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How or why did you join the forum?

Since i made myself an account a few days ago, i have spent a few hours reading and sometime answering to threads, and seeing some members talking about the way they feel or felt, their past and current situation and the fandom in general made me ask myself the following question:

How or why did you create an account in here and start using the forum? Like did you know it existed since a while and decided one day to join it for a specific reason, as an example? And do you feel like this new "flow of interaction/informations" did change you or the way you interact with others in any way? Or maybe the way you see yourself?

I must say that i'm curious about that because a lots of the things i did read in here made me look back at the past myself and think about my current situation from different perspectives. Some peoples in here seems to have been trough situations pretty similar to a few i went trough, and i found it very interesting to see the way they did see things and how things eventually went for them.



In my case, i did make my account after a few months of adventure and exploration in a way. I must admit that i have been socially inactive both IRL and on the internet for a very long while, we are talking about a 6 years long time in fact. And around 2 months ago, i don't know why but i decided to try to "connect myself back" with peoples, at least on the internet. To be truly honest, i was totally lost over the way i was going to achieve that and i had absolutely no idea over where should i go.

So since i knew that the fandom did exist and that i was kind of interested into it since a while, i basically checked the furry discord public servers and joined a few, to see what come out of it. Well, i will be honest, i felt out of place in those servers, even if i did stick to text channels because i was (and i'm still) not confident enough to actually start talking with random peoples, there was usually so many peoples typing at the same time that, for me at least, it started to look like a wall of random words, thoughts and emotes. I can't say it was a pleasant experience for me to be honest, i spent most of my time checking on google to try to understand the meaning of what i was reading or scrolling up to try to understand what they were talking about, and i could pretty much never find an opportunity to join the conversation.

After realising that public discord servers were maybe not the best spot for me to try to socialise, i decided to try to find a place that is a bit more calm, to see if the issue came from the fact that there was litterally thousands of peoples there. And that's pretty much how i made my account in here. Now, did those few days i spent in here affect me already? I guess you could say yes, it did. Both because i was amazed by some nice, light hearted or creative peoples and the thoughts they shared, and because i could read peoples typing about their past and thought to myself "that's exactly what i felt and what i could have said years ago", and honestly, seeing that most of those peoples seems to have improved their situation or managed to understand it and adapt themselves made me feel better. And i'm thankfull for this because i think it is why i actually dared to start this thread right now, which is something i don't think i would have done in other times.



Now, i would be curious to know how did some of you decide to join the forum, and what kind of experience you did get out of it.
 

The_biscuits_532

Eternally Confused Feline
I've been in the fandom for like, 5 years but I wanted to actually start engaging, now that I had a sona, which I was encouraged by a friend to refine from some sketches I'd showed them. Reddit was fine, but /r/furry is literally just art and barely any conversation, and /r/furry_irl isn't the best for getting to know people. So here I am.
 

TyraWadman

The Silent Observer
Lack of social life, online and IRL. I'd tried looking up discord groups of all kinds, but it was always the same: twenty users or so, all gaming, never talking to anyone except those they were already friends with. Was tired of trading my sanity for a smidgen of interaction with a toxic bunch.

Since things have gotten 100 times better on FAF in the past few years, I decided to try my luck again and here I am. 8) Still searching, but I can have a little fun while doing so.
 

MadKiyo

Imma bat in yer rafters
I was on different forums prior to joining this one, but since I became a furry sometime I think February of 2014, which would be 7 years ago now, I slowly began to realize that I wasn't going to be connecting with many people of a similar interest since back then furries were still hard to find compared to now. DA my first experience since I heard a lot of furries were on there and I needed a place to put my growing interest in art, but I branched out to this forum in 2016 because I wanted a place to talk directly to people. I initially wanted to join the main site but didn't do that for another several months because the forums were more familiar to me. I can't exactly remember how I discovered this place, I must have heard it from someone else, perhaps a pal of mine from dA.
 

Tacoshark

Defender of the Sacred Nuggs
I have been a long-time lurker in the fandom, going back nearly 15 years. I have struggled to put myself out there and as all my friends from high school and college have drifted away I have become increasingly lonely. I made the decision to finally become active within the fandom, make a few friends, and give a little back to a community that helped me imagine and feel good about myself during a difficult point in my life.

