How not to feel lonely?

[Aaron U Pictus]

Looking for a social hobby is always a good idea, perhaps signing up for a course about a topic that you enjoy. being here on the forum also helps a lot I suppose!

Yeah so far all of you that have responded have been so helpful. Especially after a very bad start to the week. So it's very much appreciated.

 

[TheFoxFreedom]

I'm not too sure who to reach out to anymore for the things I am going through. So I decided to post it here.

For being so eager to love and easy to give emotion there really hasn't been many in my life willing to take it from me. And I guess it's starting to take its toll.

I have no family who understands the context of why I am feeling the way I do. I feel like sometimes I wish it would all end. So that from the moment I tried to dedicate myself to the people I thought I could love will vanish and all the pain and loneliness could dissappear with it.

I have few freinds, and they mean the absolute world to me now. The ones who understand what I am going through seem to say arbitrary things that don't really pry out the thorn that is aching so badly.

I feel defeated and useless now. Having gone through many deaths and loss in my life, somehow this lingering failure to love the ones who I truly wish to care for, is somehow so very much worse.

I do need support and love. As much as I whish to give it. But in that respect I am truly alone and I no longer know what to do to fix it.

Okay. Just to say: my english sucks ( english schools in brazil are a joke :v ), so, ill try to help with what i understood.

First of all, i already felt like that. I tryed suicide, and listen carefouly: its not worthy, it hurts and now i have some shit in my arm; and life is beautiful, be patient my boy, bad moments come, bad moments go, and things that doesnt kill you makes you stronger. So, beside you feel "useless and defeated" welp, try finding some hobby, and study, beive me, good grades makes you feel useful. Defeated? The game of life only ends when the game is over. Its a matter of time my boy. Try drawing what you feel, listen to music, you know? The happy is im minor things

I hope i helped you! And if you did read it to here, congrats! ( because i wouldnt have patience xD )

 

[Aaron U Pictus]

Okay. Just to say: my english sucks ( english schools in brazil are a joke :v ), so, ill try to help with what i understood.

First of all, i already felt like that. I tryed suicide, and listen carefouly: its not worthy, it hurts and now i have some shit in my arm; and life is beautiful, be patient my boy, bad moments come, bad moments go, and things that doesnt kill you makes you stronger. So, beside you feel "useless and defeated" welp, try finding some hobby, and study, beive me, good grades makes you feel useful. Defeated? The game of life only ends when the game is over. Its a matter of time my boy. Try drawing what you feel, listen to music, you know? The happy is im minor things

I hope i helped you! And if you did read it to here, congrats! ( because i wouldnt have patience xD )

Thank you very much!
It is hard to live by this, and to not feel defeated is so hard to work over.
I will try and do that, it is comforting for you to say that to me. I really appreciate it.

 

[Sarachaga]

Hey .
I have moments when I feel the same. I think it's important to keep yourself busy during these moments and not stay idle.

 

[backpawscratcher]

Exercise several times a week. It helps so much. Just little achievements make the world of difference, and the whole endorphin thing can help balance out whatever's going on in your head.

The hard part is getting past those first few weeks and making it a habit. After that it's all benefit.

 

[TheFoxFreedom]

Thank you very much!
It is hard to live by this, and to not feel defeated is so hard to work over.
I will try and do that, it is comforting for you to say that to me. I really appreciate it.

I really appreciate that i helped you. Like, sharing experience to help is satisfying. If u want to unburden with me it will be a pleasure to help! Feel free to help to add me in discord to talk if u want to talk

 

[Paww27]

Loneliness sucks! I have mild depression as well but I take meds for that and it really helps me get out of my funks. =)

I also play video games and go to the gym as my escapes to get some me time in.

Perhaps join one of the discord servers mentioned, there's lots of people to talk to!

 

[Aaron U Pictus]

You all have been greater help than most of my freinds and family hey.

Thanks a lot.

I'm definitely not getting better but I do feel more comfortable. If I could I'd give you all a big hug haha.

Thanks very much you furs ^-^

 

[TheFoxFreedom]

You all have been greater help than most of my freinds and family hey.

Thanks a lot.

I'm definitely not getting better but I do feel more comfortable. If I could I'd give you all a big hug haha.

Thanks very much you furs ^-^

Here! Lemme hug you *gives a good hug*

 

[Deleted member 115426]

*group hug*

 

[Moar Krabs]

Lock people in a basement and throw tomatoes at them.

 

[Aaron U Pictus]

Haha *hugs tightly back*
Thank youuu ~
That's very sweet of you!

 

[ditta_ragdoll]

I'm not too sure who to reach out to anymore for the things I am going through. So I decided to post it here.

For being so eager to love and easy to give emotion there really hasn't been many in my life willing to take it from me. And I guess it's starting to take its toll.

I have no family who understands the context of why I am feeling the way I do. I feel like sometimes I wish it would all end. So that from the moment I tried to dedicate myself to the people I thought I could love will vanish and all the pain and loneliness could dissappear with it.

I have few freinds, and they mean the absolute world to me now. The ones who understand what I am going through seem to say arbitrary things that don't really pry out the thorn that is aching so badly.

I feel defeated and useless now. Having gone through many deaths and loss in my life, somehow this lingering failure to love the ones who I truly wish to care for, is somehow so very much worse.

I do need support and love. As much as I whish to give it. But in that respect I am truly alone and I no longer know what to do to fix it.

We all seem to wind up in that hole.

So you know, I have a not so fun fun fact to bring to your attention that may explain it.

