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My Place in the Furry Fandom... Where is it?

Fritzy525

Member
Wow. So, this is officially my first post on this website. Honestly, I'm not sure what will happen by me writing this, but you know what? There's only one real way to find out. Anyway, this post might be a bit all over the place, but basically, I've been feeling the need to express myself.

Anyway, I've decided to try and tell my story involving the furry fandom, how it impacted me, how I became part of it, how I feel about it, etc. This is probably going to be a post where I try my best to tell the story, and anyone interested can reply with their experience being in the Furry Fandom, if you'd like. So, if you don't like reading long stories of someone's life experiences, feel free to skip over this post or something. Otherwise, here goes:

I guess I should start from the (somewhat) very beginning. I first started to feel a connection with anthropomorphic animals when I was about 9 or so. I didn't exactly exhibit furry tendencies immediately since I was born, unlike most Furries. I guess that makes me feel like an outcast even inside a whole society of outcasts. I still do, in fact. But I'll probably get to that later. So anyway, I'm guessing a big reason as to why I never started to have those tendencies because of my family. Both my mother and father are ex-military (at the time, they were fully military towards the start of my childhood). And typically, I think I was just really impressionable, since the stuff I started to like was stuff that my parents liked, so it was probably just forced onto me. I mean, I was a little kid. I doubt anyone really starts to know who they are until they get older. Ironically, some of the stuff I enjoy nowadays has something to do with stuff I was into when I was younger.

By the time I was older and starting to figure stuff out, I came across the game "Five Nights at Freddy's" (which, now that I think about it, not only sparked my love for anthropomorphism, but also my love for the horror genre). It wasn't the game itself that introduced me to anthropomorphism (obviously), it was when my naive 10-year-self went on YouTube and found FNaF animations and stuff. The ones where Freddy and the gang had actual fur and talked and acted like humans. The ones that look more like Furry animations, except the characters are from FNaF, but styled as if they were straight from a Furry comic. There was actually a specific series on YouTube that I watched the most, but unfortunately, I can't remember the name of it. And even if I did know the name, I'm betting it's long gone or something. So, yeah. That's when my anthropomorphic affinity really started. From that point on, stuff like that was always like a small hobby/pastime for me. But, for some reason, it never occurred to me to start drawing characters like that super often (I wasn't that good at drawing anyway, and I'm still not TO THIS DAY fyi).

Jumping ahead to 7th grade (And might I add, WHAT A TIME to find out that you're actually a Furry because middle school sucks, too). That's when I learned about Furries officially. It started when I was sitting with my friends at lunch. We were having a conversation involving animals, or something. I mentioned my love for animals and that's when my friend Londyn (who actually was a Furry, too, as I later found out about her) playfully teased me, suggesting I was a Furry. I honestly had no idea what that was at the time. To be honest, I didn't care about finding out, too. That is, until I was on YouTube, watching random memes and stuff. And this is where it starts to get weird, because SOMEHOW, I ended up watching a video with people wearing fursuits. And that's when I really started to become intrigued. So, what do you do when you have a question? You Google it, right? I did. I ended up reading NUMEROUS articles involving Furries, explaining what they are. And weirdly enough, I was STILL super intrigued. Then after several hours of reading articles about Furries, I was starting to get the picture. So I went to school the next day, but for some reason, I COULD NOT STOP thinking about the fandom. Then when I went home, I ended up coming across another news article. This one was somewhat different... And eventually I remember reading something from that article that I can still remember pretty well. It went something like, "Do you enjoy watching cartoons involving anthropomorphic animals? Well, you might be a Furry. Do you enjoy art and animation involving this kind of toony animation style? You could be a Furry. Have you ever felt a connection with animals, whether anthropomorphic or not? You may very well be a Furry. Sometimes, people enjoy these types of things, and don't even realize it."

And that's when it happened. Something I like to call "The Click".

Because in that very moment it finally clicked in my head: "Holy crap. I'm literally a Furry".

After I had that epiphany, the next few years were... Well, I don't even know how to describe them honestly. I also discovered my sexuality (which is a story for another time) and started to try and find my place in the fandom, which brings me to my main point about being a Furry. Because lately? I've been feeling so unsure and sad these things. I have all these questions, too. Will I ever go to a Furry Convention? How do I identify myself in the fandom? Above all, where do I belong? What's my place? If I left the fandom, would anyone even care?

Anyway... That's it, pretty much. My whole experience with the Furry Fandom in a nutshell. Anyway, I know all of that was probably a lot to process, because it sure is for me, and I wrote this post. Also, I would like to congratulate you if you just read that whole thing at once. I feel like that takes dedication. Anyway, let me know if you want to hear more stories from me, or if you want to share your experience with the fandom. I would also appreciate it if you guys would let me know what you think about my story, too. I know, it might not be the most exciting one ever so let me know if you have a better story.

