic that you enjoy. being here on the forum also helps a lot I suppose! ;)
 
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