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My Parents Won't let me be a Furry

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All#the#fuR

Everything changed when the Fire Nation killed God
Okay all you furries who joined the fandom as a minor who had parents yell at you for looking at fursuits, said that all furries are "disgusting perverts who rape animals in costume", who throw out your (completely SFW) art you worked hard on because it's "fetish porn", and get upset over how much you love Zootopia. How do I get through this stage? And what did you do when you turned 18? I'm really in a tight situation right now and idk what to do.
Just Say ok and do it anyway
 

All#the#fuR

Everything changed when the Fire Nation killed God
Okay all you furries who joined the fandom as a minor who had parents yell at you for looking at fursuits, said that all furries are "disgusting perverts who rape animals in costume", who throw out your (completely SFW) art you worked hard on because it's "fetish porn", and get upset over how much you love Zootopia. How do I get through this stage? And what did you do when you turned 18? I'm really in a tight situation right now and idk what to do.
Me lol
 

lyar

Its not the human race, its just the human race
Okay all you furries who joined the fandom as a minor who had parents yell at you for looking at fursuits, said that all furries are "disgusting perverts who rape animals in costume", who throw out your (completely SFW) art you worked hard on because it's "fetish porn", and get upset over how much you love Zootopia. How do I get through this stage? And what did you do when you turned 18? I'm really in a tight situation right now and idk what to do.
Well..I don't know your parents but if it was my parents I'd start a war of attrition and keep up my furry shenanigans until they give up. They could take everything from me but they will never change my mind. I would go for months without speaking to my parents, I would treat them like a stranger I see on the street meaning I'd never have an attitude but if they want any form of recognition it won't happen. Now if you are an emotional person this won't work for you and you'll just be stuck in the shitter until you get old enough to leave.
 

LycanTheory

Free to good home.
If you can't be good, be good at it. Take everything covert and play it off as teenage mood swings, rebellion, right to privacy activisim, whatever it takes.

Locks, hiding places and good strategy are your best friends until you can leave.
 

biscuitfister

Anyone want thier biscuit fisted?
be respectful to your parents and wait till you move out and express your furriness to your hearts content
 

DravenDonovan

You can call me Oni~
Probably a horrible idea, but hell it might be just crazy enough to work.

Your parents are the type who appraise appeal out anything else, right? They see allowing you to be a Furry would be an embarrassment, right? Not just to yourself, but especially more so to them?

Well..

If they can't accept you as a Furry just in the private of your own home, than threaten to reveal your 'secret' to everyone at school, or their 'friends' that they may have. Especially work buddies.
Want it bad enough, than declare war! Make them regret trying to control you too harshly x3
 

biscuitfister

Anyone want thier biscuit fisted?
I'm gonna wear a fursuit to whichever one of them does first funeral. The look of horror on my surviving parents face will live in my heart forever.
that's just mean man. remember your parents grew up in a time when there was no internet and cell phones man. So fandoms were found out mainly through word of mouth man. the internet is weird to alot of the older generations and it can be hard for them to grasp why we (our generation) are the way we are. Just bide your time man and when your on your own man do what ever you want. just keep the peace man
 

um_pineapplez

Mage of Void, dammit.
Sounds like your parents are just being a tad overprotective. Have they seen any form of media that portrays furries as sexual deviants (i.e. the CSI episode we do not speak of, VanityFair, etc.)?
 
im so lucky my dad isn't a total asshole. but honestly just pretend like you grew out if it and stop mentioning it. parents are stubborn fucks and they won't change their minds much. also you've mentioned your parents were asshats a couple of times, i don't see why you would even mention this to them or let them see.
 

Sergei Nóhomo

Spicey Memes
Banned
that's just mean man. remember your parents grew up in a time when there was no internet and cell phones man. So fandoms were found out mainly through word of mouth man. the internet is weird to alot of the older generations and it can be hard for them to grasp why we (our generation) are the way we are. Just bide your time man and when your on your own man do what ever you want. just keep the peace man

Maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan
 

Arkuus

Member
Your folks seems like very conservative and scared people. Well, here is what I would do in your situation:

First things first: You don't need to "come out" as a furry. It isn't a sexuality or something major in your life like that. Most folks' reaction to you telling you are a furry is a direct reflection as to how you presented it to them i.e. I bet they would be ok if you presented the fandom as a nerdy hobby that won't create major changes in your life instead of showing the fandom as a lifestyle.

Second: Since your parents seems relentless, just go and tell them that you understand that they are worried about you and that you will not take more part in the fandom. You will be lying, but it won't be forever and sometimes it is for your best (i.e. there are lots of lgbtq people who hold talking about their sexuality with their homophobic families until they have economic independence from them). It's a sh*tty situation, I know, but life sometimes is a b*tch. Your parents seem to be VERY conservative and they seem not to trust in your judgemente at all, there is no way around that until you are older.

Third: Just wait until you are out on your own after you got a job, graduated in college or started doing whathever you will do for a living. When you are paying your bills you become unstoppable and even bad parents cannot hold you back from being yourself.

Again, I reiterate: That is what I would do if I was in your situation. You know yourself way better than anyone here does, so you are the fittest one here to decide what you will do.

I hope I gave some helpful insight. Feel free to message me if you want!

p.S.I: Fursuits are expensive and tailored to your body as it is now. You will grow until you are 19~20 years old, so you would outgrow a fursuit you bought now in no time. Wait until you reached your full height to get one.

p.S.II: You don't need a fursuit to enjoy the fandom!
 

Sergei Nóhomo

Spicey Memes
Banned
Your folks seems like very conservative and scared people. Well, here is what I would do in your situation:

First things first: You don't need to "come out" as a furry. It isn't a sexuality or something major in your life like that. Most folks' reaction to you telling you are a furry is a direct reflection as to how you presented it to them i.e. I bet they would be ok if you presented the fandom as a nerdy hobby that won't create major changes in your life instead of showing the fandom as a lifestyle.

Second: Since your parents seems relentless, just go and tell them that you understand that they are worried about you and that you will not take more part in the fandom. You will be lying, but it won't be forever and sometimes it is for your best (i.e. there are lots of lgbtq people who hold talking about their sexuality with their homophobic families until they have economic independence from them). It's a sh*tty situation, I know, but life sometimes is a b*tch. Your parents seem to be VERY conservative and they seem not to trust in your judgemente at all, there is no way around that until you are older.

Third: Just wait until you are out on your own after you got a job, graduated in college or started doing whathever you will do for a living. When you are paying your bills you become unstoppable and even bad parents cannot hold you back from being yourself.

Again, I reiterate: That is what I would do if I was in your situation. You know yourself way better than anyone here does, so you are the fittest one here to decide what you will do.

I hope I gave some helpful insight. Feel free to message me if you want!

p.S.I: Fursuits are expensive and tailored to your body as it is now. You will grow until you are 19~20 years old, so you would outgrow a fursuit you bought now in no time. Wait until you reached your full height to get one.

p.S.II: You don't need a fursuit to enjoy the fandom!

Nah bro saying you're a furry essentially means you like dick (~60% are gay and 12% are bi; a measly 28% are straight). So, the best way to say you like dicks, are a furry and then assert your dominance while looking the nearest pet in the eyes
 
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