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Need advice (life stuff)

Xitheon

The cat's mother.
I'm moving out into a new property after spending a year with my parents, having being evicted from my last house.

I also have a small group of pets/companion animals and I'm not sure if it would be fair of me to take them away from my parent's house as the two birds I own have bonded with my mother and my dog adores my father.

I also have a snake and a ferret who both are exclusively mine, and they're coming with me, but should I leave the other animals behind as they seem happier with my mum and dad?
 

Glycanthrope

Common European Furry
Congratulations on finding a new home ! -and even more so for finding a place where they allow you to keep pets.

I'm happy to hear, how your birds and your dog have bonded with your parents. But is the feeling mutual?
Have you asked your parents how they feel about caring for your pets, for an unspecified period of time?
To me, THEY would seem like the obvious people to ask.

Do consider; you're leaving behind, not only your furry friends, but also the day-to-day responsibilities of feeding, cleaning, walking and grooming,
plus expenses. Who will cover the day-to-day expenses for food, check-ups and unexpected veterinary bills ? You or your parents?

Also, consider the age of your dog. Generally, dogs are not fond of changes to the family structure. But a young pup is more comfortable around changing dynamics than an adult one.
If your dog already has formed a bond with your father, there is a chance he may become the new "go-to human," instead of you, and you might find yourself being sidelined. Are you OK with that?

As always, pros and cons to consider, but I would suggest you go and have that chat with your parents, first of all.
 

Xitheon

The cat's mother.
Congratulations on finding a new home ! -and even more so for finding a place where they allow you to keep pets.

I'm happy to hear, how your birds and your dog have bonded with your parents. But is the feeling mutual?
Have you asked your parents how they feel about caring for your pets, for an unspecified period of time?
To me, THEY would seem like the obvious people to ask.

Do consider; you're leaving behind, not only your furry friends, but also the day-to-day responsibilities of feeding, cleaning, walking and grooming,
plus expenses. Who will cover the day-to-day expenses for food, check-ups and unexpected veterinary bills ? You or your parents?

Also, consider the age of your dog. Generally, dogs are not fond of changes to the family structure. But a young pup is more comfortable around changing dynamics than an adult one.
If your dog already has formed a bond with your father, there is a chance he may become the new "go-to human," instead of you, and you might find yourself being sidelined. Are you OK with that?

As always, pros and cons to consider, but I would suggest you go and have that chat with your parents, first of all.

I've pretty much decided by discussing with my parents that I'll keep the birds and leave the dog with my father. My mother is very good at looking after the birds but she would rather give them to a sanctuary. She doesn't want to keep them and they are a burden to her.

I have some mental health issues to deal with first, but when I'm a bit more settled I'll move the birds to my new house.

The dog, Neve, is a sweetheart but she is 5 1/2 years old and I don't want to upset her with a sudden change. She sleeps on my dad's bed so she is very bonded to him. I'll miss her but it's kinder this way.

Thanks for the advice.
 
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