So......here I am
 

TemetNosce88

Technology won't save you
Similar to others. I started wanting to be active in the fandom starting about a year ago and didn't really think of joining the forums until sometime this summer, when they were offline. I created my account right after they came back online in October, which was useful timing since I was laid up with Covid. I'm still trying to find my groove and find a good group of people to interact with, but my experiences here have been mostly positive. Similar to Tyra, I've tried Discord groups and have found them to be either completely dead or so frenetic that I can't keep up (in one of them, I stepped away for 10 mins and missed 200+ messages in the chat channel. Yeah. No thanks).
 

Telnac

Fundamentalist Heretic
I joined because I didn't know anyone in the furry fandom and I wanted to get to know ppl. This was one of many places I tried. I stayed because I like the forum. It's active enough to interesting but not so much that I feel totally lost here.
 

Regret

Member
I have known about these forums for a very, very, long time and decided to participate. I'm used to forums and they are kind of nostalgic for me as they are more personal than reddit an other websites, while still maintaining as much anonymity that one could want. I deleted all my other accounts on other websites and just kinda stayed off the social portions of the internet for five or so years for many reasons but that got old, especially with covid, so here I am. In that regard we are very similar OP.

Ultimately I created this account to be more social and meet new and interesting characters. Furthermore, I have been around or adjacent to the fandom for the longest time and would like to try to become more consistently active.
 

Punji

Vaskebjørn
The main site was down so I came here to the forums to find out why, and sort of just stuck around.

I'm used to forums prior to joining here so it wasn't a daunting thing, and the topics were fun. At the time I didn't really even know any other furries so it seemed like an alright idea to stick around. Happy I did!
 

ben909

vaporeon with Axolotl gill array as neck fin
I kind of came here because i rage quit da after they forced a broken site on everyone
 

Kinare

RAWR
Had anthro cat character I was showing off, friend told me about furries, I looked into them, and naturally FA was one of the first things that came up. The other places looked far less active at the time, so tried here first.
 

Luteus

Carrot muncher
Well, I have been using social media since I started involving myself in the community, actually going out and meeting people and suiting and stuff. But although I like twitter, instagram and stuff like that, I kinda missed forum trype discussions. So, I'm gonna try to get back into it (although im a bit lazy reading too much, Ill try my best)
 
Had a forum itch that needed scratching since I stopped using another forum I was heavily invested in for over 5 years.
 

Nexus Cabler

Abstract Concepts Coordinator
I joined because I was looking for a place to socialize and make friends. It was before I used platforms like Discord and Telegram, so it was my main way of communicating with other furries online, well, my only way really. I've been here for probably several years at this point. I'm not sure why I'm invested so much in such a small forum, but I guess I've grown very attached to many people here.
 

FaroraSF

Active Member
I wanted to engage with the community. I'm a very introverted person, I'm trying to interact online more in general to get over social anxiety. I find that once I get started I can be very chatty.
 

Chomby

I'll poke your butt.
I had already been in the fandom for at least a year when I joined this forum. I like using Discord, but found it difficult to start or maintain longer term discussions with people. Nobody really wanted to talk about the fandom in general or really talked about their experience with it in depth. I thought back to the time I talked on another forum when I was a teen and questioning my identity. I liked the social structure of that, and remembered this forum, since when I typed in questions/topics relating to the fandom, FA forum threads would be the first things in my search results.

I'm glad I joined! It's more of calm environment here, well, discord servers can be calm too depending on the member count, but yeah. I can really think about what I want to say before responding to threads/people without the worry of the topic just ending before I do. Everyone has some level of sincerity that is lacking on sites/apps with instant messaging.

I was really missing this place when it was down. I don't post as much as some people here, but I'm definitely lurking... every day. o3o
 

Einuko

Hunter of Monsters
I've been quietly watching the fandom since 2013, but never really engaged with it aside from viewing the artwork. I didn't know how to engage in a social manner that would, at least to me at the time, seem acceptable (I have ADHD, and was one of those hyperactive, happy-go-lucky individuals right up to my late twenties). At the time, I created FA and Forum accounts, but was way too anxious to engage in any social interaction with others, so I left.

Roughly around the same time, I started exploring Second Life (ironically, on Valentine's Day, no less!). I was drawn to the furry fandom from a combination of acquaintances met in-game, and past experiences where I found myself enjoying the prospect of having animal characters doing fantastical things (Star Fox and The Elder Scrolls were major influences as well). The group I fell in with at the time consisted of three close friends (one of them was associated with the furry fandom), and honestly, I felt like a lost child constantly tagging along and interrupting their enjoyment of the game. Three months into this, and two of them left the game cold-turkey, leaving the aforementioned furry not really wanting to bother with me at all. I felt crushed, and didn't know what to do.

