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I feel useless.

Black & Yellow

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I'm 21, a college dropout. I tried 3 semesters and my grades were just slipping downward to D's and F's. I did okay in high school but most of my friends were in AP classes and stuff and I wasn't. I don't have any talents at all. All I ever feel like doing is eating or laying in bed all day. I don't really have many friends. I'm single. I have a dead-end minimum wage job and could easily be replaced in a minute if I quit or got fired. I just feel absolutely useless and not good for anything. =( Anyone else feel this way?
 

ZettaBit

Caffeine Addict
Not usually, I hear there are doctors that can help with that type of stuff.
 

funky3000

Galactic Overlord
I'm working two jobs, one of which I feel I'm getting purposefully screwed over on. I'm supposed to leave at my scheduled time all of a sudden (like, I used to stay an hour and a half to finish things, minimum wage went up and she's enforcing a strict leave-on-schedule with me). I just had an expensive but urgent and vital car repair, draining me of all I had. I just paid $91 for a doctor's letter clearing me from ADHD so I can go to the Air Force. I got a $100 cash advance for my stepmom but she'll pay that off, but it had a $20 fee. I got a $500 cash advance for my dad because he needed money for gas and food to get to work, and his checking account was -$300. I don't know when I'll be able to pay off that debt if he can't, his job has been screwing him over so hard lately. He slipped on ice, was offered an accident report form and ibuprofen, but according to the boss there he demanded it and was kicked out of the store, ruining my dad's potential route. He was gonna file for unemployment but Frito Lay's letter gave him job options which made unemployment not an option. Recently a district manager position opened up, but he can't get it because he has a "track record". 12 years of loyal service and the only thing in the track record was a.company screwing him over. HE DOESN'T HAVE A TRACK RECORD. He also tried suing the company that ruined his route, talked to his lawyer for months, then when its about finalized be drops that he needs $5k to make it a case. My stepmom had some words for him about that. This is a professional mind you, her words were not disrespectful but he acted like a total manchild over it. So she left the building, and out come my dad and his lawyer a few minutes later, they talk, then she drops another comment, and he acts like a manchild again, outside in public. So my dad fired his lawyer on the streets.

Yep I'm pretty much watching my family crumble around me.

But there's still a little hope. So maybe things will turn right soon.
 

RedSavage1

DefunctDupAccount
Hello! College drop out, single, no close friends nearby individual speaking here. You're not a failure unless you refuse to apply yourself as hard as possible. Not as hard as your "perceived ability", but as hard as possible. Gotta be a bit real about yourself.

Start looking for different opportunities elsewhere. Don't want college? Cool! That's great! Be glad you figured that out after three semesters, instead throwing 30 grand down the drain for nothing like me. So--you want to make money. Right now there is: A high demand for CDL drivers, welders, and fabricators. There is a booming oil and gas business going on in Texas, the Dakotas, Ohio, and numerous other states. Demand for living assistance for the elderly and nursing home aides are at an all time high (all the baby boomers kicking the bucket, haha). Also, the demand for E-Liquids is also at an high, if you're into the whole making your own business type thing.

Basically there is a shit-ton of other things you could be doing. Go get 'em. Seriously. There's no reason not to. Take a risk. Quit your job. Move across the country. Camp out in your car for the first week in Midland Odessa--and then make 3 grand in your first week of work and find a place to live. Go work on Canadian oil pipelines.

There is so much opportunity out there.

But you have to want to get up off your ass and do it or it means absolutely jack shit.

What's self pity gonna do ya? Nothing. It's useless.
And no--you're not nearly as skilless and unlearnable as you think you are. You're only such to the point as you allow yourself to be.
Get going.
Quit reading this thread. Quit this fucking site and go to google and look up numbers and applications and start making phone calls.
Why are you still here?
Get going. Get going.
Get gone.
 

Harbinger

The Last of Us.
Almost exactly, give and take a few points and for a second there i'd think you were an alt account i never knew i had.
 

