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I took advice....it failed

DravenDonovan

You can call me Oni~
It doesn't sound like other people's advice failed its sounds like you failed at hiding your interests that are nobody else's business. Sounds like you should've never written that letter, if you didn't intend on telling them. Also I don't really know how parents get off to taking everything away as if that's actually going to fix anything like,"Oh noes! You deleted my furry stuff so the memories attached will be deleted too!".

Its unfortunate that a lot of people have to deal with stuff like that and family can't just be reasonable.
It is. My parents just recently found out, but by this point they've come to realize that I'm going to do whatever I like and have learned to just accept things, even if they don't agree.
They aren't always accepting, but it helped that they never heard of Furries, before, and I didn't treat it like I was coming out of the closet, or murdered someone.

P.s. It wasn't my intention to tell them. They already kind of figured it out on their own. There was a show on tv where some lady was wearing a hat that looked like a husky face. They wanted to show me, and I decided to ask if they could see me dressed up in a full animal suite. They said yes, so I went ahead and told them xD. They thought it was weird, but didn't care either way.
 

Jarren

You can't just quote yourself! -Me
I didn't treat it like I murdered someone.
Wait, so that's not a requirement for acceptance into the fandom?

....

Well, time to start digging. These bodies won't hide themselves.
 

TidesofFate

Your friendly neighborhood Executioner
P.s. It wasn't my intention to tell them. They already kind of figured it out on their own. There was a show on tv where some lady was wearing a hat that looked like a husky face. They wanted to show me, and I decided to ask if they could see me dressed up in a full animal suite. They said yes, so I went ahead and told them xD. They thought it was weird, but didn't care either way.
My guess is that they thought it was weird because they didn't understand it, but since you were into it and you didn't hurt anybody so it was alright.

Everyone that has the "telling my parents issue" should take after your example. You deserve a free boyfriend, you can take Jarren since his profile picture is a dragon. :p
 

Samandriel Morningstar

The Morningstar
Key word of advise that totally nullifies itself at the same time.
Don't take advice from a bunch of strangers on the internet.
 

DravenDonovan

You can call me Oni~
My guess is that they thought it was weird because they didn't understand it, but since you were into it and you didn't hurt anybody so it was alright.

Everyone that has the "telling my parents issue" should take after your example. You deserve a free boyfriend, you can take Jarren since his profile picture is a dragon. :p
Free boyfriend? Is it normal to buy a boyfriend, now a days? And why does having a Dragon as a icon have anything to do with it? XD
 

TidesofFate

Your friendly neighborhood Executioner
Free boyfriend? Is it normal to buy a boyfriend, now a days? And why does having a Dragon as a icon have anything to do with it? XD
Yes! That's why as a Dark Lord of the Sith, I charge with a premium price. A dragon icon means everything because if you replace the v in Draven with a g, it becomes Dragon. :p

In all seriousness, since the secret is out, you'll have to make done with what you have until you can eventually get access to everything again. If your parents don't want to change their minds then they won't. We can't convince your parents for you and you know them best. You can always try to tell them this "All I do is draw animals and design suits for people to where. It's not inappropriate and it doesn't hurt anybody".

I don't how how you feel about kinky stuff, but a white lie saying you don't like sexual stuff could work. If your parents have these preconceived notions of the sexual stuff that they do, just say that "I don't have control of what other people do, but I have control over what I do. As long as I'm not doing what they're doing, that's all that matters." and that you don't look at porn. You can offer to show them your art before you post it to make them feel better. None of this could work, but like I said, just do what you think is right.
 
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DravenDonovan

You can call me Oni~
Yes! That's why as a Dark Lord of the Sith, I charge with a premium price. A dragon icon means everything because if you replace the v in Draven with a g, it becomes Dragon. :p
I guess you'd have to charge since..well..you lack a few..parts, BUt YES you can do that with my name xD But I not into Scalies
 

lyar

Its not the human race, its just the human race
But I not into Scalies
I cry. This is the stuff that's making me eat so many bowls of spaghetti and gain weight.
I didn't treat it like I was coming out of the closet, or murdered someone.
Yeah some people treat it like a taboo so that's how their family views it. Its just a hobby, for most of us.
 

Jarren

You can't just quote yourself! -Me
My guess is that they thought it was weird because they didn't understand it, but since you were into it and you didn't hurt anybody so it was alright.

Everyone that has the "telling my parents issue" should take after your example. You deserve a free boyfriend, you can take Jarren since his profile picture is a dragon. :p
Wait wait wait! Why am I being offered up for free? I'm offended you think I'd be worth so little. I at least expect dinner first.

But I not into Scalies
:'(
 

Jarren

You can't just quote yourself! -Me

zidders

Well-Known Member
Even if the fandom had a squeaky clean reputation It's still likely that these parents would have freaked out over the whole 'fandom based around being fans of cartoons' thing. It's a pretty weird thing to be so into cartoons that you have a specific name for it. The fact is it's not the porn or the reputation or any of that. It's overly concerned parents who also sound more than a little ignorant. If it wasn't furry it would be Dungeons & Dragons or rock and roll music or some other form of entertainment or hobby they're too narrow minded to learn about first.

There are plenty of non-furry parents and people who are just fine with the fandom out there. Hopefully op gets to a point where either the parents figure out they're being dicks about it OR op gets to tell them to mind their own business.
 
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