I should probably stop now. I've been working on this for almost 3 hours.

Yours truly,
Fritz Fox
 

Inferndragon

Dragon Doodler with a Tail Snake
No point going to conventions if you don't have a reason to.
Conventions are only useful if you want to meet people you've already interacted online.
You aren't going to the convention for the event. You are going because of the people.

When i was younger I would grow up watching disney movies like the furry version of Robin hood and first land before time.
Characters I'd grow up watching believing they were real (like kids do).
Imaginary friends thinking a tree in my grandmother's garden is a giant dinosaur.
Believing the wind was my friend when it was just my overactive imagination.

I eventually got into World of Warcraft through a friend. Who liked to draw dragons.
Eventually learnt how to draw them from him. Then eventually I started to get obsess with them.
After going to blade edge mountains and collecting an item that turns you into a dragon whelp kind of got me into the dark path (Partially)
Quiting world of warcraft because the game wasn't that fun for me.

Just made me try to find other avenues.
Aeria games. Shin Megami Tensei Imagine.
I bought a "Garm Tail [Demon dog]" for my character... Unfortunately it was for the wrong gender.
Since i didn't want to remake my character I chose a female character.
Eventually started to dress up my character to look more "Anthromorphic overall".
That was when i started to get more obsessed with anthromorphic designs.

2010 was when I started to make my character into a dragon persona. I had a basic idea in my head.
Basic boring designs without any detail of my character.
Just a red dragon head with 2 horns...

It wasn't until 2013 that I started to call myself part of the furry community.
2016 was when i started to associate myself as a Scalie instead.

I still refused calling myself a furry infront of people though until 2018 onwards.
 

quoting_mungo

Well-Known Member
No point going to conventions if you don't have a reason to.
Conventions are only useful if you want to meet people you've already interacted online.
You aren't going to the convention for the event. You are going because of the people.
I go to cons for the event. Seeing people is nice, but even without that a good con can have plenty to offer. Whether that’s for you is individual.

If I only went to see people I already know from the Internet, I’d never leave the house. (I’m not super active on the con circuit, don’t get me wrong, but I’m sure as hell not going to a con with shitty programming to see the people.)
 
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Deleted member 160111

Guest
Why are you looking for your place? It doesn't happen. Just be yourself. Literally the only thing that unites everyone is anthropomorphic animals. Which is even less than the inhabitants of one country, if you think about it.
 

Kain

Member
You called yourself a furry.

You did it. :)

I grew up during the Disney Renaissance, so I knew a lot of anthropomorphic characters. I was also partial to them in video games. Some time after I got into Pokemon, I fell into the rabbit hole that is porn sites and that led to me being called out as a furry. From there, I watched furry videos and got into regular furry art, and eventually started to make my own.

I recently had a significant bout of depression that caused me to distance myself from a lot of what I used to know. My desire to do something made me go a cosplay con to see the fursuiters. It was the best time I've had in years! The result of that is I became more social and started following furry on a number of social media and posting more clean art. It also gave me my current desire: I want to become a fursuiter!

You do not have to be me, though. That is what I decided to do. I am a furry artist and I want to become a fursuiter.

I will say it again: If you can call yourself a furry, you already belong. *hug*
 
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I didn't really know what would happen when I joined, either, and I'm still new so I still don't know what's going to happen. I guess I don't really think about it much, I just post things quietly and see where it leads. Even kind of snuck into this forum, no intro threads, just started posting on other peoples' threads. Maybe I'm still sort of in denial, I've always been pretty secretive about these sorts of interests.
 

Eli The Rabbit

I'm just a rabbit, dude.
My "furry journey" started when, as a kid, I watched cartoons like The Looney Tunes and played video games like Crash Bandicoot and Spyro. I remember really liking the anthropomorphic characters from the many cartoons and video games that I enjoyed (and still enjoy), though I didn't know what furries were at that time. I never realized what a 'furry' was until middle school. I remember my friend telling me about magic colorful horses, and that I should watch "SMILE HD" on YouTube (viewer discretion is advised). It was at that point that I realized what a 'Brony' was (fans of My Little Pony), and I realized what a 'Furry' was shortly after. I considered myself as a Brony for a short while, before fully switching to the furry community. After spending two whole months figuring out what animal my fursona should be, I eventually made my primary fursona; Eli the Rabbit.

The way I see it, there is no such thing as a "place" in the furry fandom, and that's okay. There's no organizational structure or hierarchy; it's merely a community for people with similar interests to come together, either virtually or physically. If you like the concept of anthropomorphic animals, then congratulations; you're a furry!

From there, you can do whatever! whether it be making furry art, talking about FNAF, joining furry discords, interacting on furry forums, going to furry conventions, watching Zootopia for the 500th time, etc. etc. Just be yourself!
 