Ayattar

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There is a booming oil and gas business going on in Texas, the Dakotas, Ohio, and numerous other states. Demand for living assistance for the elderly and nursing home aides are at an all time high (all the baby boomers kicking the bucket, haha). Also, the demand for E-Liquids is also at an high, if you're into the whole making your own business type thing.

From my experience I can also add, that there is always high demand on skilled technicians-manual workers (people who specialise in constructing and deconstructing scaffodlings as well as other festival-related infrastructure. Don't know what's the proper term for them in english), especially in the warmer areas. In the beggining payment won't be great (still, enough for a living) but after 2-3 months and a dozen of festivals you'll learn what goes with what (really it's not complicated, enough to know what cable goes where et cetera), and will be able to start working for a professional company... with much higher pay. And when the festival goes on - you do nothing but party (few workers are neded to supervise things, rest just waits till the event ends to deconstruct everything).

Another plus - it's great for your health. Lot of light and moderate physical activity. One of the guys who started working for our company this year lost 20kg (105 > 85) during 3 months of the summer season and now he both looks and feels great.

It isn't something you can do forever (usually people quit when they reach early 30s and that's why there is always a demand for the new workers), but it will allow you to meet dozens of people who'll need your skills in other projects (for example as sound or electricity technician - you'll learn it by the way), so changing brand won't be a problem.
 
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RedSavage1

DefunctDupAccount
Another plus - it's great for your health. Lot of light and moderate physical activity. One of the guys who started working for our company this year lost 20kg (105 > 85) during 3 months of the summer season and now he both looks and feels great..


Oh! On this note.
OP listen to this if nothing else.

If you're feeling tired, sluggish, and depressed, exercise. Seriously. Go running or biking or do low impact stationary exercises for an hour. Get your blood moving. Flowing. get those endorphins in your mind going. I know that sounds dumb. 'What? Exercise when I'm tired and feel like shit?' Yes. Do this. Once you get your heart rate at an average above that of what you use when you're constantly sitting around, then you'll feel better when you're at rest.
 

jtrekkie

Feathered
From my experience I can also add, that there is always high demand on skilled technicians-manual workers (people who specialise in constructing and deconstructing scaffodlings as well as other festival-related infrastructure. Don't know what's the proper term for them in english)

I think you're talking about road crews.
 

Ayattar

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Aye, that's true. In 30th of July this year, after 5 years of complete slacking and working mainly using my head I've hit 102 kg (with 187cm height). After I started working for Marlboro I started excercising (1-1,5h of running and 0,5h of light strenght training) mainly because I felt slightly ashamed of the beautifull host and hostess bodies that surrounded me (also, as an entertainer I really can't allow myself to look like trash), which reminded me, that when I was 18 it was me who was playing in the 2nd volleyball league and it was me who had he sexiest ass in the entire high school :p

Right now it's 88kg, but more importantly I feel great (seriously, try sitting for the entire 5 years on your ass, doing paperwork and research). Last week I ran half-marathon (21km) with ease, and sometimes when I'm running or swimming, or cycling I start laughing like an idiot... because physical activity itself makes me happy :) You just need to endure the first week and you'll see.

Also, believe it or not, looking great (or just fit, if you're - unlike me ;P - ugly) helps in getting good jobs a lot.

I think you're talking about road crews.

People who are constructing things like stages for music festivals etc. We call them (literal translation) 'technical crews'. Basically those:
http://bi.gazeta.pl/im/0/9847/z9847110Q,Budowa-sceny-na-koncert-z-okazji-rozpoczecia-polskiej.jpg
guys
 
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Ayattar

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Aye. You start working in a construction crew (scaffoldings, stages, barracks, containers, infrastructure) and over the time, thanks to things you've learned by the way you transfer to techies (lights, electricity, sound).
 

Kokoro

Member
When it seems like barriers are standing in your way in life, sometimes you have to act like a bull. The life you want may not be easy to get, but it's out there somewhere. Charge forth and take it.
 

