How to talk to depressed people?
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Comrade Sai
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Keep in mind, someone who is depressed is usually looking for advice, or a better outlook of their situation. Sometimes it's just best to say what you think is right. It's difficult to talk to someone while they are upset, but if you take a moment to put yourself in their shoes, just think about what you'd like to hear if you felt the same way.
Storok
670 blp
there comes the problem... I had never had bad times
which is good for me i think but so i cant step into theyr shoes
Sarcastic Coffeecup
Hand. Cannot. Erase.
Step into their shoes, try to understand what they're going through.
It helps a lot if you've been through similar cases, but if not, there's a chance the sad guy might just wave you off as you can't possibly know their anguish. It's a childish mentality, but true in a sense. It just often blocks out the possibility of help and it's got nothing to do with you.
As long as you try to be encouraging and help them out I'm sure the idea counts, if nothing else.
It helps a lot if you've been through similar cases, but if not, there's a chance the sad guy might just wave you off as you can't possibly know their anguish. It's a childish mentality, but true in a sense. It just often blocks out the possibility of help and it's got nothing to do with you.
As long as you try to be encouraging and help them out I'm sure the idea counts, if nothing else.
Storok
670 blp
that's my thaught too i just dont want to hurt them
Ricky
Well-Known Member
I wouldn't talk to them with any expectation you'll fix anything or make them feel better, but no reason you can't just talk to the person to talk to them. If you are wondering what might be able to help, there are many things that can cause depression and social interaction is one thing that often helps. If they are asking me about depression specifically though, I'll usually ask them if it's bad enough they'd want to go see a doctor about it.
Storok
670 blp
this seems logic to me
Storok
670 blp
I might just keep doing what I did before so... just nothing. But somehow I got a bad feeling about doing nothing too.
when I was a bit younger like 3 years ago iIwas something like the "king of bully" at my school unti someone got really into trouble and wanted to kill himself. At this point I opened my eyes and I saw that he was just alone with his problem and had noone to really talk to which might has been the cause why he was so down... Yes I am a bad person ok ... but anyways as I realized I stopped and tryed my best to help but for some reason he was thinking that thw whole world was against him because they left him alone and didnt help while I was just the one person really against him... I do never ever want anyone to fel like him. because I made him even more depressed by telling him that not everyone is against him and it WAS just me not the others. But somehow it made him feel even more worthless. Idk how he is now tho. And I think nothing will get me depressed fast Somnium I am fine.
Toby_Morpheus
Hello, Proto
Be sure you never talk down to them, even if you think they're being irrational.
Not only will you lose them, you could very well make the situation worse.
You know
Not only will you lose them, you could very well make the situation worse.
You know
Endless/Nameless
Renegade
When dealing with someone severely depressed, empathy and support are more important than solutions.
You must remember that they are not in a rational state of mind; rational arguments are not effective.
Dumbass used rational argument!
It's not very effective.....
SadSack ran away!
I speak as a depression sufferer myself.
You must remember that they are not in a rational state of mind; rational arguments are not effective.
Dumbass used rational argument!
It's not very effective.....
SadSack ran away!
I speak as a depression sufferer myself.
All#the#fuR
Everything changed when the Fire Nation killed God
The reason for most depression is the feeling of not being important. Ask them if they can help you with something. I have extreme depression and to be honest helping someone and letting them show you how to do something feels great.
Storok
670 blp
So e.g. i will ask a depressed person how to draw a propper head in the future so the depressive person has a benefit and me too... if this is what you actually mean...
Momosukida
Gazed into the mouth of madness
Don't dismiss what's depressing them and don't try to tell them how to "fix" their situation. Validation and taking their minds off of what's making them depressed is good though. Being ignored is one of the most depressing things ever, but that's usually what others do to people who are depressed.
Storok
670 blp
i understand yes because i am not them i know... made the mistake allready not here tho...
Maximus B. Panda
The Red Menace
Start by saying "Hi"
Wither
Is honestly confused by life.
Then there are times where they ask for such and once given it, they'll ignore it. Regardless, if you have advice, always try. I just want the realistic expectation to be that you may not get through or be able to help necessarily (yet you're still a good person for trying!)
Jokes aside, you're not wrong. They're simply people. Being nice to them and being fun will generally give them a bit of happiness, even if fading.
Talking to depressed people can be like walking on a minefield. You have to be careful. As for advice one particularly what to say, it's all a case by case basis. I'm sorry I can't help much more than that. If you've got nothing to say, say nothing. You're by no means a bad person by staying quiet.
SpiritMachine
Butt Sniffer
You approach them with cynical humor and have them question their existence. Its a flip of a coin what happens next.
Edibles and adam sandler movies tend to cheer up my friends just fine irl though
Edibles and adam sandler movies tend to cheer up my friends just fine irl though
Wither
Is honestly confused by life.
I... uh? It's a public forum, mate. Sorry. i don't mean to make you uncomfortable. I was agreeing with you, even.
SpiritMachine
Butt Sniffer
Also.... Only experts should give advice. who knows how some self loathing sap will interpret your 'advice'.
Instead.... I unno... Show him or her your impressive gallery of dick pix
Instead.... I unno... Show him or her your impressive gallery of dick pix
Maximus B. Panda
The Red Menace
All our interaction does is end up with someone else's forum filled up with our pathetic responses lashing out at each other. If we keep talking to each other, then it will go the same way as last time, with you calling me "psycho" and me returning a response more vicious than the last. We can't get along, we won't get along.
RinkuTheRuffian
Punished "Venom" Rinku
Wither
Is honestly confused by life.
Really? Listen mate, I'm perfectly capable of just treating you as a normal person. I can agree with you and disagree with you without bias. It truly isn't that hard. If me using your post to further my point in agreeance with you sets you off, I think it's your problem to deal with, not mine. We had one disagreeance, It really is not a big deal.
So, can we please go back to talking about depressed people? It's an actual serious topic that I personally have to deal with a lot, so I hold it really close to me. I'd really like for it not to be sullied by whatever issue you have with me.
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Deleted member 82554
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My advice: don't.