Just Aspy Things

[BlueWorrior]

I don't make it a secret that I have Asperger's syndrome.
I think of the condition as an important part of who I am and I like to be open and honest talking about it.
That's why I wanted to share some things: aspects of my life that can be difficult or otherwise a different experience for an Aspy or anybody else who is on the autistic spectrum.
Interacting with people has always been a struggle for me and although I think have made great progress in that aspect in recent years, I can still screw it up
When I'm talking about a subject that I feel strongly or passionately about, I tend to talk people ears off and I sometimes can't tell if somebody's getting bored of what I'm saying. There would be times where they would want to change subject, but I keep talking about the same thing or bring it up again long after having changed the subject xD
This isn't a sympathy grab or anything, simply a way to vent my sometimes frustratingly awkward quirks.
Anybody who can relate or have other aspects of their life they want to share that have been affected by autism in any way, please share it here!

 

[TeslaSkunk]

I have it too, and i can concur on SOOOO many of the same difficulties that you probably face. I don't pretend to not have it, but at the same time i try not to bring attention to it, as i don't feel its hugely a part of me.... although it is probably responsible for some of my rather *sensitive* traits.
I try to put it to my advantage as well, at university i got a free printer with free ink, plus mentoring support, just because i have these disabilities . That and in 6th Form i did a presentation with a support worker, where i told my personal anecdote, and i apparently made some of the teachers cry because of my experience.... fair to say I've left a huge impression at my school XD
I've never really mentioned the fact i have Aspies on this forum, or to many people at all until i have become a lot closer to them to open up, as i tend to be a VERY closed off person for my own protection...but i guess thats redundant now I've said it here
Its great of you to open up like this bud

 

[Somnium]

Well you sound like the other 99% of human population

 

[BlueWorrior]

I can relate, especially with having sensitivity to things. Foul smells make me gag easily, loud sudden noises can scare the absolute shit out of me, more notably is wanting my hands to be clean and smooth. If my hands are even slightly dirty , I have to wash them, because that clammy sticky feeling is incredibly distracting to me :L
Thanks for sharing too!

 

[TeslaSkunk]

I can relate, especially with having sensitivity to things. Foul smells make me gag easily, loud sudden noises can scare the absolute shit out of me, more notably is wanting my hands to be clean and smooth. If my hands are even slightly dirty , I have to wash them, because that clammy sticky feeling is incredibly distracting to me :L
Thanks for sharing too!

I guess my most notable feature is most definitely my sensitivity XD
I don't want to make it sound like i am pinning the blame entirely on a disability and therefore i can act like it however much i want, cos thats not who i am.
I've probably made a negative impression on many people due to my excessive low moods and wanting to control everything and be in a specific way, and if it isn't, i don't like it one bit and often get pretty frustrated about it.

 

[BlueWorrior]

Ugh, my school years were not fun for the reasons you mention.
I think back at all the negative encounters I had in school: at the time I thought it was everybody being a shithead but looking back , I have to wonder how much of it was actually me being hard to approach or difficult to talk to.
I got very angry a lot in school, had a few scraps because I'd just got tired of people mocking me. It's all different now, I would find it hard to punch someone, even if they'd paid me xD

 

[Yakamaru]

<-- Asperger's.

As for how we relate to each other.. I find sensing sarcasm is hard. Still use that shit every day though. Tend to have a lot of information on a ton of different subjects, from nuclear power to religion. Most of it useless in most social conversations.

I also STILL have no idea on how to relate with people, nor how to start a fucking conversation. Never have, frankly. Social awkwardness ftw.

I am cynical and skeptical as fuck towards people and new information I recieve in general(which I call a "Bullshit Filter"), though that has little to do with Asperger's. I think.

 

[RandomNinja11]

I don't have aspergers, autism or any of that
but omg, i can relate so much to this stuff xD

 

[BlueWorrior]

<-- Asperger's.

As for how we relate to each other.. I find sensing sarcasm is hard. Still use that shit every day though. Tend to have a lot of information on a ton of different subjects, from nuclear power to religion. Most of it useless in most social conversations.

I also STILL have no idea on how to relate with people, nor how to start a fucking conversation. Never have, frankly. Social awkwardness ftw.

I am cynical and skeptical as fuck towards people and new information I recieve in general(which I call a "Bullshit Filter"), though that has little to do with Asperger's. I think.

Sarcasm has always been a sticking point with me.
I also love to be sarcastic, but my brain has double-standards. This affects socialising with even close family members who know my weird social quirks.
Most of my best friends are on the autistic spectrum somewhere and it's kinda dumb how we try to be sarcastic and facetious around each other, but we have to occasionally clarify if we're still being facetious or not to avoid confusion xD

 

[Toby_Morpheus]

I have Asperger's and I have an acute dislike for socializing in public.
I suppose I'm just really shy, though I'm really bold and loud when among the few close friends I have.

I had to teach myself how to read body language and inflections in the voice and now, you could say, I'm hypersensitive to them and I overreact on occasion.

 

[TeslaSkunk]

Sarcasm has always been a sticking point with me.
I also love to be sarcastic, but my brain has double-standards. This affects socialising with even close family members who know my weird social quirks.
Most of my best friends are on the autistic spectrum somewhere and it's kinda dumb how we try to be sarcastic and facetious around each other, but we have to occasionally clarify if we're still being facetious or not to avoid confusion xD

I've gotten the hang on sarcasm and a lot of what we would call "social cues". Although some of my friends do clarify later on if they were being serious or not.

 

[Somnium]

Idk but reading such posts makes me feel like people like to blame their imaginary conditions for their lack of courage to improve themselves. It's all natural of course because only strong people dare to point finger at themselves and take full responsibility for their own actions. Yea I understand not everyone is born equal, but c'mon guys I'm sure you could do way better if you stopped telling yourself I can't do it because of that, him, her or whatever!