Luckily, I was also an acquaintance of a user who (if I recall correctly) had created the 'Crux' species (can't remember their name). This user would typically hang out in a neutral space, newcomer-themed sim with others who were pretty laid back and caring for others. That space really helped me grow as an individual, and ponder about the fandom in general: "Was this a place where I could belong?" along with other similar questions were forming in my mind. I even remember engaging in my first RP session on a Zelda-themed sim, and owning a virtual apartment there, which felt liberating for the time.

Eventually, I grew bored of Second Life about 6 months into it, and left- ultimately returning to the quiet watching on my FA account. I still pondered about having a fursona, however and didn't know what to do become more involved. I was afraid of being called out if I told anyone.

Now, cut to last year, amidst the beginning of the pandemic (around May). The first lockdown in my area had started a few months back, and I found myself seriously considering making a fursona (which I did: check the "Show Me Pics of Your Fursona!" thread). Things started to slowly snowball at that point, and I eventually came back to the forum, almost forgetting I had an account here that's been sitting for years.

In short, I came here to be more socially engaged, but without too much stimulus at once. I hope this wasn't too much of a response- at times I can go quite in-depth with my answers.
 
Similar to others. I started wanting to be active in the fandom starting about a year ago and didn't really think of joining the forums until sometime this summer, when they were offline. I created my account right after they came back online in October, which was useful timing since I was laid up with Covid. I'm still trying to find my groove and find a good group of people to interact with, but my experiences here have been mostly positive. Similar to Tyra, I've tried Discord groups and have found them to be either completely dead or so frenetic that I can't keep up (in one of them, I stepped away for 10 mins and missed 200+ messages in the chat channel. Yeah. No thanks).
Yes that's exactly what i meant when i talked about the amount of peoples typing at the same time, even thought i must say that those kinds of peaks only seemed to appear when it was the afternoon in the US, which in my place mean in the evening. And even when the chat was a bit more "calm" during those times, it was still difficult to read everything and keep up with the conversation.

Another issue i encountered was that, even though it may just be me that was unlucky, i seemed to always have joined a server right at the same time as a troll was getting banned, and i usually did not have to wait a lot before it happened again. During a quieter time, i asked to one of the mods if it happened often in one of those server, he simply answered me that yes, it did, but it did not take them a lot of time to ban them so it's alright.
I wanted to engage with the community. I'm a very introverted person, I'm trying to interact online more in general to get over social anxiety. I find that once I get started I can be very chatty.
You don't know how much i can relate to this, i think that trying to get rid of that social anxiety is one of the reasons why i pushed myself to get back into the internet and to go toward peoples. And i actually noticed in the process that i either stay completely silent or talk too much, i guess i need a warm-up time to get used to the peoples around me. And a conversation around a subject i like often end up in an instant warm-up.
I had already been in the fandom for at least a year when I joined this forum. I like using Discord, but found it difficult to start or maintain longer term discussions with people. Nobody really wanted to talk about the fandom in general or really talked about their experience with it in depth. I thought back to the time I talked on another forum when I was a teen and questioning my identity. I liked the social structure of that, and remembered this forum, since when I typed in questions/topics relating to the fandom, FA forum threads would be the first things in my search results.

I'm glad I joined! It's more of calm environment here, well, discord servers can be calm too depending on the member count, but yeah. I can really think about what I want to say before responding to threads/people without the worry of the topic just ending before I do. Everyone has some level of sincerity that is lacking on sites/apps with instant messaging.

I was really missing this place when it was down. I don't post as much as some people here, but I'm definitely lurking... every day. o3o
I had the exact same issue, when i wanted to try to take part in a conversation on discord, either i had to speed up the process to answer and usually ended up having to modify my answer, or i had to opt out of the conversation because my answer would not be relevant anymore.

And yes, i was actually nicely surprised when i lurked in this forum a bit before making my account, peoples in here seemed to openly say what they were thinking, especially when it come to the way they feel, that's actually what made me want to make an account and later to open this thread, which is a new thing for me, and i was really anxious to do it to be honest. Now i don't regret doing it at all though so i guess it will be easier the next time.
I've been quietly watching the fandom since 2013, but never really engaged with it aside from viewing the artwork. I didn't know how to engage in a social manner that would, at least to me at the time, seem acceptable (I have ADHD, and was one of those hyperactive, happy-go-lucky individuals right up to my late twenties). At the time, I created FA and Forum accounts, but was way too anxious to engage in any social interaction with others, so I left.