Kinguyakki

Alignment: Chaotic Stupid
Enjoy the things you like, whether it's online interactions or group meets or fursuiting for charity or buying art or making art or writing stories or reading stories. There's not a specific participation requirement, there is no certain music you have to listen to, you don't have to be a gamer, you don't have to go to cons. You do you.
 

Foxridley

A fox named Ridley
I think my furry roots go back to when I borrowed a VHS of Rock-a-Doodle (I was maybe 6 or 7) from the local library and watched it repeatedly. That really got me into the idea of turning into an animal. I went through a dragon-obsessed phase in my preteen and early teen years and came up with sort of “proto-fursona” ideas, but my next big step into furry territory didn’t come until furry territory until high school. I binged on a couple of the Sonic TV series and took kind of a liking to Tails (him having two tails and being the “smart” character caught my attention). That later led to me taking a general liking to foxes. I started looking for drawings and animations of foxes online and found stuff on DA and Newgrounds. Eventually, malware issues drove me off DA, and I later found FA.
I can’t really recall a moment of realizing I was a furry. I remember watching a series of funny Star Fox animations on Newgrounds, and the person making them commented something about most of their fans being “Star Fox fans/furries” and I thought to myself that I was neither, though at the time I didn’t know what furries were. So it had to be some time after that.
 
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Astus

Well Known Foxxo
I will answer the questions you (the OP) poses and offer my own experience and thoughts on what ones place in the furry fandom is

Will I ever go to a Furry Convention? How do I identify myself in the fandom? Above all, where do I belong? What's my place? If I left the fandom, would anyone even care?

If you want to go to a furry convention, that's up to you. I went with one friend to AC in 2016 and we literally just went to panels and looked at what's what. Didn't really interact with anyone and I still had a good time. Helped me decide that I wanted to fursuit

Your "identity" in the fandom will come with time. I'll talk a little bit about this later, but your goal in the fandom shouldn't be popularity. People I've seen will tend to be known for something within their group of friends. Find people you chill well with and you can find your niche there. Don't forget you are a person outside of the fandom too and your whole identity doesn't have to rely on just being a furry. You will belong wherever you feel right belonging too; it's going to take a little soul searching

As mentioned above, your goal shouldn't be popularity within the fandom; but if you make a good group of friends along the way then they will surely miss you if you were good to them.



When I first got into the con scene in 2016 (been scoping around the furry fandom since 2012 when I found em while writing a story with anthro characters in it), I saw all the fursuiters a few things became clear to me. Firstly, that bringing my character to life, and being able to suit would both help my creative side and my social anxiety. Secondly, that the furry fandom itself appeared to be very welcoming. Third, that I wanted to be like one of the popfurs who had people constantly stopping them; what I thought was finding my place in the fandom.

The first part of getting a fursuit took a lot of time to get done and I made sure to go with a maker I liked and had to save up all the money on a meager salary. When I eventually got them for AC 2022 let me tell ya it was a really weird experience. I personally still had the social anxiety part from before but wearing the suit helped me get the courage to be a little bit more of myself (my character) which overall helped.

For the second part I slowly realized since 2016 that the furry fandom was a bit more... Complex?... Than I previously thought. The dynamic I saw was very similar to a posh highschool with people of different groups all grouping together with smaller friend groups. The people are nice but will often have their little grudges or stronger opinions that push them apart from other groups. The hardest part of actually finding a friend group was meeting someone who was willing to bring me into a circle of people that wasn't an outlier themselves. Once I was within a cricle of friends it became easier to find with and interact with other people in those other groups who tend to seclude themselves. Furries seem to be a little wary given how others perceive them. I for one tend to not interact with people I have not met at a con or know about through someone else because of getting burned in the past.

The third and last part; the desire to be popular as a way to find my place. This was probably the best mistake I made in the furry fandom because it taught me how to be more of myself and not try to be one of those people. I love science (I do molecular neuroinflammation research and have a master's degree) and at first tried to make that basically my whole personality in the fandom. Even look on here at some of my old stuff and you'll kinda see the types of things I egadged with. Along the way I met people and became friends, went to cons, shared good and bad times with people in the fandom; and that's really when it hit me. The point of the furry fandom isn't to become popular and find a "place" within the fandom. It's to go out and experience life with a group of like minded people. You don't need to be popular or well known in the fandom; everyone doesn't need to remember your name. Your presence alone and what you did along the way will have impacted the lives of many others just in passing.


My advice for you is to go out and experience the fandom. Be it a furmeet, be it online on this forum; go out and be yourself. You don't need to find any sort of niche in the fandom, you don't need to be popular. Nobody needs to remember your name; just go out and experience life. We have limited time on this Earth. Go and do the things you enjoy doing. Maybe you find out that you didn't enjoy the fandom in the first place and that is perfectly fine too. Go out and make memories. I hope that helps to some extent xD
 
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