Fay V
Lost to this world
I honestly dislike the complete and utter lack of social tact, particularly in two forms. 1. The failure to recognize polite conversation and 2. Pushing expectations on someone.
The first we've seen in this thread, with that asinine argument about talking about porn in public. There was a saying that in mixed company you do not discuss religion, politics, or money. Apparently some people take offense to this and view it as some "My opinions must be heard at all times!" which is just a lack of social awareness on the whole.
There is no moral high ground, there is no protection of the truth or of culture and diversity in this regard. It's a disrespect to diversity. People that insist on porn being free, and that it should be applicable in all situations, and they should not feel pressured to hide it do so because it is a cornerstone of their own identity. If it is something that does not matter to you then it is no trouble to not talk about it with a non-receptive audience. I don't give a damn about my own sexuality, you'll find it rarely comes up in polite conversation. funny that.
Those that refuse to dial it back at all will always rationalize it. There's nothing wrong with sex, you're a prude, or whatever else. It's a natural burning desire that everyone should rightfully have.
Ever consider, just for a moment that it isn't fear, prudishness, or discomfort? Some people just really do not care about sex in general. Not that the world shouldn't, or they think it's gross, or whatever. It doesn't even mean they don't have sex regularly. It's just not at the forefront of the brain all the time.
Let's put this in context of something else. Pokemon cards. Imagine for a moment you are having a conversation with someone for the first time and they immediately bring up pokemon cards. Whatever your knowledge or interest is on the subject it doesn't matter, they wish to enthusiastically discuss the subject. You could say "I don't really want to talk about that" and get called a prude and just afraid of it. what?
It's the same thing. Yes some people are afraid, grossed out, or prudish. That doesn't make you right. There is nothing wrong with se but to bring it up in such a manner is rude as hell because it means you care more for your own interests than to actually find what the other person likes and has in common with you.
This isn't just sex, a lot of furries do this with goddamn everything. They don't understand that people do not enjoy all things they enjoy, and sometimes the situation is not set up to humor your hobbies. If I am eating dinner I don't want to see the porn you just purchased, or the toys you just got, or whatever else you strictly enjoy. I don't give a shit about your diversity, I want my steak.
This leads into the second, furries that expect others to meet their own expectations for how someone should be, and label them. This is an entirely unempathetic and selfish practice. a furry labels you their friend due to whatever qualities, but then expects you to send messages in notes, wish them happy birthday or take part in their games. It doesn't matter if you dislike such things, it doesn't matter that you were unaware of these expectations, it doesn't matter that you are busy with your own life. If you fail to meet this, if you had the gaul to say kind words now and then but failed then to send random notes of greeting or let them have something they wanted, you are a bitch. A stuck up, elitist, selfish bitch.
I hate this attitude, I really do.
Or perhaps you are a fursuiter, but if you don't dance, or play, or do something else they like you are bad. If you don't have a certain style you suck. If you don't accept all furries no matter what you are mean, or if you choose to point out when someone is wrong you're a bitch.
Furries aren't accepting. They just want people to meet what they expect for their labels when they label them, regardless of who that person is, what is going on in life, and how they are an individual.
The first we've seen in this thread, with that asinine argument about talking about porn in public. There was a saying that in mixed company you do not discuss religion, politics, or money. Apparently some people take offense to this and view it as some "My opinions must be heard at all times!" which is just a lack of social awareness on the whole.
There is no moral high ground, there is no protection of the truth or of culture and diversity in this regard. It's a disrespect to diversity. People that insist on porn being free, and that it should be applicable in all situations, and they should not feel pressured to hide it do so because it is a cornerstone of their own identity. If it is something that does not matter to you then it is no trouble to not talk about it with a non-receptive audience. I don't give a damn about my own sexuality, you'll find it rarely comes up in polite conversation. funny that.
Those that refuse to dial it back at all will always rationalize it. There's nothing wrong with sex, you're a prude, or whatever else. It's a natural burning desire that everyone should rightfully have.
Ever consider, just for a moment that it isn't fear, prudishness, or discomfort? Some people just really do not care about sex in general. Not that the world shouldn't, or they think it's gross, or whatever. It doesn't even mean they don't have sex regularly. It's just not at the forefront of the brain all the time.
Let's put this in context of something else. Pokemon cards. Imagine for a moment you are having a conversation with someone for the first time and they immediately bring up pokemon cards. Whatever your knowledge or interest is on the subject it doesn't matter, they wish to enthusiastically discuss the subject. You could say "I don't really want to talk about that" and get called a prude and just afraid of it. what?
It's the same thing. Yes some people are afraid, grossed out, or prudish. That doesn't make you right. There is nothing wrong with se but to bring it up in such a manner is rude as hell because it means you care more for your own interests than to actually find what the other person likes and has in common with you.
This isn't just sex, a lot of furries do this with goddamn everything. They don't understand that people do not enjoy all things they enjoy, and sometimes the situation is not set up to humor your hobbies. If I am eating dinner I don't want to see the porn you just purchased, or the toys you just got, or whatever else you strictly enjoy. I don't give a shit about your diversity, I want my steak.
This leads into the second, furries that expect others to meet their own expectations for how someone should be, and label them. This is an entirely unempathetic and selfish practice. a furry labels you their friend due to whatever qualities, but then expects you to send messages in notes, wish them happy birthday or take part in their games. It doesn't matter if you dislike such things, it doesn't matter that you were unaware of these expectations, it doesn't matter that you are busy with your own life. If you fail to meet this, if you had the gaul to say kind words now and then but failed then to send random notes of greeting or let them have something they wanted, you are a bitch. A stuck up, elitist, selfish bitch.
I hate this attitude, I really do.
Or perhaps you are a fursuiter, but if you don't dance, or play, or do something else they like you are bad. If you don't have a certain style you suck. If you don't accept all furries no matter what you are mean, or if you choose to point out when someone is wrong you're a bitch.
Furries aren't accepting. They just want people to meet what they expect for their labels when they label them, regardless of who that person is, what is going on in life, and how they are an individual.