Most friendships are a matter of convenience. Being stuck together in school, at work, surrounding a hobby is what begins them. Those kinds of relationships tend to last around five years. Most relationships that last longer than those will last nearly a lifetime. That doesn't mean you need to hold onto anyone toxic of course, but just know, sometimes people change. You do too most importantly. You grow up too! That may mean you grow out of people, but that means you're about to get friends who are a little more grown up too!
Rude intrusive thoughts aren't that uncommon. Most millennials have crossed paths with depression, and live with it. I'm right there with you. I deal with it by naming my intrusive thoughts, and telling them to fuck off. Becky plz. I'm not jumping off the bridge.
While you're still raw and feeling the changes in your social circles, and in yourself, it's gonna be there. Get out into a help forum, talk to people. There are so many people out there who feel the same things and can commiserate. Having someone understand can help more than you can imagine sometimes.

Your family will be willing to help I'm sure too.
Just remember. All hugs can help you feel better. It takes six seconds of hug for a noticeable amount of difference.

 

[Aaron U Pictus]

We all seem to wind up in that hole.

So you know, I have a not so fun fun fact to bring to your attention that may explain it.

Most friendships are a matter of convenience. Being stuck together in school, at work, surrounding a hobby is what begins them. Those kinds of relationships tend to last around five years. Most relationships that last longer than those will last nearly a lifetime. That doesn't mean you need to hold onto anyone toxic of course, but just know, sometimes people change. You do too most importantly. You grow up too! That may mean you grow out of people, but that means you're about to get friends who are a little more grown up too!
Rude intrusive thoughts aren't that uncommon. Most millennials have crossed paths with depression, and live with it. I'm right there with you. I deal with it by naming my intrusive thoughts, and telling them to fuck off. Becky plz. I'm not jumping off the bridge.
While you're still raw and feeling the changes in your social circles, and in yourself, it's gonna be there. Get out into a help forum, talk to people. There are so many people out there who feel the same things and can commiserate. Having someone understand can help more than you can imagine sometimes.

Your family will be willing to help I'm sure too.
Just remember. All hugs can help you feel better. It takes six seconds of hug for a noticeable amount of difference.

Hey hey.
Thanks very much for your words.
It helps to hear it from even a stranger. I find myself not having many in terms of freinds and family that I can fall back on.
Which is why I am here getting involved and looking for others to connect with.

It's heartening to have a response to a lonely heart that has the tendency to physically hurt.

 

[ditta_ragdoll]

Hey hey.
Thanks very much for your words.
It helps to hear it from even a stranger. I find myself not having many in terms of freinds and family that I can fall back on.
Which is why I am here getting involved and looking for others to connect with.

It's heartening to have a response to a lonely heart that has the tendency to physically hurt.

As godawful as it is to admit it, humans are social creatures. We need each other. We're pack animals, and we die without each other. Skin hunger is a very real thing. Sometimes a hug is literally all you need, especially when it gets to the point you feel the pain at the bottom of your heart. It's when we deprive ourselves of contact we feel this the most.

It comes around though. Just get out there. NGL, I met my husband on a furry forum, and we're about to celebrate our 3rd wedding anniversary.
There's someone out there who can help make it a lot better.

 

[Open_Mind]

A silly story someone told me once:

Life is a ride in a car with no brakes. You can never stop, but you have some control of the wheel and acceleration. The rear view mirror works perfectly, but the windshield is badly cracked and the headlights suck. Make sure you aren't carrying too much baggage or it will be hard to pick up anyone along the way to share the journey. Most people pack way, way more than they need ... it's okay to lower your window and toss some of it out. Sometimes the wheels slip and you might miss a turn... thats ok. The road goes on. There is no reverse gear, so enjoy the view of everything that you pass -- you will only see it once. When it's dark and stormy, go slow. When the sun is shining, lean your head out and breathe deeply. You'll see amazing things along the way.
... and enjoy the ride! ♡

 

[Yakamaru]

Well, can always superglue a "friend" tag on someone's face and follow them around until they don't give a shit about your existence anymore.

Or you can do it like this:

 

[Aaron U Pictus]

A silly story someone told me once:

Life is a ride in a car with no brakes. You can never stop, but you have some control of the wheel and acceleration. The rear view mirror works perfectly, but the windshield is badly cracked and the headlights suck. Make sure you aren't carrying too much baggage or it will be hard to pick up anyone along the way to share the journey. Most people pack way, way more than they need ... it's okay to lower your window and toss some of it out. Sometimes the wheels slip and you might miss a turn... thats ok. The road goes on. There is no reverse gear, so enjoy the view of everything that you pass -- you will only see it once. When it's dark and stormy, go slow. When the sun is shining, lean your head out and breathe deeply. You'll see amazing things along the way.
... and enjoy the ride! ♡

I love this!

 

[backpawscratcher]

A silly story someone told me once:

Life is a ride in a car with no brakes. You can never stop, but you have some control of the wheel and acceleration. The rear view mirror works perfectly, but the windshield is badly cracked and the headlights suck. Make sure you aren't carrying too much baggage or it will be hard to pick up anyone along the way to share the journey. Most people pack way, way more than they need ... it's okay to lower your window and toss some of it out. Sometimes the wheels slip and you might miss a turn... thats ok. The road goes on. There is no reverse gear, so enjoy the view of everything that you pass -- you will only see it once. When it's dark and stormy, go slow. When the sun is shining, lean your head out and breathe deeply. You'll see amazing things along the way.
... and enjoy the ride! ♡

I also love this!

 

[CertifiedCervine]

Any more necros we could call this a graveyard :v