Intimacy with an Arctic Fox

[littlecoffeefox]

Hello,

I'm Iku: an Arctic Fox. I enjoy a balance of time alone and time with friends. My passion is to do the things that make me happy and be able to help others with the same. I like outdoor sports: rock climbing, biking and snowboarding. And indoor sports: board games, food, cooking and movies. I work as a firefighter - I love to help.

And you are?

. . .

It's not often we open ourselves and have it received with genuine interest and reciprocity outside of dating or close friendships. And where there are many resources for exploring our intimacy, we lack similar resources for finding friends - though these share motivations so why don't we seek both in the same way? It's likely we'd find people we admire if we shared ourselves openly and through them gain something important. A relationship.

Courtship has come far from its primal roots: dating services, meet-ups, online sub-genres of interest. Technology helps us fill the need for companionship and we open up. Most of us want someone we can bond with, understand, feel and relate to. Though a satisfying relationship can come from a close friendship too.

Good friends and the way we find them has stayed relatively stagnant. We have social cliques, we're wary of strangers, we talk and who we are is on a need-to-know basis. Friendships shouldn't be different than dating;the outcome is as important as our intimate relationships. Maybe the cynicism and pride gets in the way of friendships more often than our hopes of love. Life is messy but we can learn from it and grow if we set appropriate expectations.

I want to be close to friends like I am with my lover. I admire friends because they provide something I can't do on my own: Companionship.

So my intention is to make us think about the way we connect with eachother and seek friendship. Be open and kind. I encourage you to respond by connecting with me or someone else here and/or telling everyone about yourself.

Thanks,
Iku

Telegram: @littlecoffeefox

 

[Yakamaru]

For a moment I thought this was a thread where you were looking for someone to be intimate with. Then I read it. And you're looking for friends? Both?

I got confused as to what it is you actually want out of this thread.

 

[littlecoffeefox]

For a moment I thought this was a thread where you were looking for someone to be intimate with. Then I read it. And you're looking for friends? Both?

I got confused as to what it is you actually want out of this thread.

I went back and clarified the intention; it's a thought piece about interpersonal connection, method and expectation.

I wanted it to start with a dating-esque mind set and hopefully grow to make us think.

I have friends, I like friends and I'm not opposed to connecting.

 

[Yakamaru]

I went back and clarified the intention; it's a thought piece about interpersonal connection, method and expectation.

I wanted it to start with a dating-esque mind set and hopefully grow to make us think.

I have friends, I like friends and I'm not opposed to connecting.

Ah, ok. Thanks for clarifying.

 

[backpawscratcher]

While on the subject of friendship I want to apologise for something. Some of my posts have been unintentionally insensitive to some of the furries here, furries (and by extension their personas) that I have come to really care about. I came to feel at home here very quickly, thanks to you all, but I’ve been acting as I do with my RL social circle in talking about certain aspects of my life without any regard for how it might make others feel. I’m truly sorry to everyone I’ve made feel bad in any way. Friends don’t do that, and in future neither will I.