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bhutrflai

bhutrflai

Okami The Wolf is my crazy half!
Water Draco said:
Take it that you also have an intensity perception control that is jammed at 1000%

There are some things where I have to prepare myself mentally before hand so that regulate my anxiety over completing the task. This often involves situations where my dyslexia presents its unique challenges.

At other times I completely offset my emotions and focus intently at the task at hand. I do try to limit the number of times and the duration of doing this as it is very dangerous for my wellbeing.

But as mentioned in the article removing distractions is beneficial. So much to the irritation of some others mobile goes on flight mode, two way radio I some how accidentally bump the controls so ether the volume is turned down or ends up on the wrong channel.

Change is difficult, particularly if you have drained yourself finding the motivation can be a challenge.

I'm trying a new approach with this.
I have always looked to try and maintain balance but some how I have always found myself running at a deficit where I have been left unable to service my own needs.
So with a lot of considerable thought on self awareness.
I am working harder at being more resistant at pushing back at unreasonable demands others place on me.
I have a tendency to over empathise, so I am trying to learn to not over burden myself with other people's problems.
I make the time for myself to do things I enjoy and mark that time out in my calendar. And while I am doing those things I turn off the phone.
I needed a way to interact with people away from work and the larguments* in the local pubs. So I started going to the furmeets in London. And I am looking at courses I can attend locally to meet others.


* largument/s - an alcohol induced argument that none of the involved parties have any idea of what it is there arguing about, and most probably agree with one and other but are too pissed up to realise.


Going to stop here or there will be complaints of a long post.
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Totally relatable. On every level. I used to be a people-pleaser, especially when it came to my work schedule. Any avail open spot was eventually booked. Which led to me feeling the burnout. Took me alot of years to finally get the cahones to tell someone No when they asked for an oddly timed appointment on my book. But once I did, oh boy!! I was telling them No left & right!! To the point that I was forced to close my calendar almost 3yrs ago. I've had the same set of appts every month for that period. Cannot begin to tell you how much better it is on me mentally!! Wish I had had the nerve to do it sooner!

And I get the hyper-focus thing too. That's pretty much the way I am. Once I'm in it, I'm there, fully immersed. But it's all the doubts about myself & my skills & the possible negative outcome that prevents me from even trying in the first place. I have a shit ton of projects that I gathered supplies for with the absolute intention of making the most magnificent 'thing' ever, and those supplies are now gathering dust after being banished to the garage.



See all you younglings...it's not just y'alls age group that deals with the mental shit. It can hit anyone. And most likely does.
 
SirGavintheFurred

SirGavintheFurred

The Comment Cavalry
Joni said:
Ok....
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That's funny.
Niedlich the Wolf said:
Only things I've heard a billion times.
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I apologize then. I wasn't trying to say something bland or unmeaningful. What I'm trying to say is that you have a bright future ahead of you. When you're not depressed or talking about how much you hate yourself, I see a sort of stubbornness and set mindset that will get you to said bright future. Things may look bad now, but if you push through then you'll succeed in life. You don't have to push through alonem though. We're always here to help you out.
 
CertifiedCervine

CertifiedCervine

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AvienWithFur said:
n o ----- u
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Niedlich the Folf

Niedlich the Folf

Cute Folf.
SirGavintheFurred said:
That's funny.

I apologize then. I wasn't trying to say something bland or unmeaningful. What I'm trying to say is that you have a bright future ahead of you. When you're not depressed or talking about how much you hate yourself, I see a sort of stubbornness and set mindset that will get you to said bright future. Things may look bad now, but if you push through then you'll succeed in life. You don't have to push through alonem though. We're always here to help you out.
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Stubborn? :(
 
Niedlich the Folf

Niedlich the Folf

Cute Folf.
SirGavintheFurred said:
I disagree in my opinion. While I find both very similar, I view determined as more of a softer version of stubbornness.
Determined is like I''m going to do my best to get this done while stubbornness is I WILL get this done
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Stubborness is I will not change as I'm perfect and can't be changed.
 
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