Roughly around the same time, I started exploring Second Life (ironically, on Valentine's Day, no less!). I was drawn to the furry fandom from a combination of acquaintances met in-game, and past experiences where I found myself enjoying the prospect of having animal characters doing fantastical things (Star Fox and The Elder Scrolls were major influences as well). The group I fell in with at the time consisted of three close friends (one of them was associated with the furry fandom), and honestly, I felt like a lost child constantly tagging along and interrupting their enjoyment of the game. Three months into this, and two of them left the game cold-turkey, leaving the aforementioned furry not really wanting to bother with me at all. I felt crushed, and didn't know what to do.

Luckily, I was also an acquaintance of a user who (if I recall correctly) had created the 'Crux' species (can't remember their name). This user would typically hang out in a neutral space, newcomer-themed sim with others who were pretty laid back and caring for others. That space really helped me grow as an individual, and ponder about the fandom in general: "Was this a place where I could belong?" along with other similar questions were forming in my mind. I even remember engaging in my first RP session on a Zelda-themed sim, and owning a virtual apartment there, which felt liberating for the time.

Eventually, I grew bored of Second Life about 6 months into it, and left- ultimately returning to the quiet watching on my FA account. I still pondered about having a fursona, however and didn't know what to do become more involved. I was afraid of being called out if I told anyone.

Now, cut to last year, amidst the beginning of the pandemic (around May). The first lockdown in my area had started a few months back, and I found myself seriously considering making a fursona (which I did: check the "Show Me Pics of Your Fursona!" thread). Things started to slowly snowball at that point, and I eventually came back to the forum, almost forgetting I had an account here that's been sitting for years.

In short, I came here to be more socially engaged, but without too much stimulus at once. I hope this wasn't too much of a response- at times I can go quite in-depth with my answers.
Don't worry too much about the lenght of your answer, i tend to type walls of text too, even when i try to summarise and skip unimportant parts to make it shorter. As someone recently told me, nothing wrong can really come out of this since we are not forcing anyone to read it entierly.

I think i started to be interested in the fandom around the same time as you actually (or maybe it was more around 2012?), and it was just by enjoying artworks online too. I guess video games had a huge influence on that too, or at least when i think about the way i started to like antropomorphic animals, video games character usually are the first thing that come to my mind. I remember that recently someone around me asked why the furry fandom seems to have grown a bit recently, i answered as a joke that maybe, all the peoples that played Starfox adventures grew up, but it may be a legit explanation after all.

I'm still in the discovery phase of the more "active" part of the fandom, and since i did not know any furry beforehand, i'm sometime a bit lost too, but i guess that being lost is part of the fun of exploring. But i think that i will try to make myself a fursona one day, i don't know when though, i suppose and kinda hope in a way that it will naturally happen when i'll feel ready to do it. I never tried to RP, that may be something i could try one day too, the only socially focused game i tried to play was VRchat, very recently, but i was too scared to say anything, i basically just ended up exploring the maps a little bit without really paying attention to the others players.
 

Einuko

Hunter of Monsters
Don't worry too much about the length of your answer, i tend to type walls of text too, even when i try to summarise and skip unimportant parts to make it shorter. As someone recently told me, nothing wrong can really come out of this since we are not forcing anyone to read it entirely.

I think i started to be interested in the fandom around the same time as you actually (or maybe it was more around 2012?), and it was just by enjoying artworks online too. I guess video games had a huge influence on that too, or at least when i think about the way i started to like anthropomorphic animals, video games character usually are the first thing that come to my mind. I remember that recently someone around me asked why the furry fandom seems to have grown a bit recently, i answered as a joke that maybe, all the peoples that played Starfox adventures grew up, but it may be a legit explanation after all.

I'm still in the discovery phase of the more "active" part of the fandom, and since i did not know any furry beforehand, i'm sometime a bit lost too, but i guess that being lost is part of the fun of exploring. But i think that i will try to make myself a fursona one day, i don't know when though, i suppose and kinda hope in a way that it will naturally happen when i'll feel ready to do it. I never tried to RP, that may be something i could try one day too, the only socially focused game i tried to play was VRchat, very recently, but i was too scared to say anything, i basically just ended up exploring the maps a little bit without really paying attention to the others players.
I'd have to agree with you on the Star Fox Adventures part, it did unintentionally lend itself towards all the fan art that came afterwards. The same thing happened with Season 3: Tamers of Digimon: Digital Monsters as well.