Ieono

Uberaffe
I'm sure we all feel useless at one point or another. The trick is to find something that makes you feel useful again. When I feel like that, I make something. Doesn't have to be a picture or a song, it could be a meal or a thoughtful message to someone I care about. As far as feeling generally useless in life, I'd recommend major life changes. The others have provided some great ideas in that regard, but it ultimately comes down to you. Do you really want your life to change, or do you want to keep feeling that way? There are always people and services out there that will help you, you just have to seek them out.
 

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Teckolf

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Oh! On this note.
OP listen to this if nothing else.

If you're feeling tired, sluggish, and depressed, exercise. Seriously. Go running or biking or do low impact stationary exercises for an hour. Get your blood moving. Flowing. get those endorphins in your mind going. I know that sounds dumb. 'What? Exercise when I'm tired and feel like shit?' Yes. Do this. Once you get your heart rate at an average above that of what you use when you're constantly sitting around, then you'll feel better when you're at rest.

No shit do tire flips. I have fairly severe anxiety problems and occasional, albeit not extreme depression. I also hate exercising but if I get bummed out I go over to my buddies house and flip a 500 lb tire around. It makes you feel beast mode but you don't have to be a huge person to do it.
 

Lucidus

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Honestly there are a lot of people who are taking on the world [and doing very well] who feel the same as you. My uncle played for the Boston Redsocks and has millions yet is very unhappy. Its not as much as what you do and how you preform [although it has a hand in it] than it's more about your perspective and who you are at your core. I know failures who have more of a life than the "successful." You aren't your job, the money you have in the bank, or your possessions. Your identity doesn't come from your "causes" you create in life, it comes from who you are. I have often found in my life when you are broken inside the outside reflects this as a effect of the cause. Don't fixate on band-aiding the secondary causes, look to what is causing your outlook as many people with a different perspective would give their right arm for what you have, believe it or not.
 

Volkodav

Dad****er
all i gotta say is that based on the info youve provided, if you consider that to be "useless", i'm 10x more useless than you
and im just trying now to get my life on track, so you can too.
 

Carnie

Member
Not every opportunity suggested in this thread is necessarily realistic for you, I'm sure, but the point they're getting at is right. Take some sort of action. You need a sense of change. Avoid letting things get stagnant. Set goals; self-improvement in any area will help. You're already on the right track by looking for advice and others to talk about the issue with. Getting involved in a community, even if it's an internet forum like this can help quite a bit.

As others have said, exercise does wonders for your mood, and is an option for pretty much everyone. Just gotta work it.
 

DarrylWolf

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I'm 21, a college dropout. I tried 3 semesters and my grades were just slipping downward to D's and F's. I did okay in high school but most of my friends were in AP classes and stuff and I wasn't. I don't have any talents at all. All I ever feel like doing is eating or laying in bed all day. I don't really have many friends. I'm single. I have a dead-end minimum wage job and could easily be replaced in a minute if I quit or got fired. I just feel absolutely useless and not good for anything. =( Anyone else feel this way?

You're not useless. Standing next to this guy, you have hope to grow up and be a well-adjusted adult.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JSaeKI8IXGU
 

WolfNightV4X1

King of Kawaii; That Token Femboy
...what makes me upset is I did well in high school, but it just wasnt 'good enough'. Colleges are really tightass with their qualifications, I couldn't get into any of the ones I was aiming for, because 3.1 GPA just doesn't do it for them. The fact that I took honors and at least one AP isn't good enough. The fact that I'm good in reading/writing isn't enough. So I didn't make it to any of my ideal colleges.

The worst part is I've been feeling lack of motivation, and miserable because of it. Last year my college GPA dropped too low to sustain my scholarship that I worked 2 years in high school to earn through volunteer work and an essay.

I'm wondering if I'm even heading the right direction...or if I'm even able to get to my career goal at all. All I know is I'm just 'winging it' and hoping I get it right.
 
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