I'm kind of turned off on being on furry sites...

[CharlieX]

Don't get me wrong, a lot of you are lovely people, but through a personal experience I feel violated. I'm so tired of people flirting..especially when I make it QUITE clear I'm not interested in anything or anyone or anything that has to do with that. So far I've had two people add me on MSN, at first they were cool, seemed nice and such...and then...CREEPY. I've had to delete both of them. It really has turned me off on being active on furry forums and sites because now I get the assumption that anyone that talks to me is a creeper, which makes me hold back on becoming active with the community.
Does anyone else have this problem? Is it that hard to keep it in your pants? These people haven't even seen a picture of what I look like or even know my name and yet the things they say is like lolwut.
I want to become friends with furries, but not the creepy ones that want me to send naughty pics and such. >.> Plz stop.
:3 I had to put my two cents in with the experience I've had so far, I'm hoping some people can turn around the negative effects I've been feeling around the furry fandom!~

 

[Ansitru]

I don't have this problem because I don't have my MSN or Skype on public display.
Should anyone find it anyway, I do not accept the contact until I know who they are. Creepers: avoided.

When it comes to notes / comments: either politely ask them to stop, report it if it crosses the line and delete it if it makes you uncomfortable (but only after reporting it and making sure the report has been handled!). And have the balls to cut off unwanted contact or to nip it in the bud. That's probably the best advice I can give.

 

[Evan of Phrygia]

Don't herd all your chickens in one basket. Fandom is a fandom because it is vast as hell, and if people can't come to establish that line then move on to the next.

I'm sure you'll bump into people of that nature, just don't discriminate the choice of person you make off of that. Just be aware of when you're not comfortable, which you are! So I'd say I haven't lost faith in furries. I've just come to expect this, really. x3

 

[kaskae]

It seems to be a recurring trend in which people think it's okay to overstep boundaries.

I've had this happen a lot, and quite frankly, it does get old. The most you can do is just state you're not interested, and block them if it comes to that.

 

[Arlesey]

Creepers will be creepers. So far, I've been lucky with only the people who talk to me and whom I talk back to have added me on skype and whatnot, and everything there has been fine. Only managed to get one (so far) creeper commenting on my submissions with stupid stuff like "hott" and "murr" and "omg so sexxxaayyyy" etc when the pic clearly isn't sexual in nature. They noted me saying some of my subs were hot, I responded with the fact that I wasn't interested in any kind of relationship and that their comments made no sense. I did say that they were free to comment more appropriately on my art, otherwise they would be blocked. They left me alone after that.


TLDR: Keep blocking/deleting the creepers. There are a lot of cool people in the fandom to talk to, don't let a few bad apples spoil the bunch.

 

[Percy]

You just happened to come across some of the few creepers on here.

Not everyone's like that. If it gets too bad, however, just refuse to talk to anybody outside of here that you don't already know well.

 

[Punnchy]

I'll throw my two bits in and agree with the masses, not everyone is a creeper. They really aren't as common as you've found them thus far and I hope in the future your able to find furs that are more to your liking and less creepy.

 

[Conker]

I had a few people add me at one point about a year or so ago? Sometime when I was new anyways. I don't really remember how long I've been on this site. I guess I'll find out after this post!

But I've only had a few conversations...those ended up mostly being terrible. I think the people that are apt to add everyone they see online are the people that are annoying as shit. It's one of those "vocal minority" things.

 

[kaskae]

It's like the saying goes; keep your friends close, and your enem- oh, what? That's not the right quote?

Well, when in Rome.

 

[Fallowfox]

I've had nobody seek to pressure flirting at me. I don't have msn skype etc, so the problem may be substantiated in those websites. Or maybe I just don't talk to those people.

 

[nureintier]

I'd suggest your problem is not a furry site problem, but a larger problem with many online communities. I stopped specifying my gender in a lot of places to avoid people who thought they could just ask me for nude photos or cybersex (and please note that I didn't have photos of myself up on these sites, so some people will just go after anyone in this way, and I am talking about places where hetero females are rarer like metal and gaming forums mostly). All you can do is tell them you're not interested and/or tell them off.

 

[Fallowfox]

I'd suggest your problem is not a furry site problem, but a larger problem with many online communities. I stopped specifying my gender in a lot of places to avoid people who thought they could just ask me for nude photos or cybersex (and please note that I didn't have photos of myself up on these sites, so some people will just go after anyone in this way, and I am talking about places where hetero females are rarer like metal and gaming forums mostly). All you can do is tell them you're not interested and/or tell them off.

My brother does this trolling routine of going on a dubious chat website, getting someone interested until they ask for nude photos and then sending them really ugly photos he's found on google.

 

[Flippy]

The furry community is not a game of Minecraft..... or is it? Anyway while mining for buddies you are bound to run into a few creepers.
My suggestion is go to a local fur meet up or convention & meet people snoz to snoz. Personally I find it easier to feel out a persons general level of creep in person better than online.

 

[Shoki]

I've had plenty of creepers message me, but also some people that have become my friends. I just don't post my MSN or any other messaging service info publicly.

