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um_pineapplez

um_pineapplez

Mage of Void, dammit.
quoting_mungo said:
Medicine changes can really mess someone up as they're happening. Don't jump to the doom-and-gloom conclusion just yet. Even if he should fall out of love with you, if the adjustments in his medication mean he feels better once the adjustment period has passed, that's the most important thing, right? Loving someone is a lot about wanting the best for them, even when it means you might not get what you, yourself, want.


Goes for all relationships, tbfh. Not many people marry and grow old with someone they started dating first year of high school. ;) I was... under 18 (I honestly don't remember my exact age offhand) when I first fell in love with my now-husband, but I had another boyfriend and assorted life shenanigans go down between then and us actually getting engaged.

Don't expect teenage relationships to last forever, but don't throw them out as useless because they likely won't last into old age, either. The experiences you make now will be with you later regardless of the outcome.
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Hmmm....I'll try to remember that. If he decides he doesn't love me because he took some different meds than usual i'll just give him a big chewing-out for letting the meds control him that much.

But still. What's the average time it takes for someone to adjust? I've been thinking about asking him once the weekend rolls around, but I'm not sure. (I'm feeling starved of conversation already.)
 
um_pineapplez

um_pineapplez

Mage of Void, dammit.
Hetnensilverfox said:
Yay's today is my one year anniversary of being rescued by my current mate.
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Also congratulations bruh. I'm just kinda happy that I'm not constantly ranting about being lonely and wanting love now.
 
quoting_mungo

quoting_mungo

Well-Known Member
um_pineapplez said:
But still. What's the average time it takes for someone to adjust? I've been thinking about asking him once the weekend rolls around, but I'm not sure. (I'm feeling starved of conversation already.)
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Depends a lot on what sort of meds they are, to be honest, as well as individual reactions to them. There are, for instance, ADD/ADHD meds that may take upwards of 2 months before you see their full effect; many antidepressants will take a couple of weeks to a month to adjust to, and other substances may have different adjustment periods. Saying "hey, I miss you, how are you feeling?" when the weekend rolls around probably isn't unreasonable, just be prepared to give him his space if he's still not feeling well.

In the meantime, you could always use the time to get ahead on schoolwork, so you run less of a risk of your mother taking your laptop or phone away again. ;)
 
xaliceonfire

xaliceonfire

Kiralee
um_pineapplez said:
In other words I'm worried we'll grow apart because of that now. What happens if he decides he doesn't love me like he said he did now that he's on different meds?
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How long have you two been together that the world 'love' has been put out there? I have no problem with online/long distance relationships, but it's not something that should be thrown around without reason.

Also, if someone decides they don't 'love you' from a change of medicine, you should probably question that anyway.

Either way, take things SLOW- no matter what. Whether you're 14 or 54.

Make sure you have priorities as well. School should definitely be a forefront.
 
um_pineapplez

um_pineapplez

Mage of Void, dammit.
Well, we're still together, but he hasn't been in discord as much. Last time I talked with him was on the weekend while playing tf2.
 
Iriastar

Iriastar

Rawr.
Aah I was in two wonderful potential relationships in the past (online), but one was too young and the other too old... once we found out about that, the illusion broke and we parted slowly from each other. I hope the 3rd time I get together with someone close to my age.
 
um_pineapplez

um_pineapplez

Mage of Void, dammit.
Iriastar said:
Aah I was in two wonderful potential relationships in the past (online), but one was too young and the other too old... once we found out about that, the illusion broke and we parted slowly from each other. I hope the 3rd time I get together with someone close to my age.
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thankfully my bf is 16.
 
Khazius

Khazius

The Fruit Bat
LDR are rough. Takes a lot of dedication, trust and patience. Recently kinda got into one sorta.
 
Iriastar

Iriastar

Rawr.
Khazius said:
LDR are rough. Takes a lot of dedication, trust and patience. Recently kinda got into one sorta.
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It's easier to find someone of your liking that way though. In special when you're talking about furs and the like.
 
Khazius

Khazius

The Fruit Bat
Iriastar said:
It's easier to find someone of your liking that way though. In special when you're talking about furs and the like.
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Yeah, it can just be tough because theres not much you can really do. You can play games together if your gamers, but mainly just talking.
 
Yakamaru

Yakamaru

Woof? Woof
um_pineapplez said:
Stooooop! Stop fueling my deranged desire to go to a convention even though I will never have the time to! It's not fair that everyone around me gets to do awesome shit and I don't! It just ain't fair!
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You're 15. The very least you can do is wait until you are 18 and can go to cons without having to worry.

A lot of older people would love to go back to their teenage years and live them over again, myself included.
 
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