 

[Toby_Morpheus]

Idk but reading such posts makes me feel like people like to blame their imaginary conditions for their lack of courage to improve themselves. It's all natural of course because only strong people dare to point finger at themselves and take full responsibility for their own actions. Yea I understand not everyone is born equal, but c'mon guys I'm sure you could do way better if you stopped telling yourself I can't do it because of that, him, her or whatever!

How many autistic people do you know personally?

 

[BlueWorrior]

Idk but reading such posts makes me feel like people like to blame their imaginary conditions for their lack of courage to improve themselves. It's all natural of course because only strong people dare to point finger at themselves and take full responsibility for their own actions. Yea I understand not everyone is born equal, but c'mon guys I'm sure you could do way better if you stopped telling yourself I can't do it because of that, him, her or whatever!

I think you're misinterpreting the purpose of this thread. Like I said, this isn't about gathering sympathy or making excuses. It's simply about talking about the challenges of autism.
And I would not call autism an "imaginary condition".
I always strive to better myself and I think it's important to be aware of our weaknesses and discuss them.

 

[Somnium]

How many autistic people do you know personally?

Zero, I learned about autism and all other mental disorders only after I joined the furry fandom.

 

[Sergei Nóhomo]

The name alone made me smile and have a good laugh so props to you for that.

Some protips from a more socially inclined person:

- Watch body language (not super blatantly obvious mind you) and study it. It'll help you a fucktonne
- If someone changes the subject and it's completely unrelated then simply move on, unless it was just a 1-off comment
- Listen for tone of voice. Tone can indicate what someone is feeling at that moment (though people can mask it pretty easily)

I can understand what it's like to be passionate mate. Shit's a great thing to have but learning social cues and the time+place is also important

Zero, I learned about autism and all other mental disorders only after I joined the furry fandom.

Pretty well the same boat here. I got my information from furries and 4chan when I was younger

 

[TeslaSkunk]

Idk but reading such posts makes me feel like people like to blame their imaginary conditions for their lack of courage to improve themselves. It's all natural of course because only strong people dare to point finger at themselves and take full responsibility for their own actions. Yea I understand not everyone is born equal, but c'mon guys I'm sure you could do way better if you stopped telling yourself I can't do it because of that, him, her or whatever!

Thats not what we're saying at all, again we don't want to make it look like we are all making bullshit excuses just because of what you put as an imaginary condition. Not everything is visible. All we're saying is that we do have these issues, and this forum enables us to talk about them together

 

[BlueWorrior]

I like to think of autism less of a disability and more equivilant to a min/max re-spec on an RPG.
+10 to specific interests and knowledge,
-15 to social skills,
-25% weakness to sarcasm,
+30% passion drive.

 

[Toby_Morpheus]

I think you're misinterpreting the purpose of this thread. Like I said, this isn't about gathering sympathy or making excuses. It's simply about talking about the challenges of autism.
And I would not call autism an "imaginary condition".
I always strive to better myself, but I think it's important to be aware of our weaknesses and discuss them.

A noble goal.
Knowing yourself is a very important step to overcoming your

I like to think of autism less of a disability and more equivilant to a min/max re-spec on an RPG.
+10 to specific interests and knowledge,
-15 to social skills,
-25% weakness to sarcasm,
+30% passion drive.

I feel the same way.
It's less of a disability (for high-functioning, anyways) and more of a skill displacement.

 

[Toby_Morpheus]

Zero, I learned about autism and all other mental disorders only after I joined the furry fandom.

Then I'm sorry to say, but I'm not sure you're qualified enough to make the comment you made earlier.

 

[Somnium]

Then I'm sorry to say, but I'm not sure you're qualified enough to make the comment you made earlier.

Well sorry I didn't grow up in America where having mental problems doesn't get a bad rap. Most people who surround me consider issues which have been described in this thread just a normal part of social development which everyone has to face. Some improve faster, some slower, but eventually with enough practice everyone makes it and develops decent social skills.

 

[Toby_Morpheus]

Well sorry I didn't grow up in America where having mental problems doesn't get a bad rap. Most people who surround me consider issues which have been described in this thread just a normal part of social development which everyone has to face. Some improve faster, some slower, but eventually with enough practice everyone makes it and develops decent social skills.

Didn't mean to come off as attacking, but I'm pointing out that your own personal experience is anecdotal and, though may be true in your immediate area, is not necessarily the norm everywhere else.
So when discussing stuff like this, feel free to voice how you perceive things, but at the same time, try not to put them off as objective truth unless you have some evidence to back it up.

EDIT: The OP claims to be from the UK, so your quip about America was not warranted.

 

[Somnium]

Didn't mean to come off as attacking, but I'm pointing out that your own personal experience is anecdotal and, though may be true in your immediate area, is not necessarily the norm everywhere else.
So when discussing stuff like this, feel free to voice how you perceive things, but at the same time, try not to put them off as objective truth unless you have some evidence to back it up.

EDIT: The OP claims to be from the UK, so your quip about America was not warranted.

Is there an objective way to measure if someone has aspergers or not?

P.S. US and UK are the same thing.

 

[BlueWorrior]

Is there an objective way to measure if someone has aspergers or not?

P.S. US and UK are the same thing.

I recommend you do some research about autism.
And no.... the UK and the US are quite different

 

[Toby_Morpheus]

Is there an objective way to measure if someone has aspergers or not?

Here you go.
Not just Asperger's, but the rest of the spectrum.
https://www.autismspeaks.org/what-autism/diagnosis/dsm-5-diagnostic-criteria