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How Open Are You Being A Furry (New Fur Help)

TyraWadman

The Brutally Honest Man-Child
How would you express your furry side? Through art?

I feel that one would be an easy way of expressing yourself without being noticed. Animal portraits is probably higher up than human ones nowadays. XD
 

Snowcloud33

Well-Known Member
I try to hint at being a furry with my past relationships but non of them seemed keen on the idea of me or us doing anything close to furry related. So I try to open up to my partners in case they might be ok with it. But all of them don’t like furry things so i keep it to myself. Except I have a reindeer themed outfit with straps and brass bells and I own antlers and I think my one partner didn’t think of it as furry since it wasn’t a fur suit more like accessories. That’s as close as I can get, but I would like to just tell my partners what I like to do and have them just be ok with it or maybe join in if I’m lucky.

but ya, if you ‘jokingly’ mention a fursuit or bad dragon and their reaction is bad then im like ‘LoL jk’
 

Pogo

I pounce i bounce.
made plenty of online friends. i show my art to my peers irl.
i have two confidants i shared my profile with and i suspect one shared that knowlege with our mutual peers.

no ones been hassling me so im kinda happy about things.
 

reptile logic

An imposter among aliens.
Even inside the fandom, being 'furry' means something different to each person. For some, it's an appreciation for art and subject matter that is not human-centered. Others enjoy the occasional escape from their daily lives through role-play or by wearing a suit that shows the world another part of themselves. Yet others might believe that their 'furry' form is their true form; that their human body is some sort of mistake.

I don't think that I have ever started a conversation with a furry related subject. Not once have I worn any suit, clothing, tail or other item to identify myself as one. It's not my style. I also don't use bumper stickers and, unless it's a gift, refuse to wear advertising on my clothing.

That said, my family and closest friends know this about me. I have gone as far as to tell them that though I am content within this body, I would much rather be a dragon.

This all happened over time; one person at a time. These people got to know me as a person first, before some stereotypical label could cast a shadow on their opinion of me. For them, it's just an additional eccentricity to add to the list.

Honestly, worrying about people viewing me as 'furry' seems trivial to me. Maybe that's because I survived being labeled "homosexual/faggot/queer. . ." at a time and place where people were publicly frowned on, harassed, arrested, beaten, and/or killed for living this life.

This is one of those cases where the fear of exposure might be more stressful in the long run than than any repercussions from just being yourself. If one is part of a strongly conservative family or community, it would be wise to approach the subject more carefully.
 

Nexus Cabler

Draconic technophile
I am glad people are feeling more comfortable expressing their furry side here and there, considering how the fandom and has often been treated unfairly in the past, and still is sometimes.
 

Chomby

Fart in the Wind
Most of the people who know are boomers that don't know what a furry is, except for my mom, who knows everything but she's very open-minded since she's pretty much a hippy. Some of my other family members know too but they're chill with it I guess.

I haven't had any problems.
 

DieselPowered

Well-Known Member
In person i'm not open about it at all, it would seem strange to casually let friends and family know i'm perverted and it's not really part of my day to day expression.

Still, do whatever you're comfortable with. Just don't be surprised to find people in the street backing away if you greet them with OwOs. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
 

Jaredthefox92

Banned
Banned
If you replace Sonic fan with furry, then probably I could be more enlightening. I have been a Sonic fan since 2010 and my brother hated it, (not because of anthro, but because he's a Mario/Zelda fan), I've put some of my pictures I've made on my wall, and even then he would remark about them, (note: He's sort of the opinionated sort), he hasn't really done anything about my Sonic fandom stuff. Everyone else in my family doesn't care and literally nobody has said anything elsewise. Then again, I mostly keep my Sonic Oc's to myself outside of the internet.
 

Frank Gulotta

Send us your floppy
Internet open. I'm externally normie and willing to remain that way.
 

The_biscuits_532

Eternally Confused Feline
Not at all. I am very, very paranoid about being outed.

Which is a shame really, for a handful of reasons:

- I'm like 99% sure one of my other friends is a furry. Hell, she's the only person I've shown my art to

- My entire friend circle is pretty accepting

- Hell, last time we got together one of them assigned me, her and three others spirit animals and you bet I pushed for the Eurasian Lynx

- They're all interested in art to a degree. One (same as previous point) showed me her drawing of her cat recently.

- One of them apparently keeps getting compared to Legosi by other friends they have

- They're already aware that I'm into Beastars

I think a big part of it is the NSFW side, which whilst I don't create for I don't have any issue in viewing. And I really don't want to have to explain that
 

Hound-of-chulainn

Well-Known Member
Most of my IRL friends are pretty vocally against anything even the mention of something furry related, so I don't bring any of my other art stuff up with them. I've had some online friends that encouraged me to come here and post art and I've made some cool friends here because of it though. :D
 

LameFox

Well-Known Member
I'm 'open' about it in that if people ask I will tell them, but as I'm not into the publically visible stuff like suits, nobody ever asks.
 

dulce

Member
I don’t really know how open I want to be about being a furry but I already have like a furry pfp on my social media. I used to avoid even being associated with the fandom but now I’m like who cares, it’s my interest and I like it!
 