 

[Kaeko]

i get it ALL the time. but i give out in contact MOSTLY for commissioners and friends. if you end up roleplaying in my skype and being a bit suggestive. i will block or or ignore you if you are my regular customer.

just gotta do something about it, every fandom has its quacks.

 

[nureintier]

My brother does this trolling routine of going on a dubious chat website, getting someone interested until they ask for nude photos and then sending them really ugly photos he's found on google.

Nice. ^_^ My problem is that I have a metal zine, and there are those in the metal community who think any females out there are only looking to screw long haired guys, and if fact do not believe me when I say I have no interest in such things and am only involved because of the music. I have no problem with chatting with people, but I wish all of them knew how unlikely it is that I am interested in _that_ way. I suspect that such people are more prevalent in certain communities/fandoms, but I still think it's certainly not a unique problem to the furry fandom. And I don't have a problem with people talking about sex and sexuality, porn, etc, in fact I talk about these things all the time, I just am NOT interested in finding any sort of online sex partner.

 

[Dreaming]

Does anyone else have this problem? Is it that hard to keep it in your pants? These people haven't even seen a picture of what I look like or even know my name and yet the things they say is like lolwut.

I've never had this problem ;~;

 

[Quilmeleon]

Don't get me wrong, a lot of you are lovely people, but through a personal experience I feel violated. I'm so tired of people flirting..especially when I make it QUITE clear I'm not interested in anything or anyone or anything that has to do with that. So far I've had two people add me on MSN, at first they were cool, seemed nice and such...and then...CREEPY. I've had to delete both of them. It really has turned me off on being active on furry forums and sites because now I get the assumption that anyone that talks to me is a creeper, which makes me hold back on becoming active with the community.
Does anyone else have this problem? Is it that hard to keep it in your pants? These people haven't even seen a picture of what I look like or even know my name and yet the things they say is like lolwut.
I want to become friends with furries, but not the creepy ones that want me to send naughty pics and such. >.> Plz stop.
:3 I had to put my two cents in with the experience I've had so far, I'm hoping some people can turn around the negative effects I've been feeling around the furry fandom!~

Get it all the time. Just block them and move on thats my policy. Some people have no respect for boundaries.

 

[RadioCatastrophe]

I've had people hit on "me" (more so my character) and I've had to outright block them as well as delete shouts and hide comments on my submissions. I usually have a high tolerance for people but this person crossed the line and kept hurdling my advances against them. They even went so far as to note my fiance about me blocking them, explaining how nice of a person they are and they should unblock me, thankfully they didn't harass him after he ignored them.

But this isn't the first I've had to avoid people and this is the first furry forum/site I've been active in so, it's not the fandom, it's people in general not knowing how to talk or interact with others in a mature way.

 

[Carnie]

Not sure what issues you may have had before, but you most likely won't have anyone try to flirt with you randomly on these forums. Unless you count compliments in mugshot threads as flirting. (You shouldn't necessarily)

That said, I've definitely had this issue. Plenty of furries I've added just to game with have turned out to be extremely flirtatious. I suppose it's a better problem to have than people being rude, though.

 

[RTDragon]

I really have not had any issues since i don't post my contacts public usually people have to ask by noting me. I've been doing this for years so i can fairly tell which are creepers based on behavior.

 

[kaskae]

Moral of the story: Don't post your MSN, Skype, or other chat clients publicly if you aren't prepared to face the creeps that will find you through them. I've only ever had the issue with people trying to do this through the FA note system, and it's a pretty simple one-and-done block and I never hear from them again.

 

[BrodyCoyote]

Creepers will be creepers. So far, I've been lucky with only the people who talk to me and whom I talk back to have added me on skype and whatnot, and everything there has been fine. Only managed to get one (so far) creeper commenting on my submissions with stupid stuff like "hott" and "murr" and "omg so sexxxaayyyy" etc when the pic clearly isn't sexual in nature. They noted me saying some of my subs were hot, I responded with the fact that I wasn't interested in any kind of relationship and that their comments made no sense. I did say that they were free to comment more appropriately on my art, otherwise they would be blocked. They left me alone after that.


TLDR: Keep blocking/deleting the creepers. There are a lot of cool people in the fandom to talk to, don't let a few bad apples spoil the bunch.

That sounds less like a creeper and more like a spammer. I have a few of those bothering me, saying really generic stuff in an attempt to get me to add them to my watch list and stuff. I've noticed a few even unfavorited my stuff after I didn't respond.

Yeah, I can see you spamming that exact phrase on every bit of artwork you favorite, guy. Cut it out. Stoppit.

 

[Taralack]

Don't make your contact info public. Simple as that.

The way you express yourself may also contribute to it. I don't use a lot of =^.^= emotes a whole lot and conduct myself in a business like manner, mainly because I am there for business.

 

[CharlieX]

Thanks for all the feed back guys. ^^
Toraneko, I just find it difficult not to use emoticons because ever since I've been using the internet I've used it to help communicate in a friendly manner. I guess it's time to start being rude. teehee. : 3