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I think I might be gay D:

Grimfang

Well-Known Member
God Grim you have the same story I have pretty much. Good knowing people have/had the same problems as you.

I know, right? Can't tell you how much time I've spent thinking "God, is this normal?"

Contrary to the avatar, I'm not effeminate or anything, so I think that makes it difficult too. Many perceive gays as flamboyant, well-dressed individuals. I'm almost always scruffy. Barely motivated enough to just use clippers to trim my bear, haha. I can't stand wearing collared shirts. I buy cheap, solid-color, generic clothing, or band shirts.

But, to Oberstbart, it's all what you make of it. Just take time for yourself and explore your own attractions. Don't dive into anything, and don't stress. After all, you're going to figure out what you're happy with, and things tend not to turn out as bad as you expect them to.
 

Takun

Wof Wof Wof Wof Wof
Agreed.

First of all "DEEP BREATH"
Second. Don't do anything rash or stupid. I uhh...embarrassingly enough sunk into a depression for a month and was damn near making a stupid choice.
I'm still holding off telling people into I've found someone. I need the support.
 

Oni

Member
Seriously, I think I might be gay.

What to do!?
How to tell!?
How to be sure!?

Please help!
I suggest that you purchase a sexy suit and then take a sexy lady friend out to dinner and a movie. ^.^
 

Azure

100% organic vegan hubbas
I know, right? Can't tell you how much time I've spent thinking "God, is this normal?"

Contrary to the avatar, I'm not effeminate or anything, so I think that makes it difficult too. Many perceive gays as flamboyant, well-dressed individuals. I'm almost always scruffy. Barely motivated enough to just use clippers to trim my bear, haha. I can't stand wearing collared shirts. I buy cheap, solid-color, generic clothing, or band shirts.

But, to Oberstbart, it's all what you make of it. Just take time for yourself and explore your own attractions. Don't dive into anything, and don't stress. After all, you're going to figure out what you're happy with, and things tend not to turn out as bad as you expect them to.

Same here. I've never really understood the whole flamey homo routine, it just seems to stigmatize them even more.
 

Grimfang

Well-Known Member
By the way, I just noticed I said I was barely motivated enough to trim my "bear". That was supposed to be "beard", and it was not a slip of any sort.. :/
.. er.. just in case you guys were wondering what I meant...
 

Takun

Wof Wof Wof Wof Wof
*puts down the razor*

....ok now this is awkward, what am I going to do with a half-shaven grizzly bear in my bathroom. I assumed I was the only one here without a shaved bear.
 

AlexInsane

I does what I says on the box.
*is a bear*

*flees before they can shave him* ;_;
 

Grimfang

Well-Known Member
*puts down the razor*

....ok now this is awkward, what am I going to do with a half-shaven grizzly bear in my bathroom. I assumed I was the only one here without a shaved bear.

*is a bear*

*flees before they can shave him* ;_;

Smartasses.

In most circumstances, it would be an understood typo. But we're on a furry forum. I just felt this need to correct it.. >_>

Not wanting to go terribly OT, just curious OP: Did any of the answers here help? This is an issue I take seriously, so I hope it helps.
 

Bokracroc

Bokra, come out to pla-ay
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Slayn

bang your head.
there is a very easy way to figure that out.

may I suggest: fchan.us male section.
 

greg-the-fox

Well-Known Member
Actually you should try gay.com. Furry smut isn't a good indicator as to whether or not you're gay, but it will try to turn you.








ARE YOU?

For some reason porn with real people turns me on when I'm horny, but once I've uhh, finished, it really looses it's appeal and I realize it's kinda gross. Yiff doesnt somehow :p It always stays awesome XD

I don't look at either as much these days though. Maybe I'm maturing? ¯\(o_O)/¯
 

loczell3

New Member
For some reason porn with real people turns me on when I'm horny, but once I've uhh, finished, it really looses it's appeal and I realize it's kinda gross. Yiff doesnt somehow :p It always stays awesome XD

I don't look at either as much these days though. Maybe I'm maturing? ¯\(o_O)/¯

I feel the same way.

But anyway, most guys go through some sort of [sexual] identity crisis. I think it's better for people to decide for themselves what they identify as, instead of following other people's preconceptions of what their personalities/identities may be. I strongly doubt that any person is truly 100% gay or straight. Everyone falls somewhere in the spectrum (yay puns) and they can shift. I do, at least.

...and: oh fchan...
 

Kimmerset

Banned
Banned
Furry porn isn't a good way to determine your sexuality. Try real porn, and if you're so bold, (safe) sex.
 

Kaiva

New Member
Well thats pretty easy

watch lesbian porn (no males involved) : got a boner? yes = +6 | no = 0
watch gay porn (no females involved) : got a boner? yes = +4 | no = 0

0 = Porn isn't your thing
4 = your probably gay
6 = your probably straight
10 = Your Bi, and thats awesome!

if your stuck with 0 try actual full on sexual encounters (USE PROTECTION!) and try your score again, and by "full on sexual encounters" i mean penetration of some kind, or it doesn't count.

this is not by any means a reliable test of sexuality, you have to find it on your own, but tis might help get you started.
 
There is always the possibility that you aren't gay too.

Males are naturally attracted to some other males; something I'm going to call, more or less, 'jock-syndrome'. Especially in locker rooms, men are very curious about other men and their bodies or will get awfully friendly towards one another. This, however, doesn't make them necessarily gay.

But again, you will really never really know until you experiment or actually develop a relationship.
 
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