philosophy & psychology nerd
Hi, I'm writing an article on what it means to be a Furry and a member of the Furry community. I have 5 questions I would like to ask and would appreciate any responses and insight. Personal anecdotes are encouraged!
1) How does one discover their fursona? What forms of initiation take place when you do figure it out?
2) What are some examples of language or lingo that is exclusive to the Furry community?
3) What is your favorite thing about being apart of the Furry community? How would you describe the community? How long have you been a member? How has it changed?
4) What are Furry meetups or conventions like? What is the atmosphere? What are the activities and events? How do fellow furries interact with each other?
5) What describes the Furry aesthetic? How has it evolved?
1. i agree with the statement above that a fursona isn't "discovered". although it can be based on what you know about yourself, such as your personality, physical features, habits, childhood, etc. - it's something that you create yourself, and is entirely subjective on what fits the person. as far as initiation goes (although i think this is a pretty interesting word to use), lots of people turn commissioning art or writing stories of their sona into a hobby, and love stroking their ego by sharing them and talking about them with others. it's a very common ice-breaker topic for furries.
2. i feel like a lot of the boomer furries misunderstand what lingo is actually commonly used in the furry fandom today as opposed to what was used 10 years ago. for example, we don't really say yiff anymore, and usually call NSFW content what it is - NSFW, or y'know, porn. i've never seen "murr" used in the 4 years i've been in the fandom. i also rarely see any other faces besides uwu or 2-3 variations of :3 being used, besides from older people. we do use uwu a shit ton, though, mostly ironically. you'll also see a lot of people using cutesie spelling and vocabulary here (misspelling words to be cute, etc.), and lots of cutesie nicknames for things, such as animals (derg, pupper, birb, etc.), pawbs/beans (for paws), or even how people address eachother, like using the species someone is as a nickname for a friend. some people keysmash a lot to express different kinds of emotions. there's also more official fandom-related terms that actually serve a purpose though, like "popufur" (a popular furry, typically referring to furries with no actual talent and derived all their popularity from commissioning shit tons of art of their sona, having a fursuit and/or going to cons all the time. i'm not even using this description to spite them either, i just literally never see an artist or anyone who actually deserves the popularity be referred to as a popufur).
3. i'm not sure what my favorite thing about the furry community is off the top of my head. i used to be in this fandom for the social community, but after being burned again and again and again for the years i've been in it, i mostly involve myself in the art community, and the social stuff is kind of a side feature for me now. i'd describe the community as very, very samey. you'll rarely find people who're truly different from a diceroll of the same 5-10 personalities there are. there's the punished emo edgelord (me), the overtly obnoxious, the sociopaths, the snobby rich people, the sexual degenerates, etc. - you'll rarely find people who are down to earth and truly have their own personality that isn't synthetically made from furry culture. the community is also very cliquey, and it's extremely hard to make friends unless you get lucky with someone who's apart of a circle and thus, making more friends in that circle. some get the hang of it really quickly, while others remain friendless for years.
4. just as a precautionary, i've never been to a con or meetup, so what i'm about to say is entirely based on what i've heard from friends and my own outside observations. i've heard that cons can be pretty lonely and awkward unless you bring friends, for the reason being that furries aren't really as accepting as they appear to be online, and if you don't have friends to socialize with you'll likely spend the con alone. if you do bring a friend though, i've heard it can be a very fun time, as long as you don't let envy eat you up as everybody gives all the attention to the fursuiters/artists. i wouldn't know about the activities, besides fursuit dancing and the occasional fursuit parade i imagine the activities vary.
5. the furry fandom is VERY imaginative and creative, and i feel like with the countless hundreds and possibly thousands upon thousands of people out there bringing their own aesthetics into their characters and into their art, stories and personalities, that the aesthetic of the fandom can't be defined by one definition, and i feel like there's room for a little bit of everything, and you'll be able to find what you're looking for if you look hard enough. whether it's a certain type of art style, or a certain type of friend you're looking to make. think of it as each person having their own piece of the fandom as a putty or clay, and they're constantly molding it into their own thing, using their personalities and interests to do it. furries are not a hivemind that are into all the same things and styles just because we share a fandom together. we all have our own quirks and niches. you'll very rarely find any 2 or 3 furries with a mirrored word-for-word answer when you ask them what a furry is or what the fandom is about.