Eremurus

seeker of knowledge
Internet open. Don't talk about it IRL.
 
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O.D.D.

Guest
I don't bother bringing it up, generally, as it's not relevant to most discussions. It's not central to my identity and I don't have a deep personal investment in the fandom.
 

Jackpot Raccuki

Mind your manors
I don't really bring it up and unless you're purposely invading my privacy or even personal space, you won't find out.
In otherwords, unless I've either met you online and we met in person, or you're an asshole with no regards to people's space and privacy, you won't know.

And even though I have my sister on discord, she did go out of her way to stalk me on steam years prior, which says a lot about her.
I don't really care otherwise, and if they get upset thinking furries are "zoophiles" then they can cry about it, I know what I am and that ain't me.
 

Bluefiremark II

Magic Blue Phoenix
My point of view.

It's not important. You don't need to tell people you are a furry, you don't go out telling people you're a coin collector. If someone asks you can reply, just go with the flow.

I haven't told people, but my brother knows, some friends know. I have anthro characters, they don't mind. I just don't tell people, but i don't mind if they find out, and id they don't understand I'll explain.
 

Foxridley

A fox named Ridley
My immediate family and a few close friends know I'm a furry. They're all pretty open-minded and one has dabbled in furry stuff.
 

Funfetti

All meaning is lost, but this confusion remains
I dont really talk about it unless someone I trust asks me
 

Ratt Carry

Well-Known Member
I suppress it mainly out of understanding the deserved negative stigma. But also because being overtly open and obtuse about nerd hobbies tends to reasonably vex the shit out of people. Unless youre making bank off artwork or something, nobody cares. If someone is curious or they find my dumb art and *asks*, fine. But that happens like once a year and I keep the topic sparse. Guilty pleasures, if you will.

An aside note, "coming out" as a furry is stupid and people should...stop.
 
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O.D.D.

Guest
I suppress it mainly out of understanding the deserved negative stigma. But also because being overtly open and obtuse about nerd hobbies tends to reasonably vex the shit out of people. Unless youre making bank off artwork or something, nobody cares. If someone is curious or they find my dumb art and *asks*, fine. But that happens like once a year and I keep the topic sparse. Guilty pleasures, if you will.

An aside note, "coming out" as a furry is stupid and people should...stop.
Furry fandom is an interest group/hobby, not an immutable characteristic that someone may have felt compelled to conceal, and "coming out as a furry" is both tone-deaf and kind of beside the point of the concept.
 

Hawkie

Avis Accipiter
A lot of insightful thoughts in this thread, I love it! Personally for me I am extremely private about this subject with anyone, including friends and family. Somehow the only person to ever deduce I was a furry (feathers mind you) was a furry themselves! However, knowing me for 5 seconds IRL I can understand why suspicions may arise. Only share what you feel comfortable with sharing!
 
This is a really interesting topic and one that really needs to be discussed more.

I personally have always been very open about being a furry in my five or so years in the fandom and most people including my family have actually been pretty supportive and are more then curious about what that entails. I had one not so nice kid in high school say "have fun j***ing off to animals" which upset me, and my cabinmates at summer camp where very uncomfortable with the topic saying "I realize you may be talking about the good kind but even so it's very uncomfortable for me" (or something like that.) but I always told myself "that's their problem that they can't see what being a furry really entails." and for a long time I thought everyone wasn't really concerned or protective about that side of their life.

But then this happened: https://forums.furaffinity.net/threads/human-names-in-the-fandom-a-hobby-or-a-lifestyle.1675425/ and I realized that for some being a furry is more then just a hobby. And this is why "Coming out" as a furry is a thing, when it really shouldn't be. In a perfect world (to me anyway) everyone would treat the fandom as a hobby and not a lifestyle and realize that if people want to associate it with the NSFW side then that's really their problem. Reading this reply (They also replied to my thread) really says to me how much of a disadvantage it is to keep that part of your life separate from your regular life:
Not at all. I am very, very paranoid about being outed.

Which is a shame really, for a handful of reasons:

- I'm like 99% sure one of my other friends is a furry. Hell, she's the only person I've shown my art to

- My entire friend circle is pretty accepting

- Hell, last time we got together one of them assigned me, her and three others spirit animals and you bet I pushed for the Eurasian Lynx

- They're all interested in art to a degree. One (same as previous point) showed me her drawing of her cat recently.

- One of them apparently keeps getting compared to Legosi by other friends they have

- They're already aware that I'm into Beastars

I think a big part of it is the NSFW side, which whilst I don't create for I don't have any issue in viewing. And I really don't want to have to explain that

I've been doing some deep contemplation over weather or not I should make this part of my life sepparte from my regular life given that there are quite a few people who do. But part of me thinks that would do more harm then good. Being a furry has sort of become a part of my identity and if I suppress that from the rest of the world it's kind of like suprressing a part of myself...
 
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