The Roleplay session was quite unique, and was a definite eye-opener for me as well. I've found myself peeking into Board Game shops over the past year and a half, mostly out of curiosity.

As for roaming about in VRChat, that's completely fine- I did the exact same thing in Second Life for weeks until I struck up the courage to talk to someone. The problem with Social games/ MMOs like this is that unless the user knows where the hang-out spots are for a specific group/ community, it's hard to see what to do in general with your time. I don't know how it is with VRChat (I use a Macbook Air), but when I played Second Life, I found myself feeling two things:

1. Being eerily lonely from the quiet sims for miles, and
2. Comforted by like-minded people chatting with me.

This also reminds me of the time I visited a virtual nightclub in Second Life for the first time (I won't go into detail, there wasn't anything unsavoury either). Hoo boy, I never felt so out of place at that point in my life.

Anyway, enough of my rambling. When the time comes, you'll make a fursona that'll stick with you :)
 

AniwayasSong

Active Member
Since i made myself an account a few days ago, i have spent a few hours reading and sometime answering to threads, and seeing some members talking about the way they feel or felt, their past and current situation and the fandom in general made me ask myself the following question:

How or why did you create an account in here and start using the forum? Like did you know it existed since a while and decided one day to join it for a specific reason, as an example? And do you feel like this new "flow of interaction/informations" did change you or the way you interact with others in any way? Or maybe the way you see yourself?

I must say that i'm curious about that because a lots of the things i did read in here made me look back at the past myself and think about my current situation from different perspectives. Some peoples in here seems to have been trough situations pretty similar to a few i went trough, and i found it very interesting to see the way they did see things and how things eventually went for them.



In my case, i did make my account after a few months of adventure and exploration in a way. I must admit that i have been socially inactive both IRL and on the internet for a very long while, we are talking about a 6 years long time in fact. And around 2 months ago, i don't know why but i decided to try to "connect myself back" with peoples, at least on the internet. To be truly honest, i was totally lost over the way i was going to achieve that and i had absolutely no idea over where should i go.

So since i knew that the fandom did exist and that i was kind of interested into it since a while, i basically checked the furry discord public servers and joined a few, to see what come out of it. Well, i will be honest, i felt out of place in those servers, even if i did stick to text channels because i was (and i'm still) not confident enough to actually start talking with random peoples, there was usually so many peoples typing at the same time that, for me at least, it started to look like a wall of random words, thoughts and emotes. I can't say it was a pleasant experience for me to be honest, i spent most of my time checking on google to try to understand the meaning of what i was reading or scrolling up to try to understand what they were talking about, and i could pretty much never find an opportunity to join the conversation.

After realising that public discord servers were maybe not the best spot for me to try to socialise, i decided to try to find a place that is a bit more calm, to see if the issue came from the fact that there was litterally thousands of peoples there. And that's pretty much how i made my account in here. Now, did those few days i spent in here affect me already? I guess you could say yes, it did. Both because i was amazed by some nice, light hearted or creative peoples and the thoughts they shared, and because i could read peoples typing about their past and thought to myself "that's exactly what i felt and what i could have said years ago", and honestly, seeing that most of those peoples seems to have improved their situation or managed to understand it and adapt themselves made me feel better. And i'm thankfull for this because i think it is why i actually dared to start this thread right now, which is something i don't think i would have done in other times.



Now, i would be curious to know how did some of you decide to join the forum, and what kind of experience you did get out of it.
I was a 'Furry' before the Furry Fandom even existed. There just wasn't a word/genre/definition of it at the time.
One thing I love about the invention of the Internet is how it's totally opened up the world-of-opinion and expression. It is a dual edged sword at times, to be sure. Art, music, writing, 'How-To', all of that stuff? Simply amazing.
 
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Deleted member 111470

Guest
I wanted to get involved in the furry fandom, and I was already a user on FA. I figured, as I have been in other forums before and I like their dynamics, I'd give this one a try.
 

Shane the chocco doggo

Overly imaginative and lazy
I originally wanted to join the furr affinity art website but my internet has a safe lock on . So instead i joined the forums and now i enjoy reading allot of the posts and and answering them to . Allot more entertaining than the art website i would like to think . You get to have interesting conversations with people on here and its just awesome . And the dynamic of this site is good . Ive been a furry since about 2015 mibby 16 ish ...? Anyway this is the first thing ive done to be an active part of the furry community and its